re: this thread, I don't think there are many Larson defenders here, but I think she isn't getting talked about more in the thread because it seems pretty open-and-shut - she's an abusive asshole. (Twittersphere, on the other hand, seems more invested in being captain save-an-author).
Dorland seems to get more attention because there are some that don't think she did was a big deal. and no, I wouldn't put Dorland's actions on the scale of what Larson did whatsoever, and I don't think her donation is diminished by her need for attention, because as i've mentioned, a life was saved. who cares why.
but being someone who has been friends with several emotional vampires over the years, they can be exhausting and actually have a deleterious effect on your mental health. Unlike Larson, a lot of them don't necessarily understand that they're doing it to you, and no, they don't deserve to be mocked behind your back (being open and honest with them can help the behavior).
but I'm pretty sure I know what ILX would do to a Dorland if they showed up here instead of a FB group.
― Gardyloominati (Neanderthal), Monday, 11 October 2021 13:49 (two years ago) link
that being said, I am enjoying watching Larson get taken down many pegs this last week
― Gardyloominati (Neanderthal), Monday, 11 October 2021 13:50 (two years ago) link
Yeah I’ve changed my mind and come to the conclusion Larson is the asshole here.
― And of course the worms! (Boring, Maryland), Monday, 11 October 2021 14:24 (two years ago) link
...So Dawn the Kidney Person comes off as a washed up writer desperate to validate her sad existence with Facebook likes. Which okay...but she did deliberately limit her kidney news to a small private group (30 out of 1,000+ friends)... pic.twitter.com/iOaaC9sxbK— Dan Nguyen (everyone you love decomposing to bones (@dancow) October 8, 2021
― St. Twel'mo, or the Cuneiform Cyclopedist of Chattanooga (President Keyes), Monday, 11 October 2021 14:38 (two years ago) link
this resulting in larson getting her story reviewed and panned by the new yorker is hilarious
― call all destroyer, Monday, 11 October 2021 14:43 (two years ago) link
hah yeah.
― Gardyloominati (Neanderthal), Monday, 11 October 2021 14:44 (two years ago) link
I don't think this from Michael Hobbes has been posted yet, but I thought it was good: https://rottenindenmark.org/2021/10/10/identifying-the-bad-art-friend-is-easy
I will admit that my initial sympathies leaned toward Larson, based in part on the way Dorland was depicted in the NYT article. Like, it seemed like she was haranguing everyone she knew to ask why they hadn't asked her about the kidney donation, and I thought "Chill out, no one has an obligation to you." But some of the evidence revealed in the lawsuits suggests that Dorland may have specifically reached out to Larson because she suspected Larson was "lurking for the lulz" (as someone else put it).
― jaymc, Monday, 11 October 2021 14:56 (two years ago) link
Yes, the fact that this was a limited audience changes things a lot.
― treeship., Monday, 11 October 2021 15:02 (two years ago) link
Oh, "lurking for the lulz" is from that Dan Nguyen thread.
Btw, the size of the Facebook group is in dispute. Hobbes: "Dawn says this group contains 20-30 people, Sonya says it includes 250-300 and a screenshot in the legal filings (from years after it’s set up) shows it with 68 members."
Weirdly, I think this kind of matters! If it was really only 20-30 people, and most people were close friends/family who were actively interacting with the posts, I don't think it would be weird to reach out to someone who wasn't and say "Hey, are you actually interested in this, I can't tell." If it's 250-300, then there are probably a fair number of acquaintances, most people probably aren't interacting with the posts on a regular basis, and it would be weird to contact any one of those people to say "Yo, what's up."
― jaymc, Monday, 11 October 2021 15:04 (two years ago) link
Since Dorland seemingly didn't contact Larson until Larson had already started working on the story, maybe she just has a sixth sense about evil people
― St. Twel'mo, or the Cuneiform Cyclopedist of Chattanooga (President Keyes), Monday, 11 October 2021 15:07 (two years ago) link
She didn’t trust her and with good reason
― treeship., Monday, 11 October 2021 15:17 (two years ago) link
Keyes otm
it's definitely apparent that the NYT story was structured in a way to do exactly what it did - maximize virality by setting larson/dorland on some sort of equal ground and encouraging everyone to treat it like a moral puzzle, and it did so by playing into the public's natural tendency to ostracize weirdos and cling to nasty social groups. plaxico/james/others itt were right about that. and that honestly seems designed to play into expected twitter social behavior, but it sort of flipped around and now the sleuthy twitter obsessives are probably leaning too far into "dorland is the hero of this story and can do no wrong." people are really eating up every single lawyerly thing dorland's lawyers are putting out and ignoring things she actually said/did on record, and constructing their own canon narrative based on hunches - things twitter people are known to do when it comes to these social scandals. for example, i don't think there's actually much proof at all that dorland approached larson because she was suspicious larson was using her facebook posts for some evil, but that's become canon in some quarters now. including this thread apparently lol. it's still possible that larson is a horrible bully of a person and dorland is still an emotional vampire narcissist, you don't need to rewrite any of that for larson to still be the bad guy in the story.
larson and her friends certainly come off worse and worse the more their chats are revealed though, just awful people and an awful dynamic, another reason i'm glad i gave up on trying to be a 'writer'
― ✖, Monday, 11 October 2021 15:36 (two years ago) link
the thing that really gets me about the chunky monkeys is how this behavior is all filtered through the toxic positivity of emotional/friend/career support, the idea that this is all warranted because it's friends and colleagues SUPPORTIVELY SPEAKING IN ALL CAPS and having each other's backs (because the serious literature writing industry is a hellscape and this sort of soul-sucking social grouping is the only thing people can do to try to get a leg up in it i guess)
― ✖, Monday, 11 October 2021 15:40 (two years ago) link
I like the Hobbes piece that jaymc posted!
I had an early-morning dream of an SNL sketch where Bill Hader, Jason Sudeikis and Andy Samberg describe escalating acts of altruism around a water cooler-- "hey guys I just got back from a marathon!" "hey guys I'm a year sober!" "hey guys I just participated in an anti-racism march!" "hey guys I just donated 25% of my net income this year to help trans people!" and the punch line is Samberg screaming "well I just donated a kidney to a stranger!", and the room gets quiet and Hader says "you are so going down for that"
― kermit the grouch (flamboyant goon tie included), Monday, 11 October 2021 15:51 (two years ago) link
That will never ever happen to you, because you are actually self-aware!!!
this could be a perfect parody of all the writer group-chats i'm aware of, it's incredible
― STOCK FIST-PUMPER BRAD (BradNelson), Monday, 11 October 2021 16:05 (two years ago) link
So much so that if you wrote a satirical short story about toxic intra-writer dynamics it would be a shame not to use that line
― Guayaquil (eephus!), Monday, 11 October 2021 16:08 (two years ago) link
It’s just too good
― kermit the grouch (flamboyant goon tie included), Monday, 11 October 2021 16:13 (two years ago) link
Tbh, I think that my bias against Dorland mostly has to do with my utter antipathy toward overly performative "acts of selflessness." Throughout my life, having dealt with chronic illness both as a witness and as the afflicted, I've seen a lot of people engage in this kind of behavior, and it is abhorrent in the extreme, to my sensibilities. As far as she is an outcast from this group of writers, I feel some empathy for her. But it ends with this public kidney waving bullshit.
― I'm a sovereign jazz citizen (the table is the table), Monday, 11 October 2021 17:30 (two years ago) link
― kermit the grouch (flamboyant goon tie included), Monday, October 11, 2021 8:51 AM (one hour ago) bookmarkflaglink
lol
― Bongo Jongus, Monday, 11 October 2021 17:32 (two years ago) link
this thread is good again
― Tracer Hand, Monday, 11 October 2021 17:42 (two years ago) link
honestly I think fgti's sketch is the story that Larson should have written ...
Tbh, I think that my bias against Dorland mostly has to do with my utter antipathy toward overly performative "acts of selflessness."
yeah, I don't know if my antipathy is "utter" but it is something that definitely grates on me from time to time. I have to tell myself, "at least they aren't bragging about doing something shitty."
But I think it's interesting (to me at least) that people feel compelled to take sides, that the "moral puzzle" requires side-taking.
― sarahell, Monday, 11 October 2021 18:19 (two years ago) link
It reminds me of like an episode of Judge Judy or People's Court where both parties are chastised, required to make amends, and sent on their way and advised not to pursue this further and waste the court's time
― sarahell, Monday, 11 October 2021 18:21 (two years ago) link
Actually -- wait -- I know exactly what specific thing this reminds me of -- and it was a case before the San Francisco Planning Commission Board of Appeals involving a two-member HOA and whether one of the owners was allowed to modify the garage to their unit without permission of the other
― sarahell, Monday, 11 October 2021 18:23 (two years ago) link
I can only imagine how bitter that fight must have been and the very thought makes my whole body want to pucker.
― more difficult than I look (Aimless), Monday, 11 October 2021 18:26 (two years ago) link
neither owner was present at the hearing -- only the lawyers
― sarahell, Monday, 11 October 2021 18:27 (two years ago) link
Now imagining Amanda Palmer donating her kidney.
― jaymc, Monday, 11 October 2021 18:55 (two years ago) link
― jaymc, Monday, October 11, 2021 11:55 AM (twenty-seven seconds ago)
it would destroy the internet tbh
― sarahell, Monday, 11 October 2021 18:56 (two years ago) link
I don't think an actual narcissist would ever donate a kidney
And: I was told today that "starting a Facebook group to keep your friends updated" is precisely what the living organ donor people recommend that you do lol
― kermit the grouch (flamboyant goon tie included), Monday, 11 October 2021 19:05 (two years ago) link
i am guessing that this is meant for people that are actually friends in the, "we take turns driving carpool, have monthly potlucks, exchange gifts on birthdays and holidays" sense ... and not like in the "professional networking" sense.
― sarahell, Monday, 11 October 2021 19:10 (two years ago) link
it's more of like a "in case you were wondering if I'm going to be up to hosting book group at my house next week" and less of a marketing strategy. ... otoh, people can choose to leave FB groups
― sarahell, Monday, 11 October 2021 19:13 (two years ago) link
I think mentioning it on LinkedIn is what you're taught to do, in order to inspire other people to donate. she got criticized for that too but that's something they actually suggest you do.
― Gardyloominati (Neanderthal), Monday, 11 October 2021 19:15 (two years ago) link
various religious denominations teach you to mention your affiliation publicly and encourage others to join ... like, yes, of course, they are going to suggest you essentially proselytize ... it's up to the individual to determine when they should actually do so.
― sarahell, Monday, 11 October 2021 19:21 (two years ago) link
on the bright side i do think that dorland being received as the hero of this story will actually lead a few more people to consider living organ donation.
― ✖, Monday, 11 October 2021 19:35 (two years ago) link
the dumbest and grossest thing about larson and friends were the "what do you expect me to do, GIVE AWAY A BODY PART??" conversation.... like yeah that's what living organ donation is and what its boosters are trying to get more people to do
― ✖, Monday, 11 October 2021 19:37 (two years ago) link
Gary Gilmore donated his eyes to science iirc
― sarahell, Monday, 11 October 2021 19:57 (two years ago) link
narcissus fell in love not with himself but with his reflection
― mens rea activist (k3vin k.), Monday, 11 October 2021 19:57 (two years ago) link
Narcissism is a slippery word. People use it to just mean “self-involved” but it also evokes narcissistic personality disorder in people’s minds. Sometimes there is a motte and bailey aspect to this.
― treeship., Monday, 11 October 2021 20:10 (two years ago) link
The Living Donor Program should really just be like "Donate a kidney! Impress your friends Save a life!"
― kermit the grouch (flamboyant goon tie included), Monday, 11 October 2021 20:31 (two years ago) link
But anyway, the Facebook stuff is moot. Dawn believed Sonya's lie. Later she found the truth — was hurt enough to quietly unfriend Sonya — and yet for TWO YEARS didn't bring it up. How is Dawn "obsessed"? She only went ballistic when she finally saw how much plagiarism there was pic.twitter.com/NBE2MZlT1e— Dan Nguyen (everyone you love decomposing to bones (@dancow) October 8, 2021
― Tsar Bombadil (James Morrison), Monday, 11 October 2021 22:54 (two years ago) link
yeah it’s outrageously craven
― mens rea activist (k3vin k.), Tuesday, 12 October 2021 04:07 (two years ago) link
They seem to not know how fucked it is too. Just kinda one of the tools in their bullying toolkit, and it’s justified because dorland is so bad omg
― treeship., Tuesday, 12 October 2021 11:36 (two years ago) link
This is perhaps the “richest” literary clusterfuck we’ve had. It provoked real discussion.
― treeship., Tuesday, 12 October 2021 11:37 (two years ago) link
I mean did it tho
Different supposedly factual facets of ppl that serve as mere caricature aide memewars for our own often questionable recollections of ppl we didnt like once emerged and changed and in the end here we are treesh, annoying ppl exist and sometimes they form writers clubs and somewhere along the line they realise not everyone else is there to tell only them how wonderful they are full kidney complement or not and it turns toxic
I mean its the oldest story known to man rly
― fix up luke shawp (darraghmac), Tuesday, 12 October 2021 12:53 (two years ago) link
this is where my third-kidney request hits, join me in a better society
― mark s, Tuesday, 12 October 2021 13:33 (two years ago) link
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/kidney-donation-online-dating-site_n_6162fbd6e4b06a986bd09b73
― St. Twel'mo, or the Cuneiform Cyclopedist of Chattanooga (President Keyes), Tuesday, 12 October 2021 14:20 (two years ago) link
A Chunky Monkey says sorry
Whew, this is a hard thread, friends. Here goes. I have been a member of the Chunky Monkeys writing group, as featured in the now-famous Bad Art Friend saga. As of today, I am no longer a member of this group.— Becky Tuch (@BeckyLTuch) October 11, 2021
― Number None, Tuesday, 12 October 2021 14:58 (two years ago) link
Oh shit they lost becky
― fix up luke shawp (darraghmac), Tuesday, 12 October 2021 14:59 (two years ago) link
that is so perfectly written in that stupid twitter thread tone i can't even believe it
― call all destroyer, Tuesday, 12 October 2021 15:05 (two years ago) link
“I am sorry for the role I played, a role that I am too humble to specify here, right now, exactly, but, suffice to say”
― Tracer Hand, Tuesday, 12 October 2021 15:14 (two years ago) link