Guilt

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Have you ever felt very guilty about saying some bitchy or slightly mean things about a person once you got to know them a bit more, or when they unexpectedly do something nice for you? Especially if they don't know you've made these comments?

I feel like such a jerk tonight.

― Nicole, Friday, 30 November 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Maybe the reason you said those things was that they WERE being jerky when they met YOU, and feel exactly the same way. If that's the case, there's nothing to worry about. Two of my best friends ever, the circumstances of my meeting them were inauspicious to say the least - the first one threw me out of her house and blamed me for using her phone to call overseas, the second one I had a fight in a bar with after he accused me of stealing his sunglasses (which looked the exact same as mine). After all the misunderstandings were sorted out I ended up getting along great with both of them, with that extra 'bonding' factor, i.e. inevitable huge bust-up out of the way already, so everything cool afterwards no matter what!

― dave q, Saturday, 1 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

its worse when they know you made the comments.

― di, Saturday, 1 December 2001 01:00 (twenty-four years ago)

twelve years pass...

Is there a word for when people channel guilty feelings about how someone is being treated into anger at that person? I see this in public response to a lot of social problems and also in how my four-year-old reacts when she gets in trouble for hitting.

― Immediate Follower (NA), Monday, 21 July 2014 14:49 (eleven years ago)

Or is that just a natural component of guilt?

― Immediate Follower (NA), Monday, 21 July 2014 15:11 (eleven years ago)

I think so

― blap setter (darraghmac), Monday, 21 July 2014 16:28 (eleven years ago)

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