I Slept With My Best Friend And Now I Want To Kill Myself

Anyway, I sincerely hope that the second half of this thread title is just an expression, not anything more serious than that. Stick around a while more, see what happens, have some fun. It's not all that bad, even if it does seem pretty effed-up right now.

Haikunym, didn't mean it literally, just that I was very upset.

Well, obviously there was an attraction there when it happened. But there were very unusual circumstances that I don't want to go into detail about. At least I am 100% sure I'm not attracted to her now, and that I won't be. I dare say that it goes for her too. Neither of us are gay (well, we're probably both a bit bi I guess, but I believe most if not all people are, so nothing strange about that). I wasn't expecting anything at all the morning after, except for a hell of a hangover, and was just praying that by some miracle it wasn't going to be as weird between us as it turned out to be. I guess I should have figured she'd be freaking out about it, but hell, I wasn't really thinking, you know.

Anyway, it feels a little bit better now actually, and I've decided to give it a few days, since I know we'll see each other (in company) very soon. I'll just wait and see what that's like, there's a chance it'll not be as bad as I fear. I might be overreacting and over-interpreting her a bit, and I think both our initial turbulent emotions will calm down.

Thanks to everyone who have said wise and sensible things. It's been really helpful.

I think in this situation I would either i) just pretend it never happened and be too uptight to ever mention it again or ii) just e-mail/text the other one and say "blimey, that was a bit weird. fancy a pint thursday?" . My suspicion is that we can over-analyse things.

It's different for blokes though, isn't it?

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So, you slept with your best friend. I MARRIED mine.

-- pepektheassassin (tr3joyc...), April 19th, 2005 12:44 PM.

how's that working out for ya?

i totally want to sleep with my best friend, but i know we shouldn't, and this thread has been a forceful reminder. thanks!

You can say 'look, we did it, it won't happen again, let's do our best to forget it because your friendship means the world to me, and I'd hate to lose it over something as stupid as this.'

this really seems like a "time heals all..." situation for me. it probably will be extremely awkward for a while. it might even be worth not seeing the person for a little while.

Unless the sex was really, really bad you should be able to get over it. See it for what it was - an isolated event and move on. In a way, it's a nice little secret to have from your other mutual friends!

unless one of you is a blabbermouth.

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V.L.O., since I almost certainly don't know you or your friend, if you want to email me privately & discuss this at all, feel free.