straight people going to gay bars/clubs: is this bullshit?

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Is this like whites going to "Negro" clubs in the 20s? (maybe not)

ryan, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:17 (sixteen years ago) link

i drag straight friends to gay bars all the time. what's the big deal?

impudent harlot, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:19 (sixteen years ago) link

lol @ thread

sleep, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:19 (sixteen years ago) link

gay people going to straight bars/clubs: is this bullshit?

Billy Dods, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:20 (sixteen years ago) link

There's a gay bar right around the corner (literally like 30 seconds away) from my apartment. So sure, I've gone there a few times, esp. in inclement weather when I don't feel like walking the half-mile to the next-nearest bar. No one seems to mind.

jaymc, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:20 (sixteen years ago) link

as long as they don't mind being hit on in a civilized way.

Dr Morbius, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:21 (sixteen years ago) link

I'm just wondering if I'm the only one bothered by this and if I'm being stupid. Probably. I'm also hoping this can become an endless clusterfuck thread.

ryan, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:22 (sixteen years ago) link

should gay bars institute a homosexual variant of the 'paper bag test'?

elmo argonaut, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:23 (sixteen years ago) link

Any minute now!

Laurel, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:24 (sixteen years ago) link

What's the paper bag test?

Laurel, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:24 (sixteen years ago) link

xxxp That's the spirit! Are you gay or straight, ryan?

jaymc, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:24 (sixteen years ago) link

lol at dom

J0rdan S., Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:24 (sixteen years ago) link

There's a gay bar right around the corner (literally like 30 seconds away) from my apartment. So sure, I've gone there a few times, esp. in inclement weather when I don't feel like walking the half-mile to the next-nearest bar. No one seems to mind.

-- jaymc, Tuesday, January 29, 2008 10:20 PM (3 minutes ago) Bookmark Link

i tht u were bi neway?

That one guy that hit it and quit it, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:24 (sixteen years ago) link

How would the gay version of the paper bag test work???

HI DERE, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:25 (sixteen years ago) link

I'm straight but get hit on by men a lot so I probably project gay!

ryan, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:26 (sixteen years ago) link

This might stop if you stop going to gay clubs...?

HI DERE, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:27 (sixteen years ago) link

FAGGOTS FUCK FAGGOT ASS AND GET NIGGER AIDS AND DIE AND ALSO HITLER

kenan, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:27 (sixteen years ago) link

"the paper bag test used to determine one's fitness to enter certain public places, including nightclubs. skin lighter than a brown paper grocery bag could pass, darker skin could not pass."

elmo argonaut, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:27 (sixteen years ago) link

guys i've gone to lesbian bars a few times and it's totally cool

omar little, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:28 (sixteen years ago) link

I can see being upset about it. The assumption could be that everyone in a gay bar/cub is potentially receptive to advances from members of the same sex. Takes the guessing out of trying to figure out if that might be the case. If it's a mixed crowd, it's a guessing game again.

Super Cub, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:28 (sixteen years ago) link

I met my fiancee at a gay bar. I'm straight, she's bisexual. We were both their with mutual friends.

jon /via/ chi 2.0, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:29 (sixteen years ago) link

"there"

I can't spell grammar worth a shit today.

jon /via/ chi 2.0, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:29 (sixteen years ago) link

The gay bars here suck, so I end up at het establishmetns 98% of the time anyway, but when I'm obliged to take them they're cool, especially when they realize that their own cool points shot up astronomicaly with the straight girls in there.

Better question: gay guys who hate going to anyplace BUT gay bars c/d.

Alfred, Lord Sotosyn, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:29 (sixteen years ago) link

If it's a mixed crowd, it's a guessing game again.

YES LIKE I SAID, HITLER

kenan, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:29 (sixteen years ago) link

i tht u were bi neway?

Yeah. I usually go to the gay bar with my girlfriend, though.

jaymc, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:29 (sixteen years ago) link

straight men could not possibly want to sleep with me in smaller numbers than gay men do.

Dr Morbius, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:30 (sixteen years ago) link

That's weird, considering the direction of the thread I'd have thought it wd be more like "skin darker than a brown paper bag could pass" because if it's about proving you're gay "enough"...oh well.

Laurel, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:30 (sixteen years ago) link

xpost smaller than zero is just math

kenan, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:31 (sixteen years ago) link

is the Abbey a gay bar?

sexyDancer, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:31 (sixteen years ago) link

gay bars on tv have the best names

max, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:31 (sixteen years ago) link

I used to go to lesbian bars all the time and this was never felt it was a problem this could however be because I'm not entirely straight. I have never felt 100% comfortable in gay male clubs. I've always felt as if as if a lot of the men didn't like women being there. Then again, I could be paranoid or just going to the wrong clubs/bars.

ENBB, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:32 (sixteen years ago) link

Abbey usta be; just one night a week now?

thx a lot kenan, I get a free date with yr brother for that one.

Dr Morbius, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:33 (sixteen years ago) link

Better question: gay guys who hate going to anyplace BUT gay bars c/d.

Total dud. One of my best friends is gay and hates going to "straight" bars and it can get kind of annoying, to be honest.

ENBB, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:33 (sixteen years ago) link

xpost :)

he's cuet.

kenan, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:33 (sixteen years ago) link

As I said, I've a couple of friends who hang out 99% of the time with other gays; even when I invite them to accompany my het friends and I they're nervous and awkward.

The excuse? "I'm playing a part nine to five. After five, I can be myself."

Alfred, Lord Sotosyn, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:34 (sixteen years ago) link

That's a terrible excuse.

Laurel, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:34 (sixteen years ago) link

srsly. GROW A SPINE, PUSSY

Alfred, Lord Sotosyn, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:35 (sixteen years ago) link

Tell your friends to stop being pussies.

xpost HA

HI DERE, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:35 (sixteen years ago) link

I think there is probably a lot of factors at play, especially for women who do this. Not least a perceived "no pressure" zone in dealing with the opposite sex, like a gender free utopia or something.

ryan, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:35 (sixteen years ago) link

if you're a straight dude who really loves dancing to diva house or old whitney houston, you're not gonna have a lot of straight bar options

elmo argonaut, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:36 (sixteen years ago) link

That's weird, considering the direction of the thread I'd have thought it wd be more like "skin darker than a brown paper bag could pass" because if it's about proving you're gay "enough"...oh well.

That goes completely against all social precedent, though.

HI DERE, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:37 (sixteen years ago) link

xp: if you're a str8 dude who loves that, give it up

Dr Morbius, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:37 (sixteen years ago) link

i understand this is not a real problem xpost

elmo argonaut, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:37 (sixteen years ago) link

My friends are Pearl Jam fans.

Alfred, Lord Sotosyn, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:38 (sixteen years ago) link

No wonder they're pussies!

HI DERE, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:38 (sixteen years ago) link

the only thing i love more than dancing to diva house is pussy

max, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:38 (sixteen years ago) link

haha -- ABANDON HOPE

Alfred, Lord Sotosyn, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:38 (sixteen years ago) link

i understand this is not a real problem

i think maybe it is for some... i mean... totally theoretically. Totally.

kenan, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:39 (sixteen years ago) link

No, I guess not, Dan. I thought of it as a black pride thing -- prove yr "one of us" or whatever.

Laurel, Tuesday, 29 January 2008 22:39 (sixteen years ago) link

How would the gay version of the paper bag test work???

― HI DERE, Tuesday, January 29, 2008 10:25 PM (1 year ago)

so much joy here

we are normal and we want our freedom (Abbott), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 16:51 (fourteen years ago) link

Do you guys think you wld get more hostility as a jeans and Old Navy shirt-wearing person in a goth club, or as a str8 in a gay club?

we are normal and we want our freedom (Abbott), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 16:53 (fourteen years ago) link

"I am sorry, you are gayer than this paper bag and therefore too gay to enter this club. Good day."

a Barbie-like nub where he provates should be (HI DERE), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 16:53 (fourteen years ago) link

lol

nice email (uh oh I'm having a fantasy), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 16:54 (fourteen years ago) link

Do you guys think you wld get more hostility as a jeans and Old Navy shirt-wearing person in a goth club, or as a str8 in a gay club?

Definitely the former, in my experience. 'Straights' I've gone to a particular goth club with (for '80s night dancin') have reported quite a bit of hostility from the locals.

I HEART CREEPY MENS (Deric W. Haircare), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 16:59 (fourteen years ago) link

Dan you have made my morning perfect.

we are normal and we want our freedom (Abbott), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:00 (fourteen years ago) link

xp lol Neo

Nuyorican oatmeal (jaymc), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:00 (fourteen years ago) link

what's in the paper bag, though? poppers, maybe

elmo leonard (elmo argonaut), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:01 (fourteen years ago) link

that's paper?

a Barbie-like nub where he provates should be (HI DERE), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:02 (fourteen years ago) link

hey a GIS for "gay bag" turns up a lot

squarefair (Shakey Mo Collier), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:02 (fourteen years ago) link

i'm calling jaymc Babs from now on

jazzgasms (Mr. Que), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:03 (fourteen years ago) link

didn't work for the last guy tho

plaxico (I know, right?), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:05 (fourteen years ago) link

just call him Stools.

I yanked that sucker hard, and work it did. (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:08 (fourteen years ago) link

As I inched my way off the seat, I believe I said, "I'm going to go direct Yentl now."

Nuyorican oatmeal (jaymc), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:09 (fourteen years ago) link

oh okay i thought u meant:

http://badpamma.com/images/model_babs_color.jpg

plaxico (I know, right?), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:10 (fourteen years ago) link

hott girls at gay bars = good

oops i accidentally made it personal (surm), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:43 (fourteen years ago) link

kenan i kiss you. those old posts made my morning excellent.

also, i really have no opinion. i've invited so many straight people to gays bars that i have no problem. (i mean, if people REALLY LIKE DISCO, they have a right to go somewhere where they can hear it played super-loud, right?)

my bach penises and their contrapuntal technique (the table is the table), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:44 (fourteen years ago) link

ugh the hot girls are always the ones i want to punch. it's the crazy theatrical big ugly girls i love in a gay bar.

my bach penises and their contrapuntal technique (the table is the table), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:45 (fourteen years ago) link

(and no i'm not getting confused between them and the queens)

my bach penises and their contrapuntal technique (the table is the table), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:45 (fourteen years ago) link

you want to punch girls

jazzgasms (Mr. Que), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:46 (fourteen years ago) link

well, yknow. not really. but if i see paris hilton fake lipgloss style girl next to some hot young twink boyfriend (and this is anywhere not just at gay bars), my first inner thought is: 'punch the girl and kidnap the boy'

my bach penises and their contrapuntal technique (the table is the table), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:48 (fourteen years ago) link

so it's more inner reaction to the beauty myth than actual physical, outward reaction to the beauty myth.

etc.

my bach penises and their contrapuntal technique (the table is the table), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:49 (fourteen years ago) link

"I Punch Beauty: The Table is the Table Story"

jazzgasms (Mr. Que), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:50 (fourteen years ago) link

really? my first thought is "enjoy your shitty lives, if you are able"

goole, Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:51 (fourteen years ago) link

oh no i love me a horsey. i discriminate against humans only. and fuckin spiders, egads.

my bach penises and their contrapuntal technique (the table is the table), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:53 (fourteen years ago) link

how about celibate spiders

a Barbie-like nub where he provates should be (HI DERE), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:54 (fourteen years ago) link

Fuck 'em.

cough syrup in coke cans (Eric H.), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:56 (fourteen years ago) link

yo even charlotte creeps me out. look at that tiny mouth!

http://www.nmr.com/uploads/charlotte.jpg

my bach penises and their contrapuntal technique (the table is the table), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:56 (fourteen years ago) link

i have only been to a gay bar once, how is this possible??

how rad bandit (gbx), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:58 (fourteen years ago) link

You are straight.

cough syrup in coke cans (Eric H.), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 17:59 (fourteen years ago) link

got me there

how rad bandit (gbx), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 18:00 (fourteen years ago) link

well, yknow. not really. but if i see paris hilton fake lipgloss style girl next to some hot young twink boyfriend (and this is anywhere not just at gay bars), my first inner thought is: 'punch the girl and kidnap the boy'

― my bach penises and their contrapuntal technique (the table is the table), Tuesday, November 10, 2009 5:48 PM (32 minutes ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

ok well this is not what i meant by hot girls but whatever.

oops i accidentally made it personal (surm), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 18:22 (fourteen years ago) link

typical ilx :)

me: i like hot girls

table: i like ugly girls

oops i accidentally made it personal (surm), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 18:26 (fourteen years ago) link

eric: who goes to gay bars?

cough syrup in coke cans (Eric H.), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 18:49 (fourteen years ago) link

lol. excellent.

my bach penises and their contrapuntal technique (the table is the table), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 19:08 (fourteen years ago) link

i have only been to a gay bar once, how is this possible??

You're gay.

Hell is other people. In an ILE film forum. (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 19:10 (fourteen years ago) link

!

how rad bandit (gbx), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 19:11 (fourteen years ago) link

On the weekend, an overly solicitous salesman in a gayish swimwear store was giving me a lengthy sales pitch when suddenly he stopped, indicated a particularly fruity pair of speedos, and said, "Can I tell you something serious? Straight men buy these now. They go to Arc (trashy gay nightclub) because they like the music and they like to have their back licked by men, but they won't have sex with you. They're not gay for sex." This rant went forever and became more and more clearly about one particular dude who had refused to sleep with the salesmen, ending with, "And he has a wife. She knows all about it." Did not seem like a good time to tell him I have girlfriend.

sandy, Tuesday, 10 November 2009 21:52 (fourteen years ago) link

want to hear that story in more detail!

plaxico (I know, right?), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 21:54 (fourteen years ago) link

So does that straight man wear the speedos to the club? That would make it a lot easier for people to lick his back, if he was just wearing speedos.

mh, Tuesday, 10 November 2009 22:10 (fourteen years ago) link

Another highlight was his opening his spiel with, "If you buy those, you have to take 'straight-acting' off your Manhunt profile."

sandy, Tuesday, 10 November 2009 22:21 (fourteen years ago) link

OMG!

plaxico (I know, right?), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 22:28 (fourteen years ago) link

gayish swimwear store

?

goole, Tuesday, 10 November 2009 22:30 (fourteen years ago) link

Another highlight was his opening his spiel with, "If you buy those, you have to take 'straight-acting' off your Manhunt profile."

― sandy, Tuesday, November 10, 2009 10:21 PM (10 minutes ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

amazing

oops i accidentally made it personal (surm), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 22:32 (fourteen years ago) link

i can only imagine your face as he is telling you that story

oops i accidentally made it personal (surm), Tuesday, 10 November 2009 22:32 (fourteen years ago) link

gayish swimwear store

Yeah what were you doing there in the first place?

Kevin John Bozelka, Tuesday, 10 November 2009 22:35 (fourteen years ago) link

Looking for gayish swimwear, obv.

sandy, Tuesday, 10 November 2009 23:22 (fourteen years ago) link

Another highlight was his opening his spiel with, "If you buy those, you have to take 'straight-acting' off your Manhunt profile."

lolz

goth brooks (Curt1s Stephens), Friday, 13 November 2009 10:41 (fourteen years ago) link


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