― duane, Thursday, 19 July 2001 00:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Mike Hanley, Thursday, 19 July 2001 00:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
I would say just wish yourself out of winter, which is a good idea anyway, but clearly that's impossible, and I've already recommended books. Therapy: dumb movies that are fun to laugh at, comfort food that actually tastes good, and a friend with nutty stories. It's a start, at least.
― Ned Raggett, Thursday, 19 July 2001 00:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Billy Dods, Thursday, 19 July 2001 00:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― AP, Thursday, 19 July 2001 00:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Josh, Thursday, 19 July 2001 00:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
The web is great for staving off the loneliness, but it's really not the same as actual human interaction. You might feel less sad if you went out into the world and tried to re-integrate yourself a bit.
I'm *really* not saying this to be preachy, I'm saying this out of horrible experience.
― masonic boom, Thursday, 19 July 2001 00:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
Also, is "Boo hoo, I'm sad" a direct, deadpan quote?
(I shouldn't tease, but sometimes I feel better if people make me stop taking a particular situation seriously.)
― Dan Perry, Thursday, 19 July 2001 00:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Sean, Thursday, 19 July 2001 00:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Arthur, Thursday, 19 July 2001 00:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― anthony, Friday, 20 July 2001 00:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― duane, Friday, 20 July 2001 00:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― duane, Saturday, 21 July 2001 00:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― Arthur, Sunday, 22 July 2001 00:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
― AP, Monday, 23 July 2001 00:00 (twenty-two years ago) link
I'm sad.
― i'm shy (Abbott), Monday, 30 March 2009 17:20 (fourteen years ago) link
I'm sorry you're sad Abbott. Being sad sucks. :-(
― Too Into Dancing to Argue (ENBB), Monday, 30 March 2009 17:22 (fourteen years ago) link
Don't be sad, be glad!
― Orin Boyd (jel --), Monday, 30 March 2009 17:25 (fourteen years ago) link
cheer up everybody
― I'm Into that Japanese Pop-Funk (Shakey Mo Collier), Monday, 30 March 2009 17:28 (fourteen years ago) link
Would it help if I invited you to post on the NM thread?
― I seldom pass on tea now. (libcrypt), Monday, 30 March 2009 17:28 (fourteen years ago) link
Hahaha no not really.
― i'm shy (Abbott), Monday, 30 March 2009 17:28 (fourteen years ago) link
Bestest wish, Abbott.
― WmC, Monday, 30 March 2009 17:40 (fourteen years ago) link
i'm sad
― i like to fart and i am crazy (gbx), Monday, 30 March 2009 17:44 (fourteen years ago) link
:-(
― Too Into Dancing to Argue (ENBB), Monday, 30 March 2009 17:49 (fourteen years ago) link
I hope you're both ok.
All the best, guys. You're two of my very favorites and you always bring me smiles. Hope you get out the doldrums soon.
<3
― just DO THE STANKY HOOS plain and steen (BIG HOOS aka the steendriver), Monday, 30 March 2009 17:51 (fourteen years ago) link
I'm sad, mostly for one of my best friends, who just turned 40, lost his job, and now tells me his wife's been having an affair with one of her (female) coworkers
― I'm Into that Japanese Pop-Funk (Shakey Mo Collier), Monday, 30 March 2009 17:51 (fourteen years ago) link
Can't this be a bit of bad news that somehow becomes good news?
― I seldom pass on tea now. (libcrypt), Monday, 30 March 2009 17:52 (fourteen years ago) link
it didn't sound like it
― I'm Into that Japanese Pop-Funk (Shakey Mo Collier), Monday, 30 March 2009 17:54 (fourteen years ago) link
who just turned 40, lost his job, and now tells me his wife's been having an affair with one of her (female) coworkersWow, worse than me!
― not_goodwin, Monday, 30 March 2009 18:14 (fourteen years ago) link
Yeah, I just miss my wife (she's fine, just out of the country on biz for a while). Jeesh.
I hope everyone feels better up in this peice.
― Baffleck!!!! (B.L.A.M.), Monday, 30 March 2009 18:23 (fourteen years ago) link
― fillibustar superstar! (Abbott), Wednesday, 15 April 2009 23:08 (fourteen years ago) link
Abbs, whats up? I feel like we both have cycles of just being bummed the hell out.
anything in particular bugging you?
― Two Will Get You Three (B.L.A.M.), Wednesday, 15 April 2009 23:16 (fourteen years ago) link
General malaise/deppressiosity, feeling like a shit about myself, money, and: my mom-in-law is moving back into town. Plus..nostalgia?
― fillibustar superstar! (Abbott), Wednesday, 15 April 2009 23:25 (fourteen years ago) link
Are you doing well?
lots of nostalgia here too, I was home in Dublin for the last week, always makes me feel a bit sad as it reminds me of not having any responsibilites plus on a separate note I always feel sad for my parents when I leave as I know they are on their own now.
hope you feel better soon!
― Local Garda, Wednesday, 15 April 2009 23:27 (fourteen years ago) link
Meh...my wife is going to be gone until early June, so that sucks.
Upside - two of my best friends are in town for a week, my job is going well, and the weather rules. Also, I'm losing weight with relative ease due to some minor dietary changes (less caloric breakfast, MUCH less drinking).
So - about even keeled, but not for a lack of waves on the ocean of my life.
Ambivalently even-keeled. There you go.
― Two Will Get You Three (B.L.A.M.), Wednesday, 15 April 2009 23:39 (fourteen years ago) link
I always feel sad for my parents when I leave as I know they are on their own now.
That's beautiful Ronan, it truly is.
― Gerard (Le Bateau Ivre), Thursday, 16 April 2009 00:11 (fourteen years ago) link
sometimes you just have to do the sad, i was just thinking this
― Surmounter, Thursday, 16 April 2009 00:54 (fourteen years ago) link
Since a bad head-cold a month ago, my tinnitus has gone from very mild and barely noticeable to full blown white noise thumping and screaming of bells in my ears, 94/7. Almost feels like my ears are going to explode off of my head.
I feel isolated and cranky and miserable.
I've been trying to engage thoughtfully and even sometimes cynically/stupidly on ILX for fun and don't feel like I'm getting anywhere.
Life behind glass eh wot :( Fed up.
― 65daysofsugban (Trayce), Tuesday, 5 May 2009 00:07 (fourteen years ago) link
i bet you have a lot going for you other than your illness
― Mulvaney, Tuesday, 5 May 2009 00:36 (fourteen years ago) link
I like to think so! I just feel bad that I'm letting it get to me to the point I'm not interested in much and I'm getting so grumpy! Ugh.
― 65daysofsugban (Trayce), Tuesday, 5 May 2009 00:46 (fourteen years ago) link
Aw Trayceface, that is dogballs. I have trained a wee gargoyle to sing 'Reach Out of the Darkness' by Friend & Lover while I play tambourine. If I were there I wld bring it and a punching bag bcz damn if that song doesn't make you want to take it out on people. Catharsis.
― fillibustar superstar! (Abbott), Tuesday, 5 May 2009 00:47 (fourteen years ago) link
I think it's SO GROOVY NOW that people are FINALLY GETTING TOGETHER, Trayce.
*smack me, come on*
― fillibustar superstar! (Abbott), Tuesday, 5 May 2009 00:48 (fourteen years ago) link
Hahahah <3 you Ab :)
― 65daysofsugban (Trayce), Tuesday, 5 May 2009 00:50 (fourteen years ago) link
Aw feeling's mutual, Z! <3
― thanks to denial, I'm immortal! (Trayce), Friday, 10 February 2012 07:49 (twelve years ago) link
basically said I am a very bitter, angry, unaffectionate person he found hard to deal with after a while.
He's projecting. He's an arsehole.
― White 'Poop' Jesus (snoball), Friday, 10 February 2012 09:49 (twelve years ago) link
I'll cop to being a pretty whiny and/or cynical person at times, but its also part of my humour: taking the piss out of ads, that sort of thing. I am trying so hard not to take this crap personally because of all this yknow?
― thanks to denial, I'm immortal! (Trayce), Friday, 10 February 2012 09:59 (twelve years ago) link
bitter, angry, unaffectionate
so not otm
― the greates (crüt), Friday, 10 February 2012 10:53 (twelve years ago) link
yeah, it threw me for a loop :/
― thanks to denial, I'm immortal! (Trayce), Friday, 10 February 2012 10:54 (twelve years ago) link
Every time i have tried to stay friends with someone, even after a super-casual relationship where i have really not been emotionally engaged and not bothered about it, there's been a post-breakup period of really disliking and resenting the other person. Which is difficult for my pride, because i like to think that i have control of vast reserves of givingness and empathy which enable me to always be the better man.
And often this resentment and dislike manifests itself in the belief that what is necessary is some Real Talk, like I, for the good of this other person, for their future happiness, should tell them what they did that made the r'ship difficult, or what is wrong with them. Because i like them, they're my friend, we're staying friends, i have their best interests at heart, etc etc etc: and all of this is bullshit. I am hurt and I am trying to cause hurt and I don't even know I'm doing it, and the version of events that in my head is so clear and truthful is actually warped by my sadness at this thing ending, my attempts to understand how it could end.
Staying friends is totally possible and a great idea and I do it and it makes me happy but attempting to discuss "what went wrong" post-breakup (w/in let's say a year of the breakup happening) is basically a short cut to the worst part of both of you. Why do you want an explanation from him? It's not going to be factually truthful because he's not going to be capable of that yet, it's going to be designed to make you sad because he's working through his own sadness, and no matter what he says what benefit could you possibly get from being told what you did 'wrong'?
also, demand your damn raise! sit down and write out your experience of being asked to do work not-in-your-job-descrip, the steps you had to take to complete this bit of work, and write that up into an example of how you are so good at your job and therefore deserve a raise!
― marcus junius ubiquitus (c sharp major), Friday, 10 February 2012 11:02 (twelve years ago) link
Wow. You really hit a bunch of nails on heads there! D: thanks. Food fr thought. Also is thus thread deindexed and if not can it be pls?
― thanks to denial, I'm immortal! (Trayce), Friday, 10 February 2012 11:09 (twelve years ago) link
C sharp is so absolutely devastatingly OTM here.
Ppl who feel that they just have to tell you ~all the things they know are wrong with you~ are not necessarily your friends. Especially when it's totally unsolicited. That's just stuff in their head and naught to do w you, T.
― White Chocolate Cheesecake, Friday, 10 February 2012 11:12 (twelve years ago) link
if anything has helped me and N to be strong for each other and stay friends through the last couple of months, it's the decision we made not to analyse what we thought had gone wrong between us
― dayove cool (Noodle Vague), Friday, 10 February 2012 11:25 (twelve years ago) link
I have friends I have "sep" with, varous "you bastard" reasons.
Came back to one, years latr, had good time. Then spent a little "closure of these issues" biz, things got clarified, all good again.
Another, vaguely friendly, then found the issues that made me 'go off them' were still there. Retreated. Person was probably "oh! why he go?" but sometimes closure is not worth it, and 'leaving via the back door' is safest.
(none of that remotely sexual btw)
― Mark G, Friday, 10 February 2012 11:32 (twelve years ago) link
feeling all of this postsi think "i am hurt and i am trying to cause hurt" is happening and i am bracing to be told i am a bitter, angry, unaffectionate person also. and like lamp i am sitting and watching traffic. there are all those sad things in common. my head hurts.
― kim tim jim investor (harbl), Friday, 10 February 2012 22:48 (twelve years ago) link
hugs for harbl and sad ilxors itt
― Janet Snakehole (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 10 February 2012 22:50 (twelve years ago) link
:( i don't think you're bitter or unaffectionate, harbl! (you either, trayce!) i'm sorry you're feeling this way.
― horseshoe, Friday, 10 February 2012 23:43 (twelve years ago) link
who are these mean ppl. SEND THEM TO ME. I'll show em unaffectionate >:(
― Janet Snakehole (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 10 February 2012 23:44 (twelve years ago) link
Im not sad today. Y'all are awesome and have cheered me up, and I'm reeling at how accurate every word of C#'s post was to my situation. And am giving it very very careful consideration for my own sense of wellbeing.
I'm always a little embarrased at how I can overreact to these situations.
― thanks to denial, I'm immortal! (Trayce), Friday, 10 February 2012 23:50 (twelve years ago) link
you are human! I think anyone would be reeling, it's natural. <3
― Janet Snakehole (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 10 February 2012 23:52 (twelve years ago) link
Deindexed this thread. Bestest wish to all sad ilxors.
― Steamtable Willie (WmC), Saturday, 11 February 2012 00:06 (twelve years ago) link
Bless you Mr C xx
― thanks to denial, I'm immortal! (Trayce), Saturday, 11 February 2012 00:10 (twelve years ago) link
c# that post is distilled volumes of otm.
― Dr Frogbius (darraghmac), Saturday, 11 February 2012 00:55 (twelve years ago) link
yeah man, i think it would be potentially more disturbing if you just kinda shrugged it off. thank goodness you are not so cemented in that you can't be in touch with your feelings of hurt and disappointment. which are a huge and extremely legitimate and even salvific part of the human experience ime
― dell (del), Saturday, 11 February 2012 01:04 (twelve years ago) link
_still giggling at the lack of understanding why those were zings_"lack of understanding"
"lack of understanding"
― Volvo Twilight (p-dog), Saturday, 11 February 2012 03:56 (twelve years ago) link
uggggggggggggggh
― clouds, Saturday, 29 September 2012 21:15 (eleven years ago) link
can i not leave the house for the next year please
Can I go back to 1990 and have another go, like? Regrets, I've got a few...
― Confused Turtle (Zora), Wednesday, 3 October 2012 23:58 (eleven years ago) link
^^^exactly the year I would go back to for another pop
― ljubljana, Thursday, 4 October 2012 00:08 (eleven years ago) link
first year of university?
― mookieproof, Thursday, 4 October 2012 00:10 (eleven years ago) link
Year before university!
― ljubljana, Thursday, 4 October 2012 00:11 (eleven years ago) link
sorry things are rough zora
― Randy Carol (darraghmac), Thursday, 4 October 2012 00:11 (eleven years ago) link
Year before uni for me, too!
I'm just in a hole because I tagged my ex in a photo from years & years ago on dreaded FB, and he untagged himself, didn't say anything, and I felt really shit about it. I mean, it's his prerogative, no question. But I'm here trying to re-integrate the past, which has been this tightly closed book (or in this case, shoebox full of photos) into my current life, because I feel rootless, disconnected, disenfranchised in a way. And this is like him saying "No, you cannot have this." /sigh. I don't know why I need his blessing. I always need somebody's blessing.
You can never, never never go back home again, no.
And if I can't have that 15 years back I might as well go right back to the first round of fuck-ups and try to get a few other things right!
Urgh, Smiths lyrics are never a good sign.
― Confused Turtle (Zora), Thursday, 4 October 2012 00:33 (eleven years ago) link
i don't wanna go back to the past; it was worse.
i had a bit of a nervous breakdown in my philosophy class today, started crying for no reason. i don't think anyone noticed and i'm not sure if i wanted anyone to ask. i went home and made some tea and felt slightly better, but still haven't shaken the feeling that everything is just arrogance and folly and vanity. i'm sure i'll get over it once something distracts me, but it's really fucking tough right now.
― clouds, Thursday, 4 October 2012 00:39 (eleven years ago) link
you young pups
i dunno, there are all kinds of reasons why your ex wouldn't want to be tagged and almost none of them mean he's trying to disavow it or you. have you communicated with him recently or just tagged him?
anyway, i'm sorry you're feeling poorly! but you needn't let that particular thing be a drag.
― mookieproof, Thursday, 4 October 2012 00:41 (eleven years ago) link
Sorry to hear that, clouds. If you want tips for dealing, the depression and anxiety threads are more advice-y than this one. This is a good place to mope, though.
Are you sure there wasn't a reason? Crying jags tend not to be completely random, even if they've got FA to do w/ yr immediate sitch. Are you well otherwise?
Yeah mookie, I know. Just a bad moment. I've got flu, I can't sleep, unemployment is seeming a bit less awesome than it did a week ago, Goblin Boy's doing my head in. I haven't been in touch with my ex much lately. I don't dare. I miss him far too much.
― Confused Turtle (Zora), Thursday, 4 October 2012 00:46 (eleven years ago) link
This is my ex-husband I'm on about, for clarity's sake.
sorry <3
ps fuc goblin boy!
― mookieproof, Thursday, 4 October 2012 00:48 (eleven years ago) link
xps clouds, everything may be folly (possibly a good thing?), but it's not all arrogance and vanity as long as you're around.
― THEE-AH-TER (Matt P), Thursday, 4 October 2012 00:54 (eleven years ago) link
Yes, yes, fuc GB. Suffice to say there are good sides to GB that I don't talk about on ILX b/c as I once said to K8, who wants to hear about the nice bits of someone else's relationship? Nobody; yuck. For most of the last several weeks he has been a benign presence, as a very cuddly sort of friend. Now he's just being a bit meh. I'm trying to connect w/ myself so as not to be lonely and crave all this snuggles, it is backfiring, maybe it will still help in the long run, idk.
― Confused Turtle (Zora), Thursday, 4 October 2012 00:57 (eleven years ago) link
matt p otm
clouds get rainy sometimes, 'sokay. <3
did anything happen in the last few days to set off the crying, clouds? like do u think it was overwhelming malaise or stress or...?
― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 4 October 2012 01:00 (eleven years ago) link
nothing in particular — it's just feels like things are piling up: no job, the world going out of control, poverty, surveying the great works of thought and art and just seeing how little impact it's really made when people to continue to fuck people over at every opportunity and just thinking "what is it all fucking FOR??"
― clouds, Thursday, 4 October 2012 01:16 (eleven years ago) link
general helplessness -- that'll def do it. (hugs)
I don't wanna sound too corny here but maybe volunteering somewhere locally for a while might help? in the past I've found helping others helps me get out of my own head. and little tiny differences matter just as much as the big ones
― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 4 October 2012 01:23 (eleven years ago) link
otm
― Confused Turtle (Zora), Thursday, 4 October 2012 01:24 (eleven years ago) link
if you're willing to come up to my area i will cook you a meal and make you feel better about people(note: most people are terrible, but not all of them are, thank goodness)
― these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Thursday, 4 October 2012 01:58 (eleven years ago) link
i'd love to — this weekend will be kinda crazy as i have a lot of things due at once, but next weekend definitely
― clouds, Thursday, 4 October 2012 03:24 (eleven years ago) link
Welp, it's been a while since I've been to this state, but it's just been an unholy alliance of events this year.
*Lost two old friends, one to cancer, around the beginning of the year*Watching both parents transform from the vibrant, stoic people I knew when I was a kid to a pair of morose, depressing incapable moochers (now into me for 3k).*Aforementioned recent ladyfriend issues from another thread (not revisiting here)*Having my Dad legitimately ask if he could come temporarily live with us by crashing on our couch in Feb (our condo is tiny - it would never work, I don't want him leaving my mother alone in another state, and no offense, but I don't want to live with him)*Falling out of love with theatre, and also getting too busy with work, leading me to not do it as much the last two years, which leads me to see my friends less, as that's where they're mostly from*Declining self-image
My friends have been great this go-round - I'm usually the low-maintenance friend who does his thing in silence or acts as the comforter, so I'm not used to flat out saying "I'm crashing", but they've heeded the call. Right now, though, I just feel largely taken for granted. I hate every time my folks text or call me, my first thought is "How much are they asking for now?". Or asking me to help them with every little thing, haranging me during work hours until I reply. Really think this stupid fiasco with the ladyfriend, during any other year, woulda been just a 'whatever', just really bad timing right now.
no real issues with anxiety, thankfully (tho I did have an attack two weeks ago where I felt faint). trying as much as I can to get myself out of the house and doing stuff, and it's helped, but I've also been drinking a lot more which I suspect has had a lot to do with the 'helping'.
I shouldn't be sad. My life is pretty awesome. I have a great job. So I feel guilty in being sad, but I dunno...want this month to be over.
― Neanderthal, Tuesday, 24 September 2013 18:23 (ten years ago) link
better to feel sad when sad shit is happening than to try to bluster thru and let it fester. hope the bad things turn round soon, dude.
― Tyskie in the giro (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 24 September 2013 18:36 (ten years ago) link
Yeah man, I'm sorry to hear about all of that. Any one element on its own would be enough, but everything at once can feel like too much to deal with.
― Z S, Tuesday, 24 September 2013 20:31 (ten years ago) link
thx guys. if this business trip to Cali pans out (and we're about three days delayed in getting the green light, so I'm nervous), think that may a perfect opportunity to get away from the madness.
― Neanderthal, Tuesday, 24 September 2013 20:42 (ten years ago) link
Not panning out :/. Oh well. hanging with my best friend tomorrow at a video game bar, should be on the up and up soon.
thinking of taking my own vacation soon. just me.
― Neanderthal, Thursday, 26 September 2013 01:19 (ten years ago) link
finally gave up trying to deny or force myself to be happy, just let the misery out again today. feels a bit better. going to perform for a breast cancer benefit in a bit, should help.
after that, there's a party I want to go to (this local burlesque troupe made up of friends of mine hosting) as there's someone there I want to meet, but I'm afraid as someone that may be there might act as a negative trigger for me. so...who knows.
getting there!
― Neanderthal, Saturday, 28 September 2013 20:03 (ten years ago) link
hugs. have fun at the benefit!
― ILX is sad (Zora), Saturday, 28 September 2013 23:33 (ten years ago) link
Thanks. totally did. it was a pretty uplifting affair, many of us adults performed but it was the kids' night through and through and it was great seeing a bunch of young talent run the show.
― Neanderthal, Sunday, 29 September 2013 15:21 (ten years ago) link