what do you call a male mistress?

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So I have a boyfriend, and recently got together with another guy. Moral issues aside, what do I call this new guy? I call him 'the other man' to his face, but that's a bit long. Is there a male equivilant to 'my mistress'?

Vamp, Monday, 10 November 2003 11:28 (10 years ago) Permalink

Cuckolder?

Citizen Kate (kate), Monday, 10 November 2003 11:30 (10 years ago) Permalink

toyboy

the surface noise (electricsound), Monday, 10 November 2003 11:31 (10 years ago) Permalink

sonny

the surface noise (electricsound), Monday, 10 November 2003 11:31 (10 years ago) Permalink

Dick?

Alex K (Alex K), Monday, 10 November 2003 11:33 (10 years ago) Permalink

Vampon.

The Grand Took, Monday, 10 November 2003 11:38 (10 years ago) Permalink

Cicisbeo.

cis (cis), Monday, 10 November 2003 11:51 (10 years ago) Permalink

concubine (note this is actually offical term in france, i tease a friend of mine as that what is on all his paperwork)

H (Heruy), Monday, 10 November 2003 11:58 (10 years ago) Permalink

Idiot?

Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Monday, 10 November 2003 12:37 (10 years ago) Permalink

bitch?

Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Monday, 10 November 2003 12:38 (10 years ago) Permalink

bit on the side

stevem (blueski), Monday, 10 November 2003 12:59 (10 years ago) Permalink

Bit of trouser?

Citizen Kate (kate), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:00 (10 years ago) Permalink

boy #2

penelope (penelope), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:12 (10 years ago) Permalink

First alternate?

Matt (Matt), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:13 (10 years ago) Permalink

Whatever his name is?

Matt (Matt), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:14 (10 years ago) Permalink

The Gimp

smee (smee), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:14 (10 years ago) Permalink

bob

Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:15 (10 years ago) Permalink

filthy ho

penelope (penelope), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:15 (10 years ago) Permalink

sloppy seconds

Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:17 (10 years ago) Permalink

Only if he himself has another bit on the side surely?

Matt (Matt), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:20 (10 years ago) Permalink

In which case it should be Revolving Boy

Matt (Matt), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:20 (10 years ago) Permalink

"a bit on the side" seconded.

Pashmina (Pashmina), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:21 (10 years ago) Permalink

Craigette.

colin s barrow (colin s barrow), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:27 (10 years ago) Permalink

no he IS the sloppy seconds if he has to share a woman with another guy!

Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:28 (10 years ago) Permalink

Surely he GETS sloppy seconds? Anyway, I still like Revolving Boy.

Matt (Matt), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:32 (10 years ago) Permalink

Fancy Man

Nicolars (Nicole), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:33 (10 years ago) Permalink

throbbing gristle

penelope (penelope), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:34 (10 years ago) Permalink

oh either way, he is a sap

Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:35 (10 years ago) Permalink

Right, agreed. Sap it is. Can we compromise on Revolving Sap?

Matt (Matt), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:36 (10 years ago) Permalink

Male Whore? Manslut?

Jay Dee Sah Mon (Kingfish), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:55 (10 years ago) Permalink

Pudding Boy

colin s barrow (colin s barrow), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:56 (10 years ago) Permalink

i guess misteress is too confusing...

colette (a2lette), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:56 (10 years ago) Permalink

gruff-faced stableman?

Jay Dee Sah Mon (Kingfish), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:56 (10 years ago) Permalink

Male Whore? Manslut?


I think you mean ManHo....

smee (smee), Monday, 10 November 2003 13:57 (10 years ago) Permalink

MASTER

Pashmina (Pashmina), Monday, 10 November 2003 14:02 (10 years ago) Permalink

MANHO

nickalicious (nickalicious), Monday, 10 November 2003 14:03 (10 years ago) Permalink

Pashmina (Pashmina), Monday, 10 November 2003 14:05 (10 years ago) Permalink

Man In The Slips
Square-Leg Umpire

William Bloody Swygart (mrswygart), Monday, 10 November 2003 14:11 (10 years ago) Permalink

_____o ______ington

nickalicious (nickalicious), Monday, 10 November 2003 14:16 (10 years ago) Permalink

dude, it's Dave Foley as The Escapist!

Jay Dee Sah Mon (Kingfish), Monday, 10 November 2003 14:31 (10 years ago) Permalink

Toyboy? Boytoy?

Ben Mott (Ben Mott), Monday, 10 November 2003 14:45 (10 years ago) Permalink

Gigolo, if he's getting financial or other material rewards.

j.lu (j.lu), Monday, 10 November 2003 15:27 (10 years ago) Permalink

Auxiliary Sexgiver

stevem (blueski), Monday, 10 November 2003 15:31 (10 years ago) Permalink

Mister -- as in "hey, gee, Mister, thanks for the orgasm!"

Colin Meeder (Mert), Monday, 10 November 2003 16:23 (10 years ago) Permalink

I'm still boggling at the "male mistress" thing. Is your new boy a transvestite?

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 10 November 2003 17:18 (10 years ago) Permalink

First Runner-Up

Prude (Prude), Monday, 10 November 2003 17:44 (10 years ago) Permalink

i like kate's.

typo acapulco (gcannon), Monday, 10 November 2003 17:57 (10 years ago) Permalink

Why? What's he like?

Lara (Lara), Monday, 10 November 2003 18:00 (10 years ago) Permalink

mistrer

A Nairn (moretap), Monday, 10 November 2003 18:01 (10 years ago) Permalink

bootycall

donut bitch (donut), Monday, 10 November 2003 18:03 (10 years ago) Permalink

Most people call him Charlie, if past experience is anything to go by.

CharlieNo4 (Charlie), Tuesday, 11 November 2003 17:19 (10 years ago) Permalink

Cuckolds have nothing to do with chickens.

mei (mei), Tuesday, 11 November 2003 17:55 (10 years ago) Permalink

2 years pass...
gig·o·lo ( P )
n. pl. gig·o·los
A man who has a continuing sexual relationship with and receives financial support from a woman.
A man who is hired as an escort or a dancing partner for a woman.

Donkey Show, Tuesday, 22 November 2005 14:39 (8 years ago) Permalink

Cicisbeo

\Ci`cis*be"o\, n.; pl. It. Cicisbei. [It.] 1. A professed admirer of a married woman; a dangler about women

M. White (Miguelito), Tuesday, 22 November 2005 15:22 (8 years ago) Permalink

"But 'Cavalier Servente' is the phrase/Used in politest circles to express/This supernumary slave, who stays/Close to the lady as a part of dress--"

"Beppo," George Gordon, Lord Byron

j.lu (j.lu), Tuesday, 22 November 2005 15:26 (8 years ago) Permalink

Paramour

Oh No, It's Dadaismus (and His Endless Stupid Jokes) (Dada), Tuesday, 22 November 2005 15:27 (8 years ago) Permalink

oh i dangle about like a motherfucker, lemme tellya

geoff (gcannon), Tuesday, 22 November 2005 15:28 (8 years ago) Permalink

No, a fannydangle is something else entirely.

The Damp Is Rising (kate), Tuesday, 22 November 2005 15:29 (8 years ago) Permalink

cad?
A man whose behavior is unprincipled or dishonorable

not-goodwin (not-goodwin), Tuesday, 22 November 2005 15:31 (8 years ago) Permalink

a what now?

geoff (gcannon), Tuesday, 22 November 2005 15:31 (8 years ago) Permalink

I'd forgotten about this thread.

I still stand by Revolving Sap

Matt (Matt), Tuesday, 22 November 2005 15:36 (8 years ago) Permalink

Haha I can't stop laughing at "Auxiliary Sexgiver"

Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Tuesday, 22 November 2005 15:48 (8 years ago) Permalink

Understudy

James Ward (jamesmichaelward), Tuesday, 22 November 2005 15:49 (8 years ago) Permalink

Stuntcock is my fave, but Manstress sounds quite good.

Rumpie, Tuesday, 22 November 2005 15:50 (8 years ago) Permalink

so he gets to put it in you whenever you're feeling randy while some other shmuck buys your tampons, deals with your day to day kvetching, and is browbeaten into going to Thanksgiving dinner with your obnoxious neocon family?

I'd call him smart.

scourge of linden ave, Tuesday, 22 November 2005 16:18 (8 years ago) Permalink

Then again, he's so Nov 10th 2003.

mark grout (mark grout), Tuesday, 22 November 2005 16:19 (8 years ago) Permalink

This thread is two years old and nobody's come up with "Sancho" yet?

Vlad Nauseam, Wednesday, 23 November 2005 00:24 (8 years ago) Permalink

Nicolars is right - the correct expression is Fancy Man.

moley (moley), Wednesday, 23 November 2005 00:51 (8 years ago) Permalink

mister-ess

j b everlovin' r (Jody Beth Rosen), Wednesday, 23 November 2005 00:52 (8 years ago) Permalink

(damn, someone beat me to it)

j b everlovin' r (Jody Beth Rosen), Wednesday, 23 November 2005 00:53 (8 years ago) Permalink

A fancy man.

Aimless (Aimless), Wednesday, 23 November 2005 01:58 (8 years ago) Permalink

mo

gear (gear), Wednesday, 23 November 2005 02:01 (8 years ago) Permalink

Cocksman

kingfish hobo juckie (kingfish 2.0), Wednesday, 23 November 2005 02:14 (8 years ago) Permalink

can't read the thread no time - but ILX junkien to the point of posting moments pre-flight - but the answer is "gigalo"


Wiggy (Wiggy), Wednesday, 23 November 2005 05:57 (8 years ago) Permalink

number one.

tres letraj (tehresa), Wednesday, 23 November 2005 06:00 (8 years ago) Permalink

Male Mistress, surely it's a Mattress.

Billy Dods (Billy Dods), Wednesday, 23 November 2005 08:47 (8 years ago) Permalink

i'm very embarrassed about my post, above.

the answer is DAVE.

CharlieNo4 (Charlie), Wednesday, 23 November 2005 10:21 (8 years ago) Permalink

Himstress

bidfurd__, Wednesday, 23 November 2005 12:27 (8 years ago) Permalink

Collette wins the "search the thread for the answer I would have posted" award for Misteress.

Pete (Pete), Wednesday, 23 November 2005 12:40 (8 years ago) Permalink

What's wrong with the unisex word "lover"?

Tuomas (Tuomas), Wednesday, 23 November 2005 13:09 (8 years ago) Permalink

Haha, the English language proves its poverty once again. We French of course have a word for this, "amant".

Baaderonixx weaves a daisy chain for... SATAN!! (baaderonixx), Wednesday, 23 November 2005 14:18 (8 years ago) Permalink

Isn't that the same as "lover"?

Tuomas (Tuomas), Wednesday, 23 November 2005 14:20 (8 years ago) Permalink

well it's only used for illicit male lovers - male mistresses - if you will.

Baaderonixx weaves a daisy chain for... SATAN!! (baaderonixx), Wednesday, 23 November 2005 14:24 (8 years ago) Permalink

Yeah, I think the Finnish word for lover, "rakastaja", is used in the same sense - always for illicit or at least dubious affairs. "Rakastettu" ("loved one") is the word for morally acceptable lovers.

Tuomas (Tuomas), Wednesday, 23 November 2005 14:37 (8 years ago) Permalink

"Your lover has been vetted by the People's Commissar for Sexing and found to be of the highest moral fiber. You may proceed."

M. White (Miguelito), Wednesday, 23 November 2005 14:51 (8 years ago) Permalink

2 years pass...

wangman

gershy, Thursday, 20 March 2008 02:30 (6 years ago) Permalink

I kinda thought a "mistress" was by definition a kept woman of a powerful/rich and married man, not just any woman a man has an affair with.

Hurting 2, Thursday, 20 March 2008 02:31 (6 years ago) Permalink

wagemann?

John Justen, Thursday, 20 March 2008 02:33 (6 years ago) Permalink

Roguish, rakish, and a scoundrel. Mmmmm.

kenan, Thursday, 20 March 2008 05:32 (6 years ago) Permalink

mattress

latebloomer, Thursday, 20 March 2008 05:36 (6 years ago) Permalink

blogger

El Tomboto, Thursday, 20 March 2008 07:15 (6 years ago) Permalink

Cicisbeo What a freaking awesome word, it's like a Cocteau Twins song title. Which is funny because they also have one called "My Love Paramour" .

Trayce, Thursday, 20 March 2008 11:38 (6 years ago) Permalink

background bonker

Tracer Hand, Thursday, 20 March 2008 11:47 (6 years ago) Permalink

mistermeanor

estela, Thursday, 20 March 2008 12:01 (6 years ago) Permalink

Special Reserve

Tracer Hand, Thursday, 20 March 2008 12:17 (6 years ago) Permalink

rules of cuckoldry and "getting away with it" discussed here -

http://freakytrigger.co.uk/lollards-podcast/2008/03/freaky-trigger-and-the-lollards-of-pop-series-2-week-17/

Tracer Hand, Thursday, 20 March 2008 12:19 (6 years ago) Permalink

concuboy

slugbuggy, Thursday, 20 March 2008 14:43 (6 years ago) Permalink

_____o ______ington
-- nickalicious (nickalicious), Monday, November 10, 2003 2:16 PM (4 years ago) Bookmark Link

i miss jess!

nickalicious, Thursday, 20 March 2008 14:45 (6 years ago) Permalink

\:

Tracer Hand, Thursday, 20 March 2008 14:52 (6 years ago) Permalink

himbo

valoss, Thursday, 20 March 2008 15:48 (6 years ago) Permalink


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