Does alky-hol really help your sex life?

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Whenever I drink before sex, I seem to have crappy sexual experiences. I don't mean, like, too drunk to perform. I mean even a glass of wine. I just end up feeling more groggy and detached. Is it just a myth invented by winesellers? Or does alcohol just not affect me so well?

― Hurting (Hurting), Thursday, 24 March 2005 03:56 (twenty-one years ago)

well seeing as i haven't had sex since i gave up boozin', i would have to say YES it does

― gem (trisk), Thursday, 24 March 2005 04:00 (twenty-one years ago)

at once yes and not quite

― shine headlights on me (electricsound), Thursday, 24 March 2005 04:02 (twenty-one years ago)

although if we take into account the people i had sex with while very pissed and combine it with the quality (or lack thereof) of that sex, i could well be much better off now. so maybe the answer is actually no.

― gem (trisk), Thursday, 24 March 2005 04:03 (twenty-one years ago)

: (

― RJG (RJG), Thursday, 24 March 2005 04:10 (twenty-one years ago)

I think the only way alcohol helps your sex life is perhaps by loosening your inhibitions.

― Miss Misery (thatgirl), Thursday, 24 March 2005 04:15 (twenty-one years ago)

alcohol actually makes me last a lot LONGER. sometimes to the point of not being able to come. Depends how drunk. Can always keep it up, but can't always come. very strange.

― Stormy Davis (diamond), Thursday, 24 March 2005 04:20 (twenty-one years ago)

yes.

― mouse (mouse), Thursday, 24 March 2005 04:22 (twenty-one years ago)

Buzzed sex is way good, drunk sex is only good sometimes. I don't have the problem with 2d2f for the most part.

― D@n I. (Dan I.), Thursday, 24 March 2005 05:02 (twenty-one years ago)

I used to never have that problem, but then I did. I honestly don't know if it's because I was getting older or drunker. Bit of both?

Whiskey is for talking. Wine is for eating and sexing. Beer is for farting. Rule of thumb.

― sunburned and snowblind (kenan), Thursday, 24 March 2005 05:06 (twenty-one years ago)

otm (well, i dunno about the whiskey part)

― shine headlights on me (electricsound), Thursday, 24 March 2005 05:09 (twenty-one years ago)

alcohol actually makes me last a lot LONGER. sometimes to the point of not being able to come.

haha, this reminds me of one night where a female friend of mine unilaterally cut me off out of sympathy to my wife -- "If you have anymore, she won't get any sleep at all."

― gypsy mothra (gypsy mothra), Thursday, 24 March 2005 05:14 (twenty-one years ago)

well, i dunno about the whiskey part

amendment: Whiskey is for Drinking, with a capital and all that.

― sunburned and snowblind (kenan), Thursday, 24 March 2005 05:19 (twenty-one years ago)

MACDUFF
What three things does drink especially provoke?

PORTER
Marry, sir, nose-painting, sleep, and urine. Lechery, sir, it provokes, and unprovokes; it provokes the desire, but it takes away the performance. Therefore much drink may be said to be an equivocator with lechery; it makes him, and it mars him; it sets him on, and it takes him off; it persuades him, and disheartens him; makes him stand to, and not stand to; in conclusion, equivocates him in a sleep, and, giving him the lie, leaves him.

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Thursday, 24 March 2005 06:01 (twenty-one years ago)

yes porter otm!

dammit i found out the cute girl who introduced herself to me last night doesn't drink? is that a problem? i think it's a problem.

― f--gg (gcannon), Thursday, 24 March 2005 06:04 (twenty-one years ago)

er no ? on 1st sentence.

― f--gg (gcannon), Thursday, 24 March 2005 06:04 (twenty-one years ago)

smoke more weed

― BOATPEOPLEHATEFUCK (ex machina), Thursday, 24 March 2005 06:15 (twenty-one years ago)

*cue laugh track*

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Thursday, 24 March 2005 06:19 (twenty-one years ago)

The myth of alcohol has nothing to do with performance, but with getting some nookie when that is not the indicated outcome. As in: bad performance be damned - I got mine!

― Aimless (Aimless), Thursday, 24 March 2005 06:41 (twenty-one years ago)

Single + alcohol = more sex.
Coupled + alcohol = less sex

― Johnney B (Johnney B), Thursday, 24 March 2005 08:42 (twenty-one years ago)

The only time my husband wants sex is when I'm drunk and he's not. What does that mean?

― kate/thank you friendly cloud (papa november), Thursday, 24 March 2005 08:52 (twenty-one years ago)

Of all the times I've had sex I'm ashamed to admit that only twice have I ever done it sober. In recent times having sexing under the influence has been awful.

― Ste (Fuzzy), Thursday, 24 March 2005 10:14 (twenty-one years ago)

I don't think I'd have ever had sex in my life were it not for the power of booze. Actually, that's kind of depressing.

The best arrangement, though, was me-drunk, partner-sober(ish).

― Masonic Cathedral (kate), Thursday, 24 March 2005 10:21 (twenty-one years ago)

'having sexing'

wtf? how did that happen?

― Ste (Fuzzy), Thursday, 24 March 2005 10:22 (twenty-one years ago)

it is a horrible thought to realise that alcohol plays so much part in me getting to have sex.

― Ste (Fuzzy), Thursday, 24 March 2005 10:24 (twenty-one years ago)

I find that outside of the boudoir say at parties etc alcahol tends to make me more connected (if only a little) to what is going on. Dope on the other hand tends to make me detached. however when you throw in physical contact those two polaritys get reversed. I tend to think nothing really beats shagging sober in the morning though.

― lukey (Lukey G), Thursday, 24 March 2005 11:13 (twenty-one years ago)

Shagging stoned in the evening > shagging sober in the morning

― Johnney B (Johnney B), Thursday, 24 March 2005 11:14 (twenty-one years ago)

Right now I'm having trouble remembering what shagging, fullstop, is even like.

― Masonic Cathedral (kate), Thursday, 24 March 2005 11:16 (twenty-one years ago)

Likewise.

― kate/thank you friendly cloud (papa november), Thursday, 24 March 2005 11:36 (twenty-one years ago)

have you tried pornography?

― Ronan (Ronan), Thursday, 24 March 2005 11:45 (twenty-one years ago)

It's not much like real sex, though

― caitlin (caitlin), Thursday, 24 March 2005 12:27 (twenty-one years ago)

Shagging sober in ther afternoon > shagging sober in the morning.

― Markelby (Mark C), Thursday, 24 March 2005 12:29 (twenty-one years ago)

I do believe it was Newton who originally came up with that equation.

― Ronan (Ronan), Thursday, 24 March 2005 12:32 (twenty-one years ago)

Having a quick lunchtime shag and deciding to extend it to cover the whole afternoon = classic.

(it's about six years since I last did that, though)

― caitlin (caitlin), Thursday, 24 March 2005 12:34 (twenty-one years ago)

I should just stop reading this thread as it is depressing me. :-(

― Masonic Cathedral (kate), Thursday, 24 March 2005 12:36 (twenty-one years ago)

Oh, me too. Just reminds me just how long it's been. Only one month of regular sex in the past five years.

― caitlin (caitlin), Thursday, 24 March 2005 12:38 (twenty-one years ago)

OK, I did have sex in January so I don't feel *quite* so depressed. But I haven't had sex on a regular basis in about a year. :-(

― Masonic Cathedral (kate), Thursday, 24 March 2005 12:39 (twenty-one years ago)

Shags in the morning are indeed k-classic... And like Kate, this thread makes me depressed for not getting some.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Thursday, 24 March 2005 12:40 (twenty-one years ago)

I haven't had sex *at all* since October 2003. I think I win in the desperateness stakes.

― caitlin (caitlin), Thursday, 24 March 2005 12:41 (twenty-one years ago)

Then again, A Boy actually asked for my phone number last night! I was so shocked by this occurance that the tiny slight potential possibility of having sex (maybe) hadn't even occured to me! Getting ahead of myself again as usual... But that's what desperation does to one.

― Masonic Cathedral (kate), Thursday, 24 March 2005 12:42 (twenty-one years ago)

(Then again, he was drunk.)

― Masonic Cathedral (kate), Thursday, 24 March 2005 12:43 (twenty-one years ago)

I had some great sex in January as well (first time in ages), but it was a short-lived affair, and it has made me depressed for not getting it anymore... I think I was happier before, not remembering how good sex can be.

― Tuomas (Tuomas), Thursday, 24 March 2005 12:43 (twenty-one years ago)

I don't know. I think the only thing the sex in January really did was make me realise how *not ready* I was to be in a relationship again.

(Not putting down either the sex or the partner, both of which were actually terrific, just saying, oh dear, ooh er, TMI and I'll be in trouble again for writing this...)

― Masonic Cathedral (kate), Thursday, 24 March 2005 12:49 (twenty-one years ago)

two years pass...

http://img5.allocine.fr/acmedia/medias/nmedia/00/02/45/09/comedy.jpg

― omar little, Friday, 21 March 2008 00:50 (eighteen years ago)

sex while drunk <<<< sex while sober

# of potential sex partners while drunk >>>>>>>> # of potential sex partners while sober

― deeznuts, Friday, 21 March 2008 01:02 (eighteen years ago)

No.

― Hey Jude, Friday, 21 March 2008 02:06 (eighteen years ago)

alcohol actually makes me last a lot LONGER. sometimes to the point of not being able to come. Depends how drunk. Can always keep it up, but can't always come. very strange.

-- Stormy Davis (diamond), czwartek, 24 marzec 2005 04:20 (2 years ago)

why hello, hope nothing changed since 2005

::snicker::

― warmsherry, Friday, 21 March 2008 02:35 (eighteen years ago)

And hello to you, too, Polish lurker.

― jaymc, Friday, 21 March 2008 03:58 (eighteen years ago)

Obviously, alcohol makes it easier to get sex (if your potential sex partners drink too), but it doesn't generally make sex better. That said, if you're with a (relatively) new partner, a moderate amount of alcohol can help you get over the nervousness and clumsiness one often feels in those situations, so that it doesn't stop you from enjoying the sex. With guys, the ultimate result of that nervousness is of course failure to have an erection, but I think ladies can experience related problems too (not getting wet enough, etc). Of course, once you get older and have more sex experience, it'll make you more comfortable with your own body and more in touch what the other person might want and like you to do, so the nervousness also eases.

― Tuomas, Friday, 21 March 2008 10:22 (eighteen years ago)

Here's a related thread I started a while ago:

How do non-drinkers get laid?

― Tuomas, Friday, 21 March 2008 10:23 (eighteen years ago)

Please elaborate on the "etc"

― JTS, Friday, 21 March 2008 10:45 (eighteen years ago)

Well, I know that at least some girls can't come if they're feeling nervous. Though this can be a problem to guys too.

― Tuomas, Friday, 21 March 2008 10:52 (eighteen years ago)

I read this thread title as "does hip-hop really help your sex life" somehow.

― RabiesAngentleman, Friday, 21 March 2008 11:00 (eighteen years ago)

if your penis is big enough they'll come no matter how nervous

― ken c, Friday, 21 March 2008 12:01 (eighteen years ago)

if your penis is big enough they'll come no matter how nervous

-- ken c, Friday, 21 March 2008 12:01 (15 minutes ago) Link

you're wrong.

― warmsherry, Friday, 21 March 2008 12:23 (eighteen years ago)

And hello to you, too, Polish lurker.

-- jaymc, piątek, 21 marzec 2008 03:58 (8 hours ago) Bookmark Link

who you be? who you be wit?

― warmsherry, Friday, 21 March 2008 12:24 (eighteen years ago)

how would you know

xpost

― ken c, Friday, 21 March 2008 13:08 (eighteen years ago)

PE spam finally invades ILX...

― snoball, Friday, 21 March 2008 13:45 (eighteen years ago)

how would YOU know

― warmsherry, Friday, 21 March 2008 13:58 (eighteen years ago)

process of elimination

― ken c, Friday, 21 March 2008 14:03 (eighteen years ago)

i'm sure not all the girls i shagged are full of confidence. therefore using modus tollens you can prove that the original statement is true.

― ken c, Friday, 21 March 2008 14:04 (eighteen years ago)

yes, but you're wrong

― warmsherry, Friday, 21 March 2008 14:08 (eighteen years ago)

Is it better to have casual sex with or without telling her that's all you want from her?

― CaptainLorax, Friday, 21 March 2008 14:13 (eighteen years ago)

"It provokes the desire but it takes away the performance. Therefore much drink may be said to be an equivocator with lechery: it makes him and it mars him; it sets him on and it takes him off." - Macbeth, Act II, scene 3

― kenan, Friday, 21 March 2008 14:18 (eighteen years ago)

I was about to say the same though in not such fancy words. heheh

― stevienixed, Friday, 21 March 2008 14:28 (eighteen years ago)

BTW does anyone have the lindsay lohan sex tape? YSI please.

― stevienixed, Friday, 21 March 2008 14:29 (eighteen years ago)

Sigh no more, ladies, sigh nor more;
Men were deceivers ever;
One foot in sea and one on shore,
To one thing constant never;
Then sigh not so,
But let them go,
And be you blithe and bonny;
Converting all your sounds of woe
Into: Hey nonny, nonny.

― warmsherry, Friday, 21 March 2008 14:34 (eighteen years ago)

i have changed my answer to "no."

― deeznuts, Saturday, 22 March 2008 03:08 (eighteen years ago)

i've found that a shot of jameson helps with.. endurance.

― rockapads, Saturday, 22 March 2008 04:26 (eighteen years ago)

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