Internet Dating

Tuomas, it's like meeting in (ahem) real life: people meet, they sometimes marry, they sometimes break up. The chances of it being more successful are the same.

How much did you pay her, Charlie? :-)

*applause*

Mr. Jaq and I met through a local on-line dating site, almost exactly 7 years ago. It shut down a few months after we met, but revived about a few years ago - they still had my ad in the database and asked if I wanted to leave it up. Uhm, no, thanx though. http://www.singlesinseattle.com/ - looks like it's free for Seattle people.

My husband and I met online although it wasn't through a dating website. We both had online journals and met through them in 2001. I moved to England to live with him from 2003-2005 and he's been here with me in the US since we got married a year ago on Monday!

Also, I do know of one horror story. A friend of mine in England met a man from Montreal on the same site that L and I met on. They dayted for a while with him traveling to the UK to visit and daily expensive calls etc. About six months into it, she got a call from his WIFE. Pretty much every single thing he'd told her was a lie. It was awful.

The woman that sits opposite me at work spends most of her time searching online dating sites, particular

http://www.parship.co.uk/
and
http://www.sugardaddie.com

The latter is quite something.

i trust you have already set up an account on both sites to flirt with her?

I posted a new ad on a dating site yesterday, though I don't have high hopes about it. But I'm tired of trying to find company in pubs, and I'm not even that good at it. Previously all I've gotten out of net dating is a couple of short relationships and some casual sex. You hear all these stories about how people met each other online, but personally I know only one person who's found a long-term relationship through Internet dating, and even they broke up. So does that really happen?

-- Tuomas, 19. heinäkuuta 2007 13:53 (4 months ago) Bookmark Link

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In the end all this ad lead to was casual sex an a short relationship again, so I'm still not convinced about Internet dating.

i trust you have already set up an account on both sites to flirt with her?

-- ken c, Tuesday, 4 December 2007 13:46 (1 minute ago) Bookmark Link

Man, if only I had that much hate in my heart these days, that'd be pretty lulz.

In the end all this ad lead to was casual sex an a short relationship again, so I'm still not convinced about Internet dating.

perhaps you should try http://www.parship.co.uk?

Also, I'm kinda wondering, what sort of a people answer your ad, meet up with you, clearly enjoy your company, have sex with you, but soon after call the whole thing off? Sometimes I feel like I'm being used here...

(xx-post)

And before someone cracks a joke about it, no, I don't think I'm that bad in bed.

maybe you should try not having sex with them next time and see what happens.

I met my current bf on an internet dating site. He was the first person I corresponded with on there, and the only one I met in person. He's lovely. I wouldn't call it long term just yet but I expect it will be.

Also, I'm kinda wondering, what sort of a people answer your ad, meet up with you, clearly enjoy your company, have sex with you, but soon after call the whole thing off?

They're called "boys".

and "girls" in the cases where a vagina is present.

much new information to process here

internet dating feels weird and unnatural.

but strangely so good.

a bit like deep throating.

They're called "boys".

Oh no, they've been boys all along?! I guess guys these days are very good at hiding their penis then.

they probably pulled it back between their legs and you were having sex with the resulting cleavage formed just above their penis.

OMG

ken stop being crass and accept my add

facebook is being silly buggers. also: we haven't even met yet!

accept my ADD more like amicorrect?

look a tree!

ken we shall doubtless meet this xmas hol, and besides, your richie edwards tribute has entered my very soul

I'll think about it when i get home later.

accept my ADD more like amicorrect?
this was funny!

Joined flickr
Went on flickr meet
Met girl
Dated girl for few months
Girl lent DVD’s
Finish with girl
Girl won’t give DVD’s back “why should I give you them back” her words!

DUD!

not really internet dating, but we ended dating because of the net.

^^^story of my life (to come)

All (three) of my married friend couples met over the internet.

I had a date with RealPlayer once but she got caught in net congestion and didn't make it

this is pathetic but as a net dating semi newbie im a bit sad this girl i was emailing back and forth has gone AWOL on me. quite liked her. as far as liking someone only via email goes of course. dont see much happening with the rest of the women on the site... never mind though, theres other fish profiles out there! right? err

im giving this another temporary go. what does it mean when someone keeps replying but doesnt really ask you any questions? i mean i know what i think it means, but why bother replying if thats the case?

it could mean
1) what you think it means
2) they're just filling time/seeking attention
3) they're not that into you, but will give you a chance
4) you seem fine, but haven't revealed a lot about yourself on which to judge
5) they generally think the other person/gender should be the aggressor
6) they might like you but don't want to be eager
7) it's not clear what you're interested in
8) they are very literal
9) they are boring

10) they receive many inquiries, and it's your burden to separate yourself from the pack

but i dunno, i've never done internet dating

being a cynical person, i am going to go with option 1 or 2. they seem to think im funny. i am however wary that it will be one of these self centered types. or just some stupid girl wanting attention. it is probably the latter.

11) they are stupid

they might be stupid too. but shes in her early 20s. im guessing its the immature attention seeker.

12) They are a robot

lol

haha. bots have clearly come of age.

i like how the first poster apologizes for being a lonely, lonely man. more people should do that.

I might have to finally try this soon, my recent relationship fuck-up has left me a tad dispirited about real life women with whom you may share friends and stomping grounds. It's worked out pretty well for several of my mates.

All my friends who are married have met through the internet! And they are v. happy couples who are full of the <3. Your grandma will judge you, though (well mine would, but she's pretty much made that her post in life).

i think i'm too cynical to do this.

a friend of mine is doing this right now and going on dates and having a good time, she's like 'who knew dating was so easy!' - i think she's gone on a couple second dates but seems to be into it for the dating rather than nec as a search for a relationship or anything. which i guess is the healthy way to go about it. not sure that i get the dating-as-entertainment thing though.

i asked her if i should try it and she laughed and told me she was on a date with someone sort of tedious/self-absorbed the other night and thought 'what wld robyn do in this situation' and apparently what i would do is say 'yeah i gotta go' pretty early on. which is pretty much truth. i wonder what i have become.

ime that kind of blocking is not bullshit but just sth you have to get used to and accept. they don't owe you their time or a response and on some sites blocking may be the most efficient way to take someone out of their search results that they're not interested in seeing again. may seem harsh but think of it as someone at a bar who just isn't interested in talking. anyway getting used to doing this same kinda thing myself, n not agonizing over the writing of polite rejections or w/e, has made using okc much much more viable for me over the years, idk.

Yeah, I can see that. Just new to this, and hadn't encountered it anywhere else on social media. But, DC, your comparison makes sense.

(My initial messages are always either a) boring, "hi there" or "hello" or "we're a match here, how about that?" pablum or b) a genuine question based on the profile, because I suck at this medium. But I have met a few nice ladies to talk to.)

the numbers don't really favor men seeking women, and it opens the door to being treated dismissively, which feels bad.

on the flipside, as a man talking to women, you are way less likely to get gross or abusive messages than a woman would be talking to a man.

in conclusion, everyone feels dehumanized by these programs, to varying extents.

I've never done internet dating, but have heard many many horror stories of men getting abusive after being rejected, and whether or not their initial messages are polite/friendly/"normal" seems to have no bearing on how they react. So it is a lot *safer* for women who aren't interested to block and move on.

(Also as general advice, I'd be far more inclined to respond to your type b messages than type a.)

YMMV, but when I was dating I appreciated a clear signal that someone was definitely not interested in me. Just rip off the Band-Aid and avoid wasting the time of everyone involved, y'know? Lots of fish, etc.

It worked for me... but I marvel at my luck, tbh

every woman i know who's had internet dating experience has felt overwhelmed by the number of replies women receive, too. seems like for every random reply a man will receive, a woman will receive one hundred.

many women explicitly complain about receiving first-contact form-letter spam from men as well, mailed in bulk to up their odds

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