like as a boring-ass middle class person I can read that and think, wow, even insanely successful Scarlett Johansson has trouble with relationships! she's right, it's a lot of work, I don't have it so bad -- and I guess I am doing a lot of work by being in a relationship
like there is nothing in that article that doesn't put monogamy and marriage up on a pedestal, and there's no inclination SJ is divorced because she just wants to fuck around a lot
― mh 😏, Wednesday, 15 February 2017 16:16 (seven years ago) link
this is literally half of the content at grocery store checkout tabloids
― mh 😏, Wednesday, 15 February 2017 16:17 (seven years ago) link
ugh, sorry for sounding very preachy
but i have for real been trying to evaluate what brings me joy and fulfillment in life because i kind of flamed out after not finding fulfillment OR enjoyment in things i tried and have been resorting to some easy fixes in both categories to the point where things are definitely losing even their brief enjoyment factor
― mh 😏, Wednesday, 15 February 2017 16:21 (seven years ago) link
one reason i loved that unforbidden pleasures article is that i'm naturally inclined that way and always feel guilty about it, like i'm missing out on life because literally my favorite thing to do is read outside when the weather is nice.
― ryan, Wednesday, 15 February 2017 16:30 (seven years ago) link
I did that on a mexican beach once, would highly recommend
― mh 😏, Wednesday, 15 February 2017 16:32 (seven years ago) link
just figured out where the thread title came from and tbh I should have been enjoying that on a beach instead
― mh 😏, Wednesday, 15 February 2017 17:07 (seven years ago) link
Fomo is kinda a trait of cunts I've noticed
― Betsy DeVos Ayes (darraghmac), Wednesday, 15 February 2017 17:10 (seven years ago) link
...And You Will Know Us By the Trail of Cunts
― Neanderthal, Wednesday, 15 February 2017 17:12 (seven years ago) link
hey now
imo it's a trait of insecurity, and only some insecure people play out that insecurity by being cunts
they're the worst, though
― mh 😏, Wednesday, 15 February 2017 17:19 (seven years ago) link
Ok
The fear don't make u a cunt
Typing #fomo does tho
Square?
― Betsy DeVos Ayes (darraghmac), Wednesday, 15 February 2017 17:23 (seven years ago) link
oh wow who even does that
― mh 😏, Wednesday, 15 February 2017 17:25 (seven years ago) link
This statement in the thread "uppers are immoderate and for destructive egotists, downers are the responsible choice of the nurturing selfless" = totally disagree.
Blanket statement if there is one, people can do both. I would say that the downers are less destructive overall, but I don't align with calling people who do uppers egotists.
― Everything Moves Towards The Sun (Ross), Wednesday, 15 February 2017 19:50 (seven years ago) link
IE. you could smoke pot everyday and yes it would seem more innocuous compared to cocaine, but I cannot imagine smoking pot daily for years (which I've done) makes one less of an egotist or more self caring.
― Everything Moves Towards The Sun (Ross), Wednesday, 15 February 2017 19:51 (seven years ago) link
expand yr pool of enjoyment
― Supercreditor (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 15 February 2017 19:55 (seven years ago) link
uh hello
http://ilxor.com/ILX/ThreadSelectedControllerServlet?boardid=60&threadid=2955
― mh 😏, Wednesday, 15 February 2017 20:57 (seven years ago) link
caffeine is an upper guys c'mon
― mh 😏, Wednesday, 15 February 2017 20:58 (seven years ago) link
do I need a friggin coffee mug that says "destructive egoist" on it
the war against drugs really jacked with perceptions
*smokes a cig*
never enjoy anything it will just break your heart
― assawoman bay (harbl), Wednesday, 15 February 2017 21:27 (seven years ago) link
xp to ross - yeah that was supposed to be a self-evidently absurd position i was ascribing to mordy
― ogmor, Wednesday, 15 February 2017 21:40 (seven years ago) link
I think we can say with some certainty anything we like
As long as one exhibits a breeziness whilst doing so
― Betsy DeVos Ayes (darraghmac), Wednesday, 15 February 2017 21:43 (seven years ago) link
i didn't say anything about egoism? xp
― Mordy, Wednesday, 15 February 2017 21:44 (seven years ago) link
if anything i think the thrill of danger/excitement has something to do w/ a nullification of the self - losing oneself in something overwhelming - but generally speaking is irrelevant to this paradigm.
― Mordy, Wednesday, 15 February 2017 21:48 (seven years ago) link
My apologies if I missed that ogmor
― Everything Moves Towards The Sun (Ross), Wednesday, 15 February 2017 21:57 (seven years ago) link
danger is cool because your brain makes adrenaline and endorphins duh
like "oh shit i'm gonna die" doesn't give you joy per se, but you get a blast of the brain chemicals
― mh 😏, Wednesday, 15 February 2017 23:03 (seven years ago) link
Don't forget the pop ev-bio explanations for stupid, dangerous, and otherwise nonadaptive behavior. This is probably a dated and discredited view, but cf. Desmond Morris.
Why do adolescent males do things that are risky and stupid? Because if you do something risky and stupid YET SURVIVE, a female will mate with you. At a subconscious level, she will perceive that your genes are strong, and she wants to have children who will be more likely to survive the Starving Times.
On the other hand, if you die doing the risky stupid thing, then the species was better off without you anyway.
This explains Tom Sawyer doing handstands in front of Becky Thatcher. But it also explains beer bongs, skateboarding, keg stands, Xtreeem sports, "Jackass," stage dives, freebase cocaine, and "Point Break."
Of course girls, women, and older men will do these things too. But that's more a matter of it being in the culture than a biological drive.
― Oh the pacmanity (Ye Mad Puffin), Thursday, 16 February 2017 14:45 (seven years ago) link
Don't forget the pop ev-bio explanations
why?
― ogmor, Thursday, 16 February 2017 14:50 (seven years ago) link
Earlobes are for pair bonding, everybody
― El Tomboto, Thursday, 16 February 2017 15:13 (seven years ago) link
Obviously, and it's no accident that they're a popular location for piercing. Piercing is, of course, a vestige of the "I did something dangerous but I survived, so please mate with me." So are rollercoasters.
Grand unification theories that explain everything - they're a helluva drug.
― Oh the pacmanity (Ye Mad Puffin), Thursday, 16 February 2017 15:35 (seven years ago) link
Intellectualizing the habit of gawking at cleavage was, for me in my youth, almost as exciting as cleavage itself.
Now I'm almost forty and it's clear: actual boobies are the only thing that matters
― El Tomboto, Thursday, 16 February 2017 15:51 (seven years ago) link
I think it's in Camille Paglia somewhere: cleavage is there to make you think of a butt. Just like lipstick is there to make you think of labia.
― Oh the pacmanity (Ye Mad Puffin), Thursday, 16 February 2017 15:59 (seven years ago) link
http://www.drmartens.com/us/p/mens-boots-b%26b-smooth-backhand-pascalhttp://www.drmartens.com/us/p/mens-boots-b%26b-london-backhand-smooth-pascal
I mean, I know they are hideous and yet
― ornate orchestral arrangements (DJP), Wednesday, 1 March 2017 19:25 (seven years ago) link
link not working right
please tell me you meant to link the beavis & butthead boots
― mh 😏, Wednesday, 1 March 2017 19:28 (seven years ago) link
I did, both versions
― ornate orchestral arrangements (DJP), Wednesday, 1 March 2017 19:46 (seven years ago) link
http://www.drmartens.com/uk/beavis-and-butt-head-collection
― mh 😏, Wednesday, 1 March 2017 19:47 (seven years ago) link
they are gloriously ugly
― ornate orchestral arrangements (DJP), Wednesday, 1 March 2017 19:50 (seven years ago) link