Oh fuck, I'm so very sorry to hear that. btw there is a 'curse cancer' thread but fuck anyone who holds this thread against you.
― ceci n'est pas une witty dn (Schlafsack), Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:27 (1 year ago) Permalink
mark e, I am so sorry you and your wife are facing this. I know a few people who have had some or all of their stomach removed, for various reasons - each has certain foods that aren't processed well and so those are avoided, but digestion starts with chewing and nutrients are absorbed in the small intestine. One friend takes an additional enzyme with each meal, but the others eat smaller meals more frequently. They all are able to still enjoy alcohol, though I'm sure that can vary. See if you can find a support group locally or on-line that can help with the questions/concerns you will both be confronting. I wish your wife a rapid return to health and strength.
― Jaq, Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:52 (1 year ago) Permalink
while i understand and appreciate the concerns, can i just state the following : today is a great great] day.the surgery went well, my wife is ok (as far as i know), and that is a massive, repeat massive thrill-buzz.oh, and while red wine is not the answer to most of our daily stresses it can form part of our occasional parental release .. (i would prefer a very loud listen-n-dance session to kylie, but hey, cant have everythintg ! )
― mark e, Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:59 (1 year ago) Permalink
others eat smaller meals more frequently. They all are able to still enjoy alcohol, though I'm sure that can vary.
have heard this from others.only time will tell.
― mark e, Thursday, 11 August 2011 00:28 (1 year ago) Permalink
Fuck cancer indeed, so many of my relatives are dead from or are have contracted some form of cancer.
― Super Villains With Drum Machines (MintIce), Thursday, 11 August 2011 13:39 (1 year ago) Permalink
My paternal grandmother had her stomach removed for the same reason back in the 1960s. Although her meal size was reduced, she still very much enjoyed food and drink; one of the first things she taught my brother and me when we used to go and visit as wee lads was how to make a "proper" gin and tonic for her. She lived until she was 90.
I really hope your wife can continue to enjoy life in a similar spirit, and that she's making a fast and full recovery from the op.
― that mustardless plate (Bill A), Wednesday, 17 August 2011 12:01 (1 year ago) Permalink
cheers bill.cant believe that its only 7 days since surgery given that yesterday she was looking so good, and up and walking (aka "thank f*ck for the nhs").and yes, the advise seems to be that she can eat-n-drink whatever. there may be some food types that may cause issue, but hopefully, the main impact will be that meal times will be a lot more relaxed as opposed to gobble-and-go.
― mark e, Wednesday, 17 August 2011 12:06 (1 year ago) Permalink
I guess it must not be too major to have your stomach removed since lots of people get their stomach removed who have a gastric bypass. I mean not too major compared to having your pancreas removed or your colon and getting an ostomy or something. I hope it goes well, I'm sure you will adapt in time and you will be just fine. SOrry to hear it
― I love obscure members of the Athrotheiria mammal genus and... (Latham Green), Wednesday, 17 August 2011 13:34 (1 year ago) Permalink
My grandfather is in the last stage of leukemia. I am trying to keep in mind he had a long and healthy life so far. But given that his life wasn't too great, it's difficult...
― nathom, Friday, 13 January 2012 13:51 (1 year ago) Permalink
exactly one year on and shit gets raised to a new level of emotional chaos.
we weren't even able to get away for 7 days for some well deserved family time without a mad midnight 250 mile dash to a&e.
oh, and all the positivity and hope i displayed earlier in this thread proved to be fucking worthless.
outcome post chemo/surgery : stage 4. terminal. no more treatment.
we currently live in waiting rooms dreading the test results.
― mark e, Friday, 6 April 2012 20:47 (1 year ago) Permalink
i'm really sorry, mark. my best wishes and support to you and your loved ones. and fuck cancer.
― dayo, Friday, 6 April 2012 21:13 (1 year ago) Permalink
mark, I'm so sorry. fuck cancer.
― that mustardless plate (Bill A), Friday, 6 April 2012 22:29 (1 year ago) Permalink
I am at a loss for words. I... I wish I could take some of the pain away. Fuck FUCK FUCK cancer. I am so so sorry.
― Nathalie (stevienixed), Saturday, 7 April 2012 13:51 (1 year ago) Permalink
How terrible. I wish you love. Fuck cancer.
― World Congress of Itch (Dr Morbius), Saturday, 7 April 2012 14:07 (1 year ago) Permalink
Mark, I'm really, really sorry. My best wishes to you and your family.
― God, Music and Romeo and Juliet (DJP), Saturday, 7 April 2012 14:17 (1 year ago) Permalink
Echoing the above. Utterly terrible news.
― Ned Raggett, Saturday, 7 April 2012 14:18 (1 year ago) Permalink
emsley clan : -1
cancer scoreboard : +1
― mark e, Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:27 (1 year ago) Permalink
Mark, I'm so sorry; my condolences to you and your family.
― I'M THAT POSTA, AAAAAAAAAH (DJP), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:29 (1 year ago) Permalink
oh Mark I am so sorry. sending you love and support in this time.
― cosi fan whitford (underrated aerosmith bootlegs I have owned), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:31 (1 year ago) Permalink
echoing the above. my sincere condolences to all of you
― dayo, Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:35 (1 year ago) Permalink
A hug and kiss for you, Mark.
― Exile in lolville (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:37 (1 year ago) Permalink
― dayo, Thursday, April 26, 2012 8:35 AM (1 minute ago)
^^^ So sorry, Mark. Fuck cancer.
― improvised explosive advice (WmC), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:39 (1 year ago) Permalink
Sending you love and the tiniest lightening of this burden. I'm so sorry.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:40 (1 year ago) Permalink
i'm so sorry mark.
― diafiyhm (darraghmac), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:42 (1 year ago) Permalink
Horrible news, very sorry to hear this, good thoughts to you and family Mark.
― ooooiiiioooooooooooooooaaaaaaaaoooooh un - bi - leevable! (LocalGarda), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:46 (1 year ago) Permalink
ta for the wired tlc ..
this just goes to prove that even in this day and age of techno miracles, in the majority of cases, the powers that be really dont have a grasp on this evil disease.
we were told back in december that there was a good chance of 12 months of settled life.
to say the last 4 months have been a living hell of health related shyte would be an understatement.
we have no let up from the hospital/a&e chaos, so in some ways, i'm glad that she is now no longer suffering, but damn, its heavy on those of us left behind.
― mark e, Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:49 (1 year ago) Permalink
how horrible, Mark. RIP, & I hope you too are able to find some peace in this.
― Euler, Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:50 (1 year ago) Permalink
mark i'm so sorry for you and your family's loss, i hope you all get all the love and support you need
― seapunk run. run punk run! (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:55 (1 year ago) Permalink
Oh Mark, I'm so sorry to hear that. Wishing you all the strength in the world over the next few days and weeks.
― btw didn't i braek ur heart (NickB), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:57 (1 year ago) Permalink
That is horrible to hear, take care of yourself, man.
― Andrew Farrell, Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:58 (1 year ago) Permalink
Also: fuck cancer.
― Andrew Farrell, Thursday, 26 April 2012 14:06 (1 year ago) Permalink
Oh my God. I am so so sorry to read this. I can't imagine how horrible the past year must have been for you. My best wishes go out to you and your family.
― wolf kabob (ENBB), Thursday, 26 April 2012 14:10 (1 year ago) Permalink
― Ned Raggett, Thursday, 26 April 2012 14:27 (1 year ago) Permalink
mark, I'm very sorry. words on a message board don't do it justice.
I switched oncologists recently, going to the big medical center named after one of the Rockefellers. My new guy is the teacher who taught my two old guys.
We went down the list, talking about the medications I had been given, what my diet could be, drawing a DNA helix on the paper of the examination chair and saying 45 minutes of exercise based on my age x 5 - 2 or something. That last one, "What does running up and down stairs have to do with cancer?" made him literally stroke his beard and say "We don't know. Everything I've told you is basically an educated guess at best."
Now, this guy is pretty educated, but every honest doctor would be the first to tell you that plugging tubes of poison into people's veins and blasting them with radiation is witchcraft at best.
― pplains, Thursday, 26 April 2012 14:51 (1 year ago) Permalink
i have an uncle who is a highly qualified doctor in canada - and he basically told me this back last year, so while we were getting the 'we will cure you' story from various folks here, i've been quietly preparing for this outcome due to the insider information from him.
still, doesn't make dealing with the fallout any easier ..
good luck with your battle pplains - you have my heartfelt wishes and hopes for a more successful outcome.
for us, the big reveal was the discovery of an evil lump weeks after the completion of premium grade chemo that she underwent as that confirmed just how aggressive the fucker was.
(uncle confirmed that she got the best that was available .. so no complaints on that score)
― mark e, Thursday, 26 April 2012 15:08 (1 year ago) Permalink
Heartfelt condolences, mark. I'm so sorry that things turned out this way.
― that mustardless plate (Bill A), Thursday, 26 April 2012 19:03 (1 year ago) Permalink
i'm so very sorry, mark.
― estela, Thursday, 26 April 2012 19:13 (1 year ago) Permalink
Found out yesterday that mother in-law likely has pancreatic cancer. She got sick the day after we left for vacation, but apparently her doctor's been all kind of amazing and has run 6 months worth of tests in 2 weeks. From what I understand they think it's still in early stages, and possibly slow-growing though I'm still trying to make sense of everything so I don't exactly know all the details.
the worst part is that her Mum died of cancer when she was quite young, and her brother died of pancreatic cancer a couple of years ago, so it's just like AAAAAGGGGH FUCK YOU CANCER SERIOUSLY
the gallows-humor lighter side is that because of a blocked bile duct she now has a major case of jaundice. She said over the phone that she was pretty green, but when she answered the door mr Veg and I were like, 'Whoa. you weren't kidding.' Wicked Witch of the West level neon green. It's really weird!
We visited with her yesterday - she's very scared, tired, etc, but still very much herself. I love her so much...it just fucks me up that she's dealing with all of this. Ugh!
― Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 30 April 2012 20:17 (1 year ago) Permalink
AAAAAGGGGH FUCK YOU CANCER SERIOUSLY
hope they caught the fucker in time peppermint.
― mark e, Monday, 30 April 2012 20:30 (1 year ago) Permalink
I know. I'd like to have her around for a lot longer :)
― Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 30 April 2012 20:38 (1 year ago) Permalink
btw, my condolences to you, mark...a big DOUBLE FUCK YOU CANCER
― Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 30 April 2012 20:42 (1 year ago) Permalink
borderline alcoholism + v. loud music helps.
― mark e, Monday, 30 April 2012 20:48 (1 year ago) Permalink
<3 <3 <3
― Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 30 April 2012 20:58 (1 year ago) Permalink
my mother in law was diagnosed with terminal cancer on Friday. Somehow the fucking doctor she has been getting x-rays and cat scans from for the last five years completely missed the huge tumor crushing her heart. My wife had to take an emergency red-eye last night and fortunately made it home before her mom died. now they're waiting for more tests.
fuck you, incompetent doctors, fuck you cancer, etc.
― sleeve, Monday, 30 April 2012 21:31 (1 year ago) Permalink
Somehow the fucking doctor she has been getting x-rays and cat scans from for the last five years completely missed the huge tumor crushing her heart.
due to the time, i am assuming you are US based pepper, cos this scarily similar to our situation.
3 years of 'problems' that were ignored cos it would have cost a few quid to send bh for a CT scan ..
so, yes fuck you incomp. doctors and fuck you tory policy to make doctors even more important in the decision making process.
once bh was escalated to the next level of care then it has to be said, the care was absolutely fantastic, but the fact of the matter is that he problems were ignored by the the GPs for 3 years .. and the GPs defence : 'bh is too young to get stomach cancer'
ok, time for more wine ..
― mark e, Monday, 30 April 2012 21:39 (1 year ago) Permalink
hang in there, also check out the revive on the Steve Albini thread, very inspiring.
― sleeve, Tuesday, 1 May 2012 00:36 (1 year ago) Permalink
I was told just today that my aunt was in the final stages of her cancer, so I feel you. It's amazing how much money + resources gets pumped into research and how it's still such a crapshoot of who survives and who doesn't.
― musicfanatic, Tuesday, 1 May 2012 00:47 (1 year ago) Permalink
Here's the link. It's about a musician with terminal cancer staring the fucker down until the very end.
― pplains, Tuesday, 1 May 2012 02:20 (1 year ago) Permalink
pp i had no idea, i always avoid this thread. rooting for you.
― like Joe Pasquale and Gandhi (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 1 May 2012 06:18 (1 year ago) Permalink
same here PP. And Mark e,Sleeve,musicfanatic good luck to you guys too. Sorry to hear about all this. Good vibes to you all.
― Algerian Goalkeeper, Tuesday, 1 May 2012 08:12 (1 year ago) Permalink
The 3-year old daughter of friends of ours was just diagnosed with leukemia. It feels perverse to say that the good news is that 80% of patients treated for the type she has stay in remission.
― Josh in Chicago, Friday, 8 March 2013 04:42 (2 months ago) Permalink
My friend, who is a friend of the family too, has breast cancer that's spread to the lymph glands. She has a toddler son. Fucking hell.
― ljubljana, Saturday, 13 April 2013 03:34 (1 month ago) Permalink
Ms Mac's mother goes in for a week-long stay today, surgery wed or thurs. Early detection, doctors v optimistic, but yknow, fuck cancer. Her dad's in remission two years but still dealing with aftereffects so doublefuck cancer.
― the gowls are not what they seem (darraghmac), Tuesday, 23 April 2013 10:46 (1 month ago) Permalink
Good luck with that dmac. My mother had to have a mastectomy two weeks ago, but other than an infected wound, she seems to be in the clear for now. Hope things go well for you too - if the doctors are optimistic, tap into that shit I say.
― dschinghis kraan (NickB), Tuesday, 23 April 2013 10:53 (1 month ago) Permalink
thinking good thoughts for her, dmac
― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Tuesday, 23 April 2013 15:53 (1 month ago) Permalink
12 months on.....
just how do you mark such an occasion.
both of my boys are taking the day off school.
we are going to the place where the ashes were spread, then going for a lunch together ..
both boys are showing little need to anything more.
do i make them be 'more respectful' of the situation, or, do i allow them to move on and not dwell on the past like their old man ...
after the death comes so much stuff that you never anticipate in your normal day to day world.
― mark e, Thursday, 25 April 2013 22:21 (4 weeks ago) Permalink
much love mark
― markers, Thursday, 25 April 2013 22:22 (4 weeks ago) Permalink
do i make them be 'more respectful' of the situation
What would you see as the benefit of this option?
― Andrew Farrell, Thursday, 25 April 2013 22:31 (4 weeks ago) Permalink
exactly, that's my point ..
a quiet day together, just hanging out/going to the place where the ashes are/pub lunch/talking re memories etc = perfection .. any more and i think, it becomes too intense and unnecessary.but given that this is my first time re this kind of groove, i worry that my laidback attitude could be seen as not doing enough ...
hence the worry/guilt.
― mark e, Thursday, 25 April 2013 22:43 (4 weeks ago) Permalink
The kids reactions will change when they're older. For now, do just what you are inclined to do, and no more. No sane person would ever fault you. The first year is a milestone, but not the only one.
― Plasmon, Thursday, 25 April 2013 22:57 (4 weeks ago) Permalink
i think you're wise to let them set the tempo. plasmon otm, it will change with age.
― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 25 April 2013 22:59 (4 weeks ago) Permalink
An old friend and totally sweet guy just died of pancreatic cancer. He'd been sick for 4 years, tried everything he could. He really, really wanted to live. He was only 52. Another good friend, in his 40s, found out about two months ago he has brain cancer. He's already had surgery and is finishing up a round of chemo and radiation. His hair is falling out. He just got married last year.
Love and peace to all.
― something of an astrological coup (tipsy mothra), Thursday, 25 April 2013 23:48 (4 weeks ago) Permalink
"He was only 52"
fuck fuck fuck.
cancer is evil.
so sorry to hear of your troubles tipsy ....
i genuinely believe that the evil lump has moved down a generation.
i dont recall any of my friends parents dying of cancer when i was a kid, and yet, my youngest (9), is perfectly understanding of the situation ...
― mark e, Friday, 26 April 2013 00:33 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
so horrible, so sad to hear about that. Hope you are doing okay.
― I will forlornly return to my home planet soon (dandydonweiner), Friday, 26 April 2013 01:27 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
I am rly feeling the sentiment of this thread lately
― hoda nkotb (Stevie D(eux)), Friday, 26 April 2013 02:15 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
I have a friend in Atlanta who had cancer a few years ago, and then beat it and got better, and then it came back, and then he went to the hospital, and then he fucking died. I found this out because I realized we hadn't talked on Facebook in a few weeks (which we did pretty regularly) and found a wall full of RIP Kyle messages. I'd known him thru online for years and got to stay with him for like a week when I was travelling a few summers ago; we totally hit it off and he had the coolest little dude of a son and an awesome wife and I was planning a trip back down to Atlanta this summer to see him.
This is the second friend (like not acquaintance but actual *friend*) of mine to die this year. It is seriously bumming me the fuck out.
― hoda nkotb (Stevie D(eux)), Friday, 26 April 2013 02:20 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
fuck all of this shit so fucking hard, what the fuck
― hoda nkotb (Stevie D(eux)), Friday, 26 April 2013 02:22 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
tipsy and mark and I and y'all should go forge a new plane of reality where cancer is not permitted to exist.
― hoda nkotb (Stevie D(eux)), Friday, 26 April 2013 02:25 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
Aside from something happening to my children, the cancer coming back is the negative thing I think about the most. "He beat it, got better, got it again and died." That's a common refrain.
My oncologist says if this happens again the same way, he's going to take out the whole thing instead of waiting around for a third time. I don't know what to think of that.
I totally hear you, Steve. I remember that day, sitting on the throne at work, reading the obituaries and goddam, the hell is there a picture of Jonathan in there for? Everyone has those friends that after awhile, you only see every so often, but you don't expect the friendship to end on Page 4B.
And I hear you too, Mark. It's just that there's not a damn thing i can think of to say to you right now. No one will ever replace her, but there are people all over the world with thoughts of you and your family in mind. Who knows if that means anything, but there's that.
― pplains, Friday, 26 April 2013 02:40 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
― hoda nkotb (Stevie D(eux)), Thursday, April 25, 2013 9:25 PM (1 hour ago) Bookmark
that is a genuinely really beautiful thought and i hope you guys can make this happen in a place large enough for the rest of us to live in as well. this shit scares me! kudos to anyone with the personal fortitude to live through it on a super personal basis.
― and that sounds like a gong-concert (La Lechera), Friday, 26 April 2013 04:18 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
Until now, ppl under the age of 40 getting cancer has been, like, a challenging but ultimately non-threatening thing in my mind. Like, sure, you *could* die from it but you are young! healthy! etc! of course you're going to get better; why wouldn't you? Apparently that's not quite the case.
― hoda nkotb (Stevie D(eux)), Friday, 26 April 2013 14:53 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
Oh, no. While cancer is mostly a disease of aging (eg. the median age of breast cancer diagnosis is 61), neoplasms in the young are more aggressive (the proliferating stem cells are more active, start with longer telomeres, and respond less to normal senescence/apoptosis signals).
Most cancers are seen in the aged, where they have been slowly doubling and possibly metastasizing from to other tissues for around a decade before they reach a diagnosable sizes of about a millimeter. That long run up is one reason clinical trials of breast and prostate screening in older people has such disappointing results (screen 2500 women yearly for a decade, terrify 1000 with a false positive, needlessly treat 5-15, to prevent one breast cancer death), and some guidelines are a-changing. The screening catches too many cancers that won't ultimately kill, and can't detect the more malignant cancers (that have commonly already metastasized) early enough.
To be diagnosed in the young, any cancer must have had a much faster doubling rate, and is naturally way more malignant.
recommendations about breast and prost
n the elderly, cancer generally has been present, growing exponentially at a slow doubling rate of around once per 90 days, for over a decade, doubling roughly once every 90 days, before reaching diagnosable size of about a millimeter.
The young haven't
Its one reason the ACS has been changing its recommendations regarding breast and prostate screening (it doesn't catch the really malignant cancers early enough, and catches too many of the ones
― Me So Hormetic (Sanpaku), Friday, 26 April 2013 16:24 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
Ignore the last 4 lines there. Forgot to scroll down.
well, for all the concern, that was a lovely day.me and the lads went to the place where we spread the ashes .. we sat/chatted and then walked through some gorgeous countryside.then headed to a lovely pub for food etc.both boys were chatty and relaxed.best day i have had in a long long time.could not have wished for a better way to celebrate the life of the person that created my perfect life.
― mark e, Friday, 26 April 2013 22:18 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
Good to hear, sir. Best as ever, always.
― Ned Raggett, Friday, 26 April 2013 22:31 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
hi mark, happy for you that it went so well, but at the same time it's heartbreaking that such a day ever came to pass for you. sounds like you got a real feeling of togetherness out of it, glad that there are some very real positives for you to find solace in.
― dschinghis kraan (NickB), Friday, 26 April 2013 22:42 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
sorry if that sounds a bit overfamiliar btw, but i think that anyone who reads this thread knows what a nightmare you've been through and is rooting for you and yours for the future
― dschinghis kraan (NickB), Friday, 26 April 2013 22:45 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
re togetherness : that's actually spot on nickb ..
after all the evilness of the lump, it has taken a while to come to realise such simple truths, but hey, would like to think we turned a corner today.
well, i most certainly did.
xpost : behave re your concerns re being overfamiliar ! i would not post here if i were worried re such things ..
― mark e, Friday, 26 April 2013 22:49 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
Surgery over, drs happy, results whenever, we'll take the interim as a happy gift
Best wishes mark. Survive as a unit before worrying about meta consequences im
― The Finnish Question........after question......after question....a (darraghmac), Friday, 26 April 2013 23:34 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
genuinely hope things go to plan ..
― mark e, Friday, 26 April 2013 23:53 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
With genuine admiration with yr having dealt with what you have
― The Finnish Question........after question......after question....a (darraghmac), Saturday, 27 April 2013 00:00 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
Mark e, best wishes to you and your boys. I'm so glad your day was nice. I have learned that celebrating a person can feel wonderful, even when their absence still hurts. My sister's funeral was one of the most positive experiences of my life, in addition to being the most terrible. A very strange mix of feelings.
Have resolved to volunteer for the Cancer Society when my babies are a bit bigger. They were a wonderful source of support for my family through everything, and anyone going through this shit deserves as much help from as many people as possible.
― franny glass, Sunday, 28 April 2013 00:53 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
A couple of Mondays ago I learned a very close family friend, Julie, (she lived with us when I was growing up and was like a second mom) died from the lung cancer she had been fighting for about 6 months. About half an hour before I got that news I learned my best friend's nephew, who has been fighting leukemia for 10 years (first diagnosed when he was 5), made a completely unexpected recovery shortly after the doctors had finally admitted defeat. So it was an evening of oh my god Noah is well there is hope yayayayay!!!! to oh my god Julie is dead.
― (from a bottle you dicks) (sunny successor), Wednesday, 1 May 2013 19:02 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
A funny story about Noah - when he got the all clear all he wanted to do was get his drivers license . So his dad took him to get his learners permit. First thing he did? Drove the car straight into a wall. He was fine of course but damn chill Noah.
― (from a bottle you dicks) (sunny successor), Wednesday, 1 May 2013 19:05 (3 weeks ago) Permalink
All clear iirc
― i gave ten pounds and all i got was a lousy * (darraghmac), Friday, 10 May 2013 19:58 (1 week ago) Permalink
oh that's good news dm, glad to hear it
― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 10 May 2013 19:59 (1 week ago) Permalink
― Ned Raggett, Friday, 10 May 2013 20:12 (1 week ago) Permalink
I'm dutifully assisting a mother-in-law's request that she receive home care through the late stages of her cancer even though it means mopping up stomach acid from g-tube holes and changing a diaper. Every time we bundle her up and take her to hospital for some new complication she seems ready to be admitted to palliative, which would be an enormous relief and a huge benefit to her health instead of having her cared for by her talentless children. Then, they apply the right cream and/or install a new thing and she "rallies", imagines she'll be walking again by the next morning and we're lifting her back into the front seat, taking her home. Happily she's still got her sense of humour and it's pretty easy to get a smile out of her even in the worst of times. Tough lady.
― flamboyant goon tie included, Tuesday, 14 May 2013 16:58 (1 week ago) Permalink
She died yesterday. Happily she settled down and didn't keep up with the Unwise Rushing Around and died peacefully and intact instead of some rupturing sepsis bullshit. Lots of family here. I can't get out of bed. I was only looking after her two days a week but my bf was doing it full time, a superhero.
― flamboyant goon mayor denuded (flamboyant goon tie included), Saturday, 18 May 2013 15:36 (5 days ago) Permalink
I'm so sorry to hear that. my thoughts are with both of you. <3
― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Saturday, 18 May 2013 16:13 (5 days ago) Permalink
Best indeed to all, and my deep condolences.
― Ned Raggett, Saturday, 18 May 2013 16:30 (5 days ago) Permalink
Grisly but lol: my favourite cousin, a nurse, 70, remarked "happily we don't have to worry about a drawn-out cancer with ~you~. You Palletts are gifted at dying. Aneurysm *pow*! Heart attack *pow*! Out like a light! Very respectful." <3
― flamboyant goon mayor denuded (flamboyant goon tie included), Saturday, 18 May 2013 16:49 (5 days ago) Permalink
Thanks for the kind words. Feeling stunned but ok. Worried bf will crash next week so I'm making sure he's got massages and madeleines
― flamboyant goon mayor denuded (flamboyant goon tie included), Saturday, 18 May 2013 16:57 (5 days ago) Permalink
both v essential
― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Saturday, 18 May 2013 16:59 (5 days ago) Permalink
My condolences, goon.
― A deeper shade of lol (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 18 May 2013 17:01 (5 days ago) Permalink
condolences to you and yours, dear fgti.
― ballin' from Maine to Mexico (Dr Morbius), Saturday, 18 May 2013 19:03 (5 days ago) Permalink
― um, airhead (darraghmac), Saturday, 18 May 2013 19:44 (5 days ago) Permalink