Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

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There's a whole heap of new shit on OKC. Fuck it!

― dog latin (dog latin), Thursday, 22 July 2004 08:05 (5 years ago) Permalink

Why do I have to be at work when there's a super cool "spot the virgin" game on there. fuck this.

― dog latin (dog latin), Thursday, 22 July 2004 08:22 (5 years ago) Permalink

Oh!! I'm on there now! starryvs is my user name! I've read none of the threads about this so GO GO GO, who are you all on there? Lets COMPARE!

― Sarah (starry), Thursday, 22 July 2004 08:22 (5 years ago) Permalink

So far I have been wooed by a punk fan at Goldsmiths and someone who wants to know where he can play online Scrabble.

Marvellous!

― Sarah (starry), Thursday, 22 July 2004 08:25 (5 years ago) Permalink

Starry I am crueller than you but you are more into drugs. Which sounds about right.

― Liz :x (Liz :x), Thursday, 22 July 2004 08:54 (5 years ago) Permalink

Liz how do I find YOU on it?! I don't know how this works!!

― Sarah (starry), Thursday, 22 July 2004 08:58 (5 years ago) Permalink

I am wintryme. There used to be a box down at the bottom of the page where you could search for people. I used the Compare Two Users thing.

― Liz :x (Liz :x), Thursday, 22 July 2004 08:59 (5 years ago) Permalink

Yes but what does "radcliffy" mean?

― Sarah (starry), Thursday, 22 July 2004 09:07 (5 years ago) Permalink

radcliffy = oxbridge

― dog latin (dog latin), Thursday, 22 July 2004 09:08 (5 years ago) Permalink

I couldn't track down a definitive list of people, but I am akendoha.

― dog latin (dog latin), Thursday, 22 July 2004 09:08 (5 years ago) Permalink

Dunno. There's a glossary somewhere. Anyway, I'm more whatever it is than you.

xpost REALLY dl? Haha that's actually true as well.

― Liz :x (Liz :x), Thursday, 22 July 2004 09:08 (5 years ago) Permalink

liz - i think that's what it's supposed to mean anyway.

― dog latin (dog latin), Thursday, 22 July 2004 09:12 (5 years ago) Permalink

Dude. Btw I am crap at the virgin game, although I'm better at spotting virginal boys than girls.

― Liz :x (Liz :x), Thursday, 22 July 2004 09:14 (5 years ago) Permalink

bah! work stops me doing the virgin game.

― dog latin (dog latin), Thursday, 22 July 2004 09:14 (5 years ago) Permalink

I can't believe those bastards send you a mail about the new site changes. I THOUGHT IT WAS A WOO.

― Ronan (Ronan), Thursday, 22 July 2004 10:10 (5 years ago) Permalink

At least they haven't ruined it a la allmusic

― hmmm (hmmm), Thursday, 22 July 2004 10:25 (5 years ago) Permalink

I really like the way that the "real life friends" button says "BECKON THEM"!!!

― Sarah (starry), Thursday, 22 July 2004 10:41 (5 years ago) Permalink

It won't let me add mine at the moment, so it says, rather hurtfully, that I have 'no real friends'.

― Liz :x (Liz :x), Thursday, 22 July 2004 10:48 (5 years ago) Permalink

My best score on the virgin test is 65%. I suck.

― dog latin (dog latin), Thursday, 22 July 2004 12:15 (5 years ago) Permalink

Wow. I got about 54%. It's not a skill that I am particularlt displeased not to have though. I rarely go hunting for virgins.

― hmmm (hmmm), Thursday, 22 July 2004 12:17 (5 years ago) Permalink

I'm loving the Compare tool today. I am kinkier yet less indie than Carsmile.

Hey! I'm getting better at spotting virgins! 66%.

― Liz :x (Liz :x), Thursday, 22 July 2004 12:37 (5 years ago) Permalink

I am roxymuzak, obv.

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Thursday, 22 July 2004 14:21 (5 years ago) Permalink

Friends networks! Virgin games! IT'S FULL OF STARS!

― Gregory Henry (Gregory Henry), Thursday, 22 July 2004 14:36 (5 years ago) Permalink

you'd think you'd get better at the virgin game but you don't.

― dog latin (dog latin), Thursday, 22 July 2004 14:37 (5 years ago) Permalink

So true.

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Thursday, 22 July 2004 14:39 (5 years ago) Permalink

I did poorly on the virgin game, even though I thought all of the following would hold true:

girls with teeny-emo webcam shots = 14-year-old virgins
dorky girls with dorm-room pictures = college-freshman virgins
young boys trying hard to look "nice" = virgins
people with photos in apartments or bars = not virgins

My world is all topsy-turvy now.

― nabiscothingy, Thursday, 22 July 2004 14:40 (5 years ago) Permalink

How did I get 50% on a 21-question test?

― Gregory Henry (Gregory Henry), Thursday, 22 July 2004 14:47 (5 years ago) Permalink

One of them had had a blowjob.

― Alba (Alba), Thursday, 22 July 2004 14:51 (5 years ago) Permalink

magic.

― dog latin (dog latin), Thursday, 22 July 2004 14:51 (5 years ago) Permalink

how the fuck did it come up with the statistics at the end? how did it know who'd had sex within an hour of the test? Actually I don't ever remember it asking me if i was a virgin in the first place.

― dog latin (dog latin), Thursday, 22 July 2004 14:53 (5 years ago) Permalink

There's a "how many people have you, well, you know?" on the Type Test though, no?

― Gregory Henry (Gregory Henry), Thursday, 22 July 2004 14:53 (5 years ago) Permalink

oh. okay.

― dog latin (dog latin), Thursday, 22 July 2004 14:54 (5 years ago) Permalink

Isn't this frivolous application of collected responses against some kind of data protection act? Have these people agreed to have their profiles turned into a spot-the-virgin game?

― Alba (Alba), Thursday, 22 July 2004 14:56 (5 years ago) Permalink

You can opt out in your settings.

― nabiscothingy, Thursday, 22 July 2004 14:57 (5 years ago) Permalink

yes. it says it in the FAQ and sort of in a roundabout way on the front page. you can request it to be taken off if you so wish too.

― dog latin (dog latin), Thursday, 22 July 2004 14:58 (5 years ago) Permalink

Oh, fucking hell. I just did the whole thing and then got an error page at the end so I don't know what my score is.

― Alba (Alba), Thursday, 22 July 2004 15:13 (5 years ago) Permalink

Bah. So did I.

― marvin wang (marvin wang), Thursday, 22 July 2004 15:31 (5 years ago) Permalink

The relevant page, post email provision (http://www.okcupid.com/signup) is down. Maybe if they fix it I can refresh the page later.

― Alba (Alba), Thursday, 22 July 2004 15:34 (5 years ago) Permalink

Still don't know what I got the first time, but I did it again and only got 38% correct, which is appalling. So I did it again, trying to go more for the obvious choice this time, and got 71%.

It says: "In general, males are about as good as females at spotting virgins. But females almost always guess correctly with female pairs."

Unless my logic is skewy, surely this also implies that men alomst always guess correctly with male pairs, unless they instead make up all the ground by getting much better scores in the mixed pair ones, which would be very odd.

― Alba (Alba), Saturday, 24 July 2004 15:51 (5 years ago) Permalink

(I think I fucked up the first time by assuming that dumpy, unattractive teenage girls were actually quite promiscuous, as a means of making themselves feel better about themselves, or as a product of sexual abuse. I now feel ashamed of this strategy.)

― Alba (Alba), Saturday, 24 July 2004 15:54 (5 years ago) Permalink

Alba, your logic is wrong - all that tells us is that women must be rather less good at anything but female pairs, and it certainly doesn't imply what you infer.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Saturday, 24 July 2004 19:12 (5 years ago) Permalink

But how do the two sexes end up being about as good as each other overall? There are only three sections to the test - m/m, f/f and f/m. They must be losing ground to the men on one of the sections other than f/f. If it's f/m, then as I said, that's weird. If it's m/m then then male contestants must be, as I said, as good at that as the female ones are at f/f.

― Alba (Alba), Saturday, 24 July 2004 20:09 (5 years ago) Permalink

(I'm struggling to articulate why I can't countenance the possibilty that they would be better at f/m and the same as men at m/m. I guess that's where I'm stepping out of strict reason)

― Alba (Alba), Saturday, 24 July 2004 20:14 (5 years ago) Permalink

Hang on, now I'm confused.

― Alba (Alba), Saturday, 24 July 2004 20:15 (5 years ago) Permalink

you're not alone.

― cºzen (Cozen), Saturday, 24 July 2004 20:16 (5 years ago) Permalink

Oh. I confused myself by making a typo - in the post three above I mean "I can't countenance the possibility that they would be worse at f/m and the same as men at m/m."

― Alba (Alba), Saturday, 24 July 2004 20:17 (5 years ago) Permalink

I've played around with some examples of possible averages and see my logic was indeed skewy. For a 70% overall score, it could be:

Women

f/f = 90
m/f = 75
m/m= 45

Men =

f/f = 68%
m/f = 75%
m/m = 67%

Which would be mean men are better at spotting m/f than either m/m or f/f. Hmm.. that would also be weird. Other combinations I've tried result in both sexes being bettter at spotting female virgins than male ones, which seem noteworthy enough for them to put up on the website.

Can you come up with a set of average scores that fits what we know without any interesting implications at all?

― Alba (Alba), Saturday, 24 July 2004 20:38 (5 years ago) Permalink

I always spoil everything.

― Alba (Alba), Saturday, 24 July 2004 21:21 (5 years ago) Permalink

I can't stop looking at her:

ihttp://www.okcupid.com/profile?pic=0&tuid=8878330946154156249

― cºzen (Cozen), Saturday, 24 July 2004 22:59 (5 years ago) Permalink

Ew. I can.

― roxymuzak (roxymuzak), Saturday, 24 July 2004 23:07 (5 years ago) Permalink

Skipping 821 messages at this point... Click here if you want to load them all.

so uh do it if you like bowling?

― Maria, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 02:04 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

I don't like the IMing because there's real-time pressure to agree to a date. You can turn it off in settings...

― ljubljana, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 02:14 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

risk of seeing ppl one knows in real life om okcupid kinda freaks me out tbh. like once i sent a girl a message and it was killy. o-O

― ian, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 02:17 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

did her status not say she had a boyfriend??

― quaq quao, sweetie (electricsound), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 02:20 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

she was single iirc

― ian, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 02:23 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

Argh I still have an okc profile wtf. I just edited the whole thing so it gives away as little info as possible. And says I like futurama. Also, the photo on it appears to be at least 8 years old and I have brick red and blonde hair.

― i obtain much semillon (Trayce), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 02:29 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

ok i just read the last week of this thread - lol what the fuck lorax. i'm kinda mad at all of u for scaring away this delicate aspie flower, how about soem constructive criticism instead of snickering at him like he is the uncool kid at school

― spergliacci (cankles), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 02:54 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

bowling is really fun! and there is usually beer!

― paragon of incalescence (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 03:07 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

the secret to bowling: do it exactly the same every time = win
i don't know what the secret to winning dating is tho. possibly not that.

― paragon of incalescence (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 03:10 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

Yeah I love bowling. I'd be psyched to be asked on a bowling date tbh.

― bear say hi to me (ENBB), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 04:19 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

me too.

― sarahel, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 04:20 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

So the secret to winning at dating is to finger the balls as deftly as possible and then throw them down a hallway... wait, thats not right.

― i obtain much semillon (Trayce), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 04:27 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

No, the secret is not to put too much spin on things, and if you're just starting out, it's okay to put it between your legs and push.

― sarahel, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 04:31 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

did he own a possum?

<3 this and all the bowling jokes

― mh, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 04:41 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

The secret is not to put too much spin on things, and if you're just starting out, it's okay to put it between your legs and push.

Really good general advice for the graduates imo.

― all yoga attacks are fire based (rogermexico.), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 04:42 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

but seriously, if i signed up on that site, i'd probably do something like post a picture of myself wearing a Child Abuse band t-shirt standing in front of an elementary school, that would seem funny at the time, but probably a bad idea in terms of attracting dates.

― sarahel, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 04:59 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

well, it would probably attract a few people who get it and a lot of people who "get it" and would annoy you and think they know you.

― all yoga attacks are fire based (rogermexico.), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 05:22 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

lj would be on it tho

― mookieproof, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 05:29 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

xp - at least it would probably deter guys who want kids.

― sarahel, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 06:37 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

wait, there are guys who want kids?

― ms. thighs (tehresa), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 06:39 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

I read somewhere that bowling actually was the perfect activity for a first date... not as much interaction as going for a coffee or dinner, but not as little as going to watch a movie. Or maybe I made it up?

― one boob is free with one (daavid), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 06:57 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

tza I've been with a couple of guys who desperately wanted kids! (so they were shit out of luck with me). It is interesting how few guy actively want kids though: I run with the theory many men just let it happen.

― i obtain much semillon (Trayce), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 07:26 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

I want kids eventually

― But no hope for norwegian posters, sorry. (Curt1s Stephens), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 07:37 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

eventually

the cunning escape clause

― niggaz thought M.A.S stand for mop and shit (sic), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 09:13 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

"why don't girls like me with all my lovable flaws PS i just rudely brushed off a girl for having a flaw"

This is why I cannot be bothered with online dating, TBH.

― The Paisley (shop) Window Pane (Masonic Boom), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 11:39 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

you gotta kiss a lot of ~~frogs~~ loraxes to find your ~~prince~~ captain

― niggaz thought M.A.S stand for mop and shit (sic), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 11:46 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

My captain, he is looking for me. High and low. On the seven seas.

But I've given up looking for him, and am sticking to wasting my time on twitter.

― The Paisley (shop) Window Pane (Masonic Boom), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 11:48 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

and there is usually beer!

That's what he said! Hey, I was convinced.

I think I might turn IMs off, people are annoying me.

― I would feel confident if I dated her because I am older than (Laurel), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 14:45 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

Wait so did you meet up with him?!

― bear say hi to me (ENBB), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 14:45 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

No no, it's going to be a while. I'm actually kind of too busy til after Thanksgiving, which I know sounds crazy.

― I would feel confident if I dated her because I am older than (Laurel), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 14:53 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

Oooooooohhhhhhhh. The way you put it yesterday I thought you meant he wanted to go out last night!

― bear say hi to me (ENBB), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 14:58 (2 weeks ago) Permalink

This website works btw.

― I am not a pervert ... I am an aesthete (King Boy Pato), Tuesday, 3 November 2009 21:58 (6 days ago) Bookmark

you said it bro

― joekin' phoenix (country matters), Monday, 9 November 2009 03:09 (1 week ago) Permalink

guess who's back

back again

― gin & diatonic (sic), Monday, 9 November 2009 04:02 (1 week ago) Permalink

Suddenly I have all these emails and I'm leaving down for 5 days! Bad timing. But ok because it gives me time to get psyched up to do this right. Usually I worry to death about whether the guy likes me enough and never think about whether I like him. This time, I will be RUTHLESS and HEARTLESS and cut them down like stalks of grain instead of trying to win their approval. That sounds like a good plan, right?

― I would feel confident if I dated her because I am older than (Laurel), Monday, 9 November 2009 14:44 (1 week ago) Permalink

Whoo go Laurel! You will have too many options not to anyway ;)

― Maria, Monday, 9 November 2009 15:23 (1 week ago) Permalink

Fine line. Trying to be interested in anyone besides the ex because, uh, there's a reason he's "ex," but only his type really appeals. Except, y'know...better.

― I would feel confident if I dated her because I am older than (Laurel), Monday, 9 November 2009 15:37 (1 week ago) Permalink

Yeah, it's hard to know when you're maybe interested vs. giving someone a chance vs. leading them on, too...I guess that's the point of actual dates, you figure this out, but sometimes it's just more trouble than fun.

― Maria, Monday, 9 November 2009 15:53 (1 week ago) Permalink

I will summon my inner heartless bitch as soon as I get back from the left coast.

― I would feel confident if I dated her because I am older than (Laurel), Monday, 9 November 2009 15:54 (1 week ago) Permalink

i signed up 4 this over the wkend. eep!
first convo i had w/ someone was abt jodorowsky ! tho, im a little worried that she has no picture

― johnny crunch, Monday, 9 November 2009 16:01 (1 week ago) Permalink

er...ask for email picture? seems a bit awkward but i think it's fair given that it's not just a friends-making site....

am currently attempting to meet people by spending more time at the grad student bar. so far working socially but not romantically, but i figure a) the more friends i have the more friends-of-friends i can meet, and b) the fact that two friends i go with frequently are really hot does NOT HELP.

― Maria, Monday, 9 November 2009 16:06 (1 week ago) Permalink

Hm well, yes to the "socially" part. Plus, let's face it, while we wd all like to find twoo wuv, ultimately the most stable thing you got is the friends that think you're rad. Cold comfort when you're going home alone and everyone else is paired off, I guess, but more lasting.

― I would feel confident if I dated her because I am older than (Laurel), Monday, 9 November 2009 16:13 (1 week ago) Permalink

and at least half my friends are in long-distance relationships so they're lonely and want to hang out more too. too bad for them, lucky for me.

― Maria, Monday, 9 November 2009 16:16 (1 week ago) Permalink

yea i guess i will if we keep talkin...im ok w/ just a friendly vibe for now

i need more ppl who will go out 2 bars w/ me, preferrably not late on wknights tho

― johnny crunch, Monday, 9 November 2009 16:17 (1 week ago) Permalink

Late on weeknights is the best time to go out! Happy hour is a douchebag blue-light special almost everywhere and weekends are too busy. But I understand it's not rly convenient if you have a long trip home on a Tuesday.

― I would feel confident if I dated her because I am older than (Laurel), Monday, 9 November 2009 16:20 (1 week ago) Permalink

Definitely but it's hard to get up in the morning when you're out late on weeknights!

― Maria, Monday, 9 November 2009 16:22 (1 week ago) Permalink

I am going to maybe sign up now, now that I have no interest in this "twoo wuv" that Laurel mentions

― mh, Tuesday, 10 November 2009 22:12 (1 week ago) Permalink

Ah, but how wuv can strike when you're just there to test the waters...

My own equivalent of Pato's girl's "it's like we've already been on 20 dates" line was "It's like beginning a relationship halfway through a relationship", which was somewhat lovely to hear. All I need now is for sic to turn up and observe that as we'd only known each other IRL for less than 5 hours before we were hooked up, I'd be out on my arse by dawn.

― the juddering triumph of camembert (acoleuthic), Wednesday, 11 November 2009 01:26 (1 week ago) Permalink

(May I stress that over 350 often lengthy and of course exuberantly-written emails were exchanged over a period of 3-4 months prior to meeting up)

― the juddering triumph of camembert (acoleuthic), Wednesday, 11 November 2009 01:27 (1 week ago) Permalink

guess who's back

back again

― zing touch me I'm (sic), Wednesday, 11 November 2009 11:54 (1 week ago) Permalink

i signed up for this yesterday. :S

― a hoy hoy, Wednesday, 11 November 2009 11:57 (1 week ago) Permalink

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