I'm not sure.
― roxymuzak, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:34 (sixteen years ago) link
no.
― dan selzer, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:35 (sixteen years ago) link
"You're so cute." They hate that, right?
― roxymuzak, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:36 (sixteen years ago) link
"You look really cute today."
What do you want to be called? Handsome? Beautiful? Sexy?
― roxymuzak, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:37 (sixteen years ago) link
they also hate being called "sweet". they think it means you are calling them a pussy.
― bell_labs, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:37 (sixteen years ago) link
don't like cute but i'll take 'cutey'
xp uh not like as a 1st choice tho
― gff, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:37 (sixteen years ago) link
if I'm deemed cute enough to get naked with then I can deal
― will, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:38 (sixteen years ago) link
I'll take any of those adjectives and treat them as compliments, why not?
― Michael White, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:40 (sixteen years ago) link
Cute/sweet are great to hear
― dell, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:42 (sixteen years ago) link
just as long as they call me
― carne asada, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:43 (sixteen years ago) link
I'd rather someone made me a sandwich.
― dan m, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:44 (sixteen years ago) link
Ha! I would hate, hate, hate to be called 'cute'. My sperm count would drop by 50%. I would interpret it as code for 'you are not remotely sexy, but I do think you're funny, like a goofy brother'.
― moley, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:44 (sixteen years ago) link
Fave compliment from a woman for me would probably be 'You handsome devil, you make me think bad, wrong thoughts'. I'm getting myself worked up just thinking about it.
― moley, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:46 (sixteen years ago) link
i would be fine with bein cute especially if its a precursor to gettin laid--do people really find it that threatening to their masculinity?
― max, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:46 (sixteen years ago) link
i guess it depends on how the girl means it--"cute" as in "lets bone" vs. "cute" as in "youre like a 3rd-grader"
most girls i know use "cute" to mean the former but ill accept that others might mean the latter
― max, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:47 (sixteen years ago) link
"you're funny" = ok "you look funny" = not ok
― StanM, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:47 (sixteen years ago) link
Here's the context with which I associate the word 'cute':
'Erm, sorry, Jane, for my behaviour last night.'
'You mean the way you said you'd had a crush on me for seven years and could I ever look at you in a sexual way? Don't worry about it. You were so cute!'
I wouldn't mind being called 'swell'. Do Americans still say that?
― moley, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:49 (sixteen years ago) link
I used to hate being called cute until I thought about the girls to whom I applied the word "cute." They were all girls I wanted to bone.
― Bnad, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:50 (sixteen years ago) link
At the lake.
yeah i mean "cute" when it means "goofy/childish/earnest" is a sort of cutting compliment, but i know a ton of girls who mean "cute" as "hot" or even "goofy/childish/earnest/hot"
― max, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:52 (sixteen years ago) link
Ah, well fair enough then. Ultimately I don't care what a girl calls me as long as she calls me.
― moley, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:53 (sixteen years ago) link
yeah w/ guys it seems to be used more in reference to behavior/personality than looks. i don't mind being called cute by my girlfriend but if a stranger or acquaintance said i looked cute, i wouldn't be insulted so much as confused, because i'm not.
― Alex in Baltimore, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:55 (sixteen years ago) link
Being neurotic about receiving compliments is most definitely NOT cute.
― libcrypt, Friday, 29 February 2008 19:56 (sixteen years ago) link
Do guys really not like being called sweet?!
― roxymuzak, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:00 (sixteen years ago) link
There is something infantilizing, and therefore desexualizing, about being called "cute"...
http://www.lrb.co.uk/v26/n08/haus01_.html
― Gavin, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:01 (sixteen years ago) link
Mike's "milk" is like the sweetest thing ever. You should totally try it.
No. (xp)
― libcrypt, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:02 (sixteen years ago) link
Hahahahhahha. Funny, that's more or less how I feel about it, too!
― Laurel, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:02 (sixteen years ago) link
"How does this look?" "Cute!" "Fuck, I gotta change."
― Laurel, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:03 (sixteen years ago) link
God forbid anyone should mess with a man's image of his sexuality! Women, on the other hand....
― libcrypt, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:03 (sixteen years ago) link
AskMen
It has feminine and infantile overtones, and so can be read as half-assed or dismissive, even if you don't mean it that way - I probably don't feel strongly about people I think are 'cute', and being thought of that way may not do it for me. If you mean something more by it, and don't want to use a stronger word, you could use stronger intonation that makes clear that the word is somewhat euphemistic. 'Sweet' is stronger, but can be even more dismissive if you don't really mean it.
Xps
― gabbneb, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:04 (sixteen years ago) link
askmen... otm???
― sleep, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:05 (sixteen years ago) link
best compliment i ever got was when a girl said i was an 'amazing piece of ass' at a party, guys dont get objectified enough in my experience
― deej, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:05 (sixteen years ago) link
really, who cares what men "like"
― bell_labs, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:06 (sixteen years ago) link
I enjoyed that article.
― moley, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:06 (sixteen years ago) link
i see you take to the HRC model of negotiation
― deej, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:06 (sixteen years ago) link
xp
― deej, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:07 (sixteen years ago) link
I also agree that it's better for behavior than appearance, but I might not like it for behavior, and I could take it as complimentary re looks if from someone with much greater aesthetic sense.
― gabbneb, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:07 (sixteen years ago) link
lol bell_labs dont h8 men
― sleep, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:08 (sixteen years ago) link
I don't mind having a cute ass, but being a cute person? Not so much.
― Aimless, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:08 (sixteen years ago) link
what do women mean when they call a guy 'cute'
― deej, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:10 (sixteen years ago) link
"women"
― Laurel, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:10 (sixteen years ago) link
womyn?
― sleep, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:12 (sixteen years ago) link
Though I think you can be infantilized and still sexualized, as long as you are objectified. Men, particularly str8s, are less into that for obv cultural reasons
― Gavin, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:12 (sixteen years ago) link
That's weird, because str8 women are totally into it.
― Laurel, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:13 (sixteen years ago) link
I fucking hate being called "cute" because I am not 11.
― HI DERE, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:14 (sixteen years ago) link
No, that's not the issue with "sweet" -- I think "sweet" more often cuts back to the near-universal young-man moment where you make some big gesture of adoration to someone you're pining for and she says "oh, that's so ... that's really ... really sweet of you."
― nabisco, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:15 (sixteen years ago) link
A puppy is cute; I am hot.
― Dr Morbius, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:16 (sixteen years ago) link
I'm with morbs!
― El Tomboto, Friday, 29 February 2008 20:17 (sixteen years ago) link
I always say my bf is a dead set spunk. He says he prefers 'handsome' but they mean the same thing to me. I don't think he'd like to be called cute if it referred to his appearance... it wouldn't fit with his bloke-y self-image. He IS cute though.
― gem, Friday, 7 March 2008 09:18 (sixteen years ago) link
emily d thinks you are a crepe for that stunt you pulled on youtube!
xpost
― roxymuzak, Friday, 7 March 2008 15:15 (sixteen years ago) link
haha you finally found it!
― ken c, Friday, 7 March 2008 15:18 (sixteen years ago) link
I found it as soon as you did it, it was my video!
― roxymuzak, Friday, 7 March 2008 15:20 (sixteen years ago) link
I like "rakish," even though I imagine in the intended meaning of the word, you could start a fight with it. It has a feeling about it of "handsome devil," but I think it was once supposed to mean something more like, "You are the kind of disgusting monkey who would violate the elderly and not even wash up afterwards."
M White OTM about "scoundrel."
― kenan, Friday, 7 March 2008 15:50 (sixteen years ago) link
haha i didn't know it notifies you!
― ken c, Friday, 7 March 2008 21:10 (sixteen years ago) link
i was just trying to make her feel better
is stubble cute
― El Tomboto, Friday, 7 March 2008 21:11 (sixteen years ago) link
or rakish
If you can use your beard as a rake, it's probably not cute.
― Michael White, Friday, 7 March 2008 21:25 (sixteen years ago) link
that's some kind of AAD lol isn't it
― El Tomboto, Friday, 7 March 2008 21:26 (sixteen years ago) link
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/portal/graphics/2007/10/02/beard.jpg
― El Tomboto, Friday, 7 March 2008 21:27 (sixteen years ago) link
Looks pretty convenient for holding napkins.
― Michael White, Friday, 7 March 2008 21:28 (sixteen years ago) link
he hides the microfilm in it
― El Tomboto, Friday, 7 March 2008 21:29 (sixteen years ago) link
You would say that, wouldn't you?
― Michael White, Friday, 7 March 2008 21:34 (sixteen years ago) link
are boners cute?
― ken c, Saturday, 8 March 2008 11:35 (sixteen years ago) link
I like being called cute, mainly because I ain't.
― Mister Craig, Saturday, 8 March 2008 18:39 (sixteen years ago) link
Asking this because I've just seen the Stuart Leevid of him performing in scotland and him called the crowd 'scotch' and it being a big deal, is it like called an American a 'yank', or an English person a 'limey' (ie its dehumanising and vaguely offensive, but possible to use it in banter between friends) or is it really offensive and not cool, like referring to a German person as a 'Kraut' or worse (don't really want to type quasi racial nationalistic slurs on here, even in the context of meta question about such terms)
Thoughts!
― Franz Biberkopf, Sunday, 27 March 2011 19:37 (thirteen years ago) link
Yes. But mostly in reference looks. Sometimes for what you do.
― bamcquern, Sunday, 27 March 2011 22:18 (thirteen years ago) link
TO looks
I called a guy I know/like cute a while back and he went off at me! He said "dont ever call me that, it's so INSULTING". I'm like... uhhh.. okayyy. :|
― Borads of Candida (Trayce), Sunday, 27 March 2011 22:47 (thirteen years ago) link
i told a fwb "you are so precocious, it's adorable" - but that was to deter him from being a dick to a mutual friend.
― sarahel, Sunday, 27 March 2011 22:53 (thirteen years ago) link
he did not realize he was being a dick and got mad at me, and then screwed up an 80s pop culture reference.
― sarahel, Sunday, 27 March 2011 22:56 (thirteen years ago) link
woof absent context my post abt HRC upthread seems like a total dick post. maybe it wasnt great w/ context but it seems worse w/ time
― they reminisce over dayo (D-40), Sunday, 27 March 2011 23:00 (thirteen years ago) link
love being called cute
― nope (absolutely clean glasses), Sunday, 27 March 2011 23:01 (thirteen years ago) link
this was a guy who bragged about his first instrument being hammered dulcimer at age 5.
― sarahel, Sunday, 27 March 2011 23:02 (thirteen years ago) link
yah i like being called cuet now
― they reminisce over dayo (D-40), Sunday, 27 March 2011 23:04 (thirteen years ago) link
if my first instrument had been hammered dulcimer at age 5 i would brag my life away tbh, that is way cool. i mean, ok, all that really says is 'my parents are obnoxiously indulgent' but when i was a small child i was totally fascinated by the cimbalom and that would have been my absolute dream.
i told a male friend he was adorable last week, he seemed to take it well.
― c sharp major, Monday, 28 March 2011 07:29 (thirteen years ago) link
Totally down with being called cute. Handsome is for old men.
― Johnny Fever, Monday, 28 March 2011 08:19 (thirteen years ago) link
i am fine w/ anything that the person considers a compliment tbh
― just sayin, Monday, 28 March 2011 08:46 (thirteen years ago) link
being called cute makes me go swoony and bashful and bat my eyelashes
― kris menace isn't even french (sic), Monday, 28 March 2011 09:32 (thirteen years ago) link
Haha I cannot imagine you being like that at ALL.
― Borads of Candida (Trayce), Monday, 28 March 2011 10:37 (thirteen years ago) link
i take the safe route and tell people i find them attractive
― homosexual II, Monday, 28 March 2011 14:11 (thirteen years ago) link
Handsome is something you say to someone who needs a compliment but you can't bring yourself to lie and say cute or hot or sexy or good-looking or attractive. Cute is great.
― Postmodern Bourbon Development (Will M.), Monday, 28 March 2011 14:26 (thirteen years ago) link
Cute can be used in many ways, from enthusiastically swoony, to dismissive or infantilizing.
― Aimless, Monday, 28 March 2011 19:42 (thirteen years ago) link
yeah to me there's a difference between "cute" and "sexy"- "cute" is for, I dunno, kittens or puppies. Not potential sexual partners.
― the tune is space, Monday, 28 March 2011 19:50 (thirteen years ago) link
girls around the office use either "cute" or "hot", nearly interchangeably. as in "omg who's the new cute/hot guy?!???!". i'd say the only difference is "hot" guy is 1 degree of attractiveness about "cute" guy.
― A True White Kid that can Jump (Granny Dainger), Monday, 28 March 2011 20:02 (thirteen years ago) link
I accept all compliments
― in my world of loose geirs (Shakey Mo Collier), Monday, 28 March 2011 20:07 (thirteen years ago) link
"cute" will get you laid iirc
― the Hogg who would be Boss (will), Monday, 28 March 2011 20:11 (thirteen years ago) link
I don't recall ever being called cute (and I looked uncannily like Donny Osmond most of my social life). It would have been nice.
― light...sweet...crude (Sanpaku), Monday, 28 March 2011 21:57 (thirteen years ago) link
:(
― corey, Monday, 28 March 2011 21:58 (thirteen years ago) link
i think tbh the diff between 'cute' & 'hot' is 10lbs or so
― they reminisce over dayo (D-40), Monday, 28 March 2011 22:00 (thirteen years ago) link
I am going to start telling guys they look neotenous.
― Publicidad de Sexo (Abbbottt), Tuesday, 29 March 2011 00:35 (thirteen years ago) link
i get both from my gf so i must have some major weight oscillations
― la broheme (electricsound), Tuesday, 29 March 2011 00:39 (thirteen years ago) link
they look neotenous
As Stephen J. Gould famously pointed out, Mickey Mouse displayed ever more neotony as he aged. nagl imo.
― Aimless, Tuesday, 29 March 2011 00:51 (thirteen years ago) link
haha, better be careful!
― Publicidad de Sexo (Abbbottt), Tuesday, 29 March 2011 01:05 (thirteen years ago) link
I say that because "haha, better be careful" is the only phrase Mickey Mouse says, in my imagination.
― Publicidad de Sexo (Abbbottt), Tuesday, 29 March 2011 01:06 (thirteen years ago) link
I've actually been called neotenic!
― corey, Tuesday, 29 March 2011 01:08 (thirteen years ago) link
!!!I have only seen pics of you but you have way too angle-y a face* to be considered neotenic imo. You do have crazy huge eyes, tho, maybe that's why that was said?
*trying to think of a non-weird way to say this & failing, it is agl tho do not worry
― Publicidad de Sexo (Abbbottt), Tuesday, 29 March 2011 01:20 (thirteen years ago) link
Me, I basically look the same now as I did at age eight. This is not a thread about chubby cheek chicks tho.
― Publicidad de Sexo (Abbbottt), Tuesday, 29 March 2011 01:21 (thirteen years ago) link