DIY wedding music

anyway, going back to the thread, sorta, i think most of my friends were happy to dance to a bunch of prince songs in a row. not because we used to do that together - i'm not much of a dancer and hadn't really danced with friends on a regular basis since my early 20s - and not because prince is awesome - although obviously that - but because it was me and my partner's night, and we were very happy to be dancing to prince and hoped that they would be too. i don't know. maybe i'm alone in that, but if i go to a friend's wedding and he's super into ben folds five, then for that night i am going to channel my BFF fan days and hope that they play a deep cut from whatever and ever amen

I'm currently planning on doing this for my own wedding (DIY DJing from my own playlist(s)) so this thread has been useful food for thought. Unfortunately, I lost the argument that our first dance should be to "Feel U Up" by Prince and we are instead opting for the more palatable "I Only Have Eyes for You" by the Flamingos so I will definitely goose the playlist with loads of Prince, including "Feel U Up" somewhere deeper in the mix.

My husband and I made our own playlists and got my cousin to be in charge of switching as needed. We had time period playlists ie before dinner, during, first few hours after, “people are drunk now” and for the most part the decades went in line as well- 40s and 50s stuff before, 60s during dinner, start dancing with the 70sish. We kicked the dancing time off with Rockin’ Robin and made sure to have Crazy in Love. Around midnight, I sequenced a rick roll to cut off California Love. Ben Folds loving husband had our first dance be to The Luckiest. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ We did have song requests on our invites so everyone had a small say. Even our friend who always requested NIN’s Closer.

Best laugh to me was us using Then He Kissed Me/Then I Kissed Her back to back for garter and bouquet toss. Whichever was second, someone rushed up to me concerned that the song was starting again.

Ben Folds loving husband had our first dance be to The Luckiest. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

i would be crying my eyes out in the audience. i'm such a sucker for stuff like that <3

It was kinda sweet, except for the bit where the old man watches the kid bike past! Heh

lol

What if I'd been born 50 years before you
In a house on a street where you lived?
Maybe I'd be outside as you passed on your bike
Would I know?

yeah, that is a very odd sentiment from mr folds there! because at first you think, well this could be a grown person riding on a bike, there's nothing inherently - and then you remember "50 years before you", so the best case scenario is that you're born 50 years before a...40 year old, so you're 90, and you're watching her bike and thinking "could that have been the one for me?"

was Howard Marshall II the luckiest?

Re: the weddings are weird comments - yeah I think weddings are pretty weird, especially at my age. Maybe everybody goes through this, but a ton of my friends, including myself, got married within a span of three or four years. It started with "whoa you're getting MARRIED? That seems so SERIOUS!" to "I've been to so many fucking weddings and I'm spending all of my money on plane flights from California to the East Coast" that I kind of never got into them on an sentimental level. Even my own was almost more of an excuse to throw a super elaborate party. Like, it felt great to get married, but it wasn't overly emotional. Probably because it smack in the middle of the Great Wedding Onslaught. People flew to that shit from overseas. I feel guilty about it now if I think about it.

Anyway, this wedding I'm involved in next week... I love the bride and groom so much so I'm mainly just so happy that they are so happy. They do seem pretty lovey-dovey about all of it and it's pretty wonderful. I wish I could feel that way!

Karl I Wanna Be Your Lover is one of the first tracks on my "off the hook" list! We'll see what happens.

Holy crap, Lightning Bolt at a wedding!? I was just concerned about playing Buffalo Stance.

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one piece of advice i got and was too lazy to heed was to give the playlist a quick check to see if there are any with extended outros, silence, strange codas, etc. it didn't end up being too big of a deal at my own - there were definitely a couple times where there was an awkward extended song, and i'd just walk over to the computer/mixer and say whoops! and hit fast forward. but if i would have listened to that ahead of time i probably would have been more prepared, and probably gone to the trouble of doing quick edits of certain tracks to fade them out early or cut at a certain length