self-sabotage

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anyone here prone to this: deliberately fucking things up, so at least you know when they're going to fuck up, rather than being surprised by it when you least expect...

― Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Thursday, 10 June 2004 11:38 (twenty-two years ago)

someone accused me of this the other day! that's why i'm asking.

― Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Thursday, 10 June 2004 11:40 (twenty-two years ago)

i think it's a stupid idea and don't think i do, but do people do it or is it nonsense cod-psycholgy?

― Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Thursday, 10 June 2004 11:48 (twenty-two years ago)

you knew this thread would fail didn't you?

― chris (chris), Thursday, 10 June 2004 11:49 (twenty-two years ago)

Subconsciously I do this, mostly in terms of provoking arguments.

― Markelby (Mark C), Thursday, 10 June 2004 11:53 (twenty-two years ago)

haha, but don't you start chris - it's a serious question! i think it's a nutty concept, myself, but i'm curious to see how many people buy into the theory.

― Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Thursday, 10 June 2004 11:54 (twenty-two years ago)

I think loads of people do this.

― Ronan (Ronan), Thursday, 10 June 2004 11:55 (twenty-two years ago)

yeah, mark, i'm pretty combative and i do piss people off, often deliberately, but i don't do it to screw myself over, i do it to annoy them!

― Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Thursday, 10 June 2004 11:55 (twenty-two years ago)

well, to a certain extent everyone does it anyway, it could equally be described as just damage limitation, and I mean as regards the emotional form of this, surely nobody goes around flinging their emotions freely about, to all and sundry, or their time for that matter. it's just a particularly extreme version of natural human defensiveness.

― Ronan (Ronan), Thursday, 10 June 2004 11:56 (twenty-two years ago)

damage limitation

now that's quite a valid point, put that way. the main reason i laughed at it was the term itself, i think - sounds like something you'd hear on oprah.

― Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Thursday, 10 June 2004 11:59 (twenty-two years ago)

I never fuck anything up.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Thursday, 10 June 2004 12:08 (twenty-two years ago)

How's the ankle?

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Thursday, 10 June 2004 12:25 (twenty-two years ago)

I had a roommate who, if he wasn't sure if he wanted to keep something or throw it away, would smash it with a hammer to make the choice easier.

I know some people with discipline problems that routinely, purposely fuck up because it's not "normal" for them to have things go well.

― dave225 (Dave225), Thursday, 10 June 2004 12:30 (twenty-two years ago)

guilty - i was afraid of success in the past because it was the unknown, failure was familiar and i endured it. or so i thought (actually yes this was bullshit and really i was just lazy and absent-minded).

― stevem (blueski), Thursday, 10 June 2004 12:32 (twenty-two years ago)

I do this consciously and deliberately all the fucking time

― TOMBOT, Thursday, 10 June 2004 13:14 (twenty-two years ago)

It tingles, like licking a battery!

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Thursday, 10 June 2004 13:18 (twenty-two years ago)

Shell from Big Brother's sister's really nice

― Robbie Lumsden (Wallace Stevens HQ), Thursday, 10 June 2004 13:18 (twenty-two years ago)

The Best Way to Break Up

(sorry)

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Thursday, 10 June 2004 13:21 (twenty-two years ago)

five years pass...

i was having a relatively good day. then i went googling for pictures of gas chambers they use at animal shelters. now i want to die.

what the fuck is wrong with me?

― what a delightfully quirky new voice! (bug), Friday, 3 July 2009 00:26 (sixteen years ago)

wait - why on Earth would you do that?! Just thinking about it is enough to make me (;_;)

― some american borad (ENBB), Friday, 3 July 2009 02:08 (sixteen years ago)

Alex Chilton owns this thread

― Mike Crandle, Financial Analyst, Bear Stearns, New York, NY 10185 (res), Friday, 3 July 2009 02:21 (sixteen years ago)

wait - why on Earth would you do that?! Just thinking about it is enough to make me (;_;)

― some american borad (ENBB), Thursday, July 2, 2009 9:08 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark

i can't even tell you. but i suspect it has to do with the subject of this thread.

― what a delightfully quirky new voice! (bug), Friday, 3 July 2009 05:51 (sixteen years ago)

OK fair point.

I used to self-sabotage things all the time but I try not to do it so much anymore.

― some american borad (ENBB), Friday, 3 July 2009 05:56 (sixteen years ago)

i've been pretty good about it lately, actually.

― what a delightfully quirky new voice! (bug), Friday, 3 July 2009 06:08 (sixteen years ago)

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