he will go out with friends of his from time to time, as do I, but we do a lot together -- which I enjoy immensely, because he's my pal and i love being around him. but idk i feel like i need to declare more time for me myself & I in a ~self~care~ sort of way because this emotional reaction im having is way out of proportion right now
― patron sailor, Friday, 13 June 2014 21:05 (nine years ago) link
possible aggravating factor being that i grew up with dad who was a bipolar narcissist who constantly changed plans at the last minute but hey whateverrrr :/
― patron sailor, Friday, 13 June 2014 21:08 (nine years ago) link
definitely should be some courtesy shown abt how last-minute changing of plans affects yours.
― mattresslessness, Friday, 13 June 2014 21:11 (nine years ago) link
and if you still want to go out, it's healthy to make a statement and go for it imo.
― mattresslessness, Friday, 13 June 2014 21:12 (nine years ago) link
:) thank u for the validation, matt, im sure ill manage to have a good time whatever ends up happening, im trying to remember that relationships are continual projects and the mine / yours / ours boundaries are shifty things, as it ever was
― patron sailor, Friday, 13 June 2014 21:25 (nine years ago) link
yeah
― mattresslessness, Friday, 13 June 2014 21:26 (nine years ago) link
Murg, talk to him about it b4 u regret it for the rest of yr life
― son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Saturday, 14 June 2014 00:27 (nine years ago) link
alright bitches, i broke up with mine tonight. and good fucking riddance.
― mattresslessness, Saturday, 14 June 2014 07:51 (nine years ago) link
sorry that was disrespectful. i don't even know. but right now i'm 75% sure it's not working out. i officially want to apologize to dr. morbius for being a cunt to him when i don't even know the dude. anyway.
― mattresslessness, Saturday, 14 June 2014 08:21 (nine years ago) link
shit, i'm sorry man. what happened?
― patron sailor, Saturday, 14 June 2014 12:34 (nine years ago) link
http://www.out.com/entertainment/michael-musto/2014/06/16/12-worst-types-gay-men
I'm #12 if I'm any.
― Cronk's Not Cronk (Eric H.), Monday, 16 June 2014 18:54 (nine years ago) link
#12 is the majority population in bars
― son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Monday, 16 June 2014 19:05 (nine years ago) link
I know sadly too many who fit #6.
― Cronk's Not Cronk (Eric H.), Monday, 16 June 2014 19:19 (nine years ago) link
#13 -- Gays who can't take criticism.
― guess that bundt gettin eaten (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 16 June 2014 19:44 (nine years ago) link
they forgot: "creative" homos who are so busy they never have time to hang, but insist you come to their dj night/gallery show/drag queen revue/etc etc
― clouds, Monday, 16 June 2014 20:44 (nine years ago) link
i.e. the entire under-30 gay population of chicago
― clouds, Monday, 16 June 2014 20:47 (nine years ago) link
I seriously dunno what kinda of homo I am. Prob the technology kind simply by virtue of how it feels like I never leave my house anymore, though I'd like to think that'd be different if I actually, you know, went out and socialized with people.
― Funk autocorrect (cryptosicko), Monday, 16 June 2014 20:52 (nine years ago) link
I'm #14: ice queens.
― Cronk's Not Cronk (Eric H.), Monday, 16 June 2014 21:03 (nine years ago) link
(Oh, and Corey, I had to postpone my Chicago trip to later this summer. Just didn't want you thinking I spaced you out.)
not with me you're no queen
― guess that bundt gettin eaten (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 16 June 2014 21:04 (nine years ago) link
I am on the cusp of booking a SoCal trip I really can't afford for the first half of July. (Rev, I will still be here for part of yr time in NY.) Where y'all going?
― son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Monday, 16 June 2014 21:06 (nine years ago) link
uuuuuuuuuuuuugh a homophobe on twitter blasted my pics to his 31k followers but fuck em I look ***flawless
― The Reverend, Tuesday, 17 June 2014 01:44 (nine years ago) link
Noooooo that is awful
― flamboyant goon tie included, Tuesday, 17 June 2014 05:56 (nine years ago) link
Chicken + waffles seems like a poignantly gender-fluid follow-up meal
― flamboyant goon tie included, Tuesday, 17 June 2014 05:57 (nine years ago) link
that sucks rev. did you report the ringleaders? cuz that's straight up abusive right there. do you want them to be called out some more or do you want it to die down...
― lex pretend, Tuesday, 17 June 2014 06:38 (nine years ago) link
I reported everyone who tweeted at me or tweeted my pic and blocked everyone who faved or RTed.
― The Reverend, Tuesday, 17 June 2014 08:53 (nine years ago) link
Rev that is shady as fuck, I am way sorry that that happened :(
That OUT article basically seems to list the same type of person over and over
― aaliyah papi (Stevie D(eux)), Tuesday, 17 June 2014 20:28 (nine years ago) link
Right. A gay person.
― Cronk's Not Cronk (Eric H.), Tuesday, 17 June 2014 20:34 (nine years ago) link
Jenni Olson picks a LGBTQ film canon of 25 (I did not know about The Watermelon Woman til recently).
http://www.fandor.com/keyframe/the-essential-lgbtq
― son of a lewd monk (Dr Morbius), Friday, 20 June 2014 15:21 (nine years ago) link
That sounds all kinds of messed up.
― Cronk's Not Cronk (Eric H.), Friday, 20 June 2014 15:40 (nine years ago) link
I know I prolly shouldn't bump this thread for a few reasons:(1) I've made an ass of myself on ilx in very real and concrete ways(2) I've tried to bump the gay threads before saying I would stick around and I totally failed at that(3) I've been a dick to people on ilx and on the gay threads beforeAnd(4) I've made an ass of myself with people from ilx irl before BUTHere I am anyway because? What's the worst that could happen andI miss it. So. Who's still alive? Did anyone keep this tradition going? I'll search new answers now too.
― surm, Saturday, 26 January 2019 03:55 (five years ago) link
Hi surm. I like your chutzpah. I have done all the things you listed. Ultimately though why not keep on stumbling on.I’m increasingly gay with each passing year. Last year my beard turned 1/3 gray in 6 months. 2018 was a rough one, 2019 is already better.I miss hordes of p town types all in a giant room singing along to whatever they sing along to now BUT i’m still enjoying a pit stop in a tiny town. Tonight the stars are just so clear it looks somehow extra-dimensional.
― macropuente (map), Saturday, 26 January 2019 05:04 (five years ago) link
:-) thank you for your kindness and i'm glad you posted. did i know you five years ago? was it the same username and i've forgotten? all the mistakes i've made.... i regret them deeply, but stumble i will. i'm glad to hear 2019 is already better for you than the shit show that was 2018. i am finally beginning to feel that way too. i can totally relate to the beard.
are you on a road trip?
― surm, Saturday, 26 January 2019 05:10 (five years ago) link
Hi surm
I like that you bumped this thread because it reminded me of the happier days
― flamboyant goon tie included, Saturday, 26 January 2019 05:12 (five years ago) link
omg hiiiiiii!!! i'm glad you like it. how are you?
― surm, Saturday, 26 January 2019 05:18 (five years ago) link
I don't know!
― flamboyant goon tie included, Saturday, 26 January 2019 05:28 (five years ago) link
I did an orchestral arrangement for Christine & The Queens today for her appearance on the French Grammies, that was fun. The song is "La Marcheuse" and it's a really beautiful song
― flamboyant goon tie included, Saturday, 26 January 2019 05:29 (five years ago) link
My bf wants to cheat on me, which is interesting! I am getting a cold sore rn so I think I'm going to give him my blessing, the cheater's blessing, go enjoy strange dick while I ointment my lip
― flamboyant goon tie included, Saturday, 26 January 2019 05:31 (five years ago) link
ha! ok your day sounds truly wonderful, i hope you feel proud AF. and i guess you and your bf have never done the open thing?
― surm, Saturday, 26 January 2019 05:33 (five years ago) link
It's kind of imposed upon me. He fucks around and I'm having to learn to deal with it. It's odd! We have such a great sex life but his wandering eye is a constant. Considering how previous relationships I've had have been devastated by cheating and/or lying-about-cheating I'm trying to grow up and live with it
― flamboyant goon tie included, Saturday, 26 January 2019 05:35 (five years ago) link
My week has been strange. Somebody who owed me an apology, but from whom I never in my wildest dreams expected an apology, called me and apologized a couple of days ago and I started crying a lot and that was a good thing
― flamboyant goon tie included, Saturday, 26 January 2019 05:36 (five years ago) link
i miss y'all
― clouds, Saturday, 26 January 2019 05:38 (five years ago) link
xp that's a beautiful thing. that happened to me once and it changed my life, i'm still in touch with that friend and her apology forever changed our lives.
i would say.... you're definitely not a child bc you prefer monogamy. easy to forget that in this day and age when everybody's open. i think it's important for both people to feel like they're not giving up too much.
― surm, Saturday, 26 January 2019 05:41 (five years ago) link
clouds!!!!
Hi clouds!
I would prefer monogamy, but I love this man wholeheartedly and if he wants to fuck other men then I want to meet that need, rather than have him sit around wanting to fuck other men and resent me for imposing boundaries on him
― flamboyant goon tie included, Saturday, 26 January 2019 05:51 (five years ago) link
totally hear that. we've been open for years--in fact my boo just got home from a date--so i feel you 100%.
― surm, Saturday, 26 January 2019 05:59 (five years ago) link
clouds how's life?
― surm, Saturday, 26 January 2019 06:01 (five years ago) link
surm, I missed you making an ass of yourself on ilx in very real and concrete ways, sadly! lovely to see you! and clouds!
― Acting Crazy (Instrumental) (jed_), Saturday, 26 January 2019 12:00 (five years ago) link
good morning!
― Your sweetie-pie-coo-coo I love ya (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 26 January 2019 12:30 (five years ago) link
surm, I wish I ran into u in ft greene more often
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Saturday, 26 January 2019 13:34 (five years ago) link