Phrases you hate...

That phrase is what it is though.

"You're doing it wrong"

Not sure if I've heard "cool beans" irl, sounds like something Beaver Cleaver would say.

one of my friends says this

I want to dickpunch him every time he says it

"harm's way"

"first responders"

^

"Tweeps".

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"at the end of the day..."

― omar little, Friday, May 4, 2012 10:24 AM (2 years ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

this fucking phrase not getting enough love hate

He says at ... 5:05 pm CDT.

i know someone who says "there you go" after anyone makes any declarative statement. what the fuck is that?

appreciative of spacetime obv

"Just saying," at least as a sentence unto itself. All over Facebook.

Kid talk--don't know if I actually hate it but I do always call attention to how silly it is: "Can I verse you?" (as applied to a game of badminton or checkers or whatever). "You mean you want to write a poem about me? Sure, go ahead--immortalize me."

"Can I verse you?" (as applied to a game of badminton or checkers or whatever).

Is this some sort of http://i156.photobucket.com/albums/t1/CheckMyVitals/Posting/canada.gif thing?

No, I've heard kids say that.

http://languagelog.ldc.upenn.edu/nll/?p=4029

"creating change"

change happens all by itself you assholes

- mlk

"What is this? Grand Central Station?"

"Can I verse you?"

Heavens! Then I might become well-versed in the subject.

"What is this? Grand Central Station?"

― how's life, Sunday, June 1, 2014 3:07 PM Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Oh, but how I waited my whole life to get to New York, putting a friend on a train to Poughkeepsie, and saying...

Beeps came home and told us how her school was going to pre-empt classroom teaching on a Friday and let the kids enjoy hot dogs, inflatable jump tents and face-painting. I say to Sunny because I'm a hilarious dad, "Oh, those kids are going to have a field-day with that one."

nice

"sorry for your loss"

^^^ yes, and predictably I struggle with what else to say if it's someone I don't know well. 'I was so sorry to hear about X' or just 'I'm so sorry' if the context is right is what I usually feel like saying.

what i said on twitter:

Does anyone feel uncomfortable with the phrase "I'm sorry for your loss"? Well-meaning but kinda the lorem ipsum of sympathy.

It also feels loaded in a weird way, on both sides, like the speaker is burdened ("sorry") and the recipient's "loss" is imbued with meaning

I send grieving family members the board game SORRY™ except instead of the board and pieces when they open it up, they find a note I've written that simply says "This is me, because of your loss."

Then I go to class reunions and tell old friends there that I'm sorry for their gain.

so wry for your loss xp

although I agree on that phrase, I can't think of anything to say to grieving persons, particularly ones I'm not very close to, that doesn't sound strained and uncomfortable.

i wrote a card for my cousin when her husband died suddenly but then i didn't like the awkwardness of my wording so i didn't send it and i intended to get another card but i didn't and then she was killed in a car crash a few weeks later and ever since then i don't worry so much about what i say as long as it's something.

:O

Sorry for your loss.

<3

I've spent years advising students to drop this "the passing of my grandfather" twaddle.

"I was sorry to hear about your father" is almost as bad. It has this overtone of "Oh yes, you mean theah...dying business. Unfortunate, that."

"I'm sorry" will suffice.

or better: a hug.

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I also hate saying "I was sorry to hear about..." because it's like "By the way, you probably weren't thinking about your loved one's death at just this moment, after grieving for the prior three weeks, but I need to remind you of it so that I can discharge my duties."

i never remind anyone of death, everyone will be reminded soon enough

Valar morghulis

lol

Moment of silence.

I still have in my drafts folder this long heartfelt email I wrote to a co-worker whose husband and nine-year-old granddaughter were killed by a drunk driver. I never sent it because every sentence begins with "I feel this way...." Or I want you to know..." In the end, I was just who cares what the fuck I have to say anyway. "Oh, pplains feels badly about two of my family members perishing on the Interstate on the same night. That improves things."

...I can't think of anything to say to grieving persons, particularly ones I'm not very close to, that doesn't sound strained and uncomfortable.

― ₴HABΔZZ ¶IZZΔ (Hurting 2), Sunday, June 1, 2014 6:04 PM (2 hours ago)

...ever since then i don't worry so much about what i say as long as it's something.

― estela, Sunday, June 1, 2014 6:12 PM (2 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Oh yeah, I know. I mean my post had an implied "and therefore I just say the canned shit" at the end of it.

When I was a freshman in college, my favorite English professor's mom died, and I was super intimidated by the guy because he was this towering bearded genius classic English prof dude, so after a lot of deliberation I picked out this blank card with a stark ansel adams B&W photo of a bunch of birch tree trunks or something and wrote something like "I offer my deepest sympathies in your time of grieving." I felt very proud when he thanked me for the card, as though I had demonstrated some kind of superior class and taste in my card choice and condolence method. It was an almost Hannah Horvath-like moment of self-involvement.

lol dying

i hope you're sorry for my family's impending loss.