Alisa Valdes @MizAlisaTo those of you asking about the disappearance of yesterday's blog post: I was asked to take it down by my publisher, and did. The end.
LOL
― Mordy, Friday, 11 January 2013 19:13 (eleven years ago) link
that's an amazing URL
― Solange Knowles is my hero (DJP), Friday, 11 January 2013 19:14 (eleven years ago) link
is there a personality type where people are addicted to conflict? i'm not trying to be funny here, is there a name for that kind of thing?
― goole, Friday, 11 January 2013 19:16 (eleven years ago) link
If we could harness this thread, it could provide enough energy to light 40,000 homes, and thereby generate irony in quantities too large to measure.
― Aimless, Friday, 11 January 2013 19:16 (eleven years ago) link
and yes the cultural genocide of using the term 'latina' seems to have become less of an acute problem now
― goole, Friday, 11 January 2013 19:17 (eleven years ago) link
― goole, Friday, January 11, 2013 2:16 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
iirc that applies to borderline personality disorder
― lag∞n, Friday, 11 January 2013 19:18 (eleven years ago) link
the agent thing is funny if true
according to someone on Twitter who contacted her
redding, do you have a link to this someone?
― REBEL YELL FOR HUGS (Austerity Ponies), Friday, 11 January 2013 19:19 (eleven years ago) link
there was a line in the new episode of Justified - 'You run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. You run into assholes all day, you're the asshole.'
all the drama seems v exhausting
― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 11 January 2013 19:23 (eleven years ago) link
americans!
― christmas candy bar (al leong), Friday, 11 January 2013 19:24 (eleven years ago) link
ilxors
― Mordy, Friday, 11 January 2013 19:24 (eleven years ago) link
russians!
― christmas candy bar (al leong), Friday, 11 January 2013 19:25 (eleven years ago) link
latinos
― lag∞n, Friday, 11 January 2013 19:25 (eleven years ago) link
Certainly not the French! Wocka wocka
― sleepingbag, Friday, 11 January 2013 19:26 (eleven years ago) link
ultimate fighting
― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 11 January 2013 19:26 (eleven years ago) link
humans
― let's go do some crimes (strongo hulkington's ghost dad), Friday, 11 January 2013 19:26 (eleven years ago) link
hummus
― lag∞n, Friday, 11 January 2013 19:27 (eleven years ago) link
http://img.timeinc.net/time/magazine/archive/covers/2006/1101061225_400.jpg
― christmas candy bar (al leong), Friday, 11 January 2013 19:27 (eleven years ago) link
HEY
― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 11 January 2013 19:28 (eleven years ago) link
Re: agent thing, it was the author of this salon article:
http://www.salon.com/2013/01/11/alisa_valdes_anti_feminist_romance_not_so_romantic/
― says a future man to his crystal son (reddening), Friday, 11 January 2013 19:34 (eleven years ago) link
http://missalisasplace.com/2012/12/24/alisa-responds-to-the-ny-posts-hatchet-job-on-her-memoir/
I think Valdez would be better off is she stopped publishing these tweets and blog posts before she deletes them.
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For instance, the Post piece claims that in my memoir I offer “lessons for women” about how to live their lives. I do not. In fact, I am very careful in the book to state the following, in anticipation of exactly this kind of criticism:
I don’t intend for this book to be anything but my own life story and my own personal observations and change. I’m not writing handbook. It’s more of a diary. (page 104)
The piece also says that I give women advice to allow alpha men to cheat — a total fabrication that has unfortunately been echoed already on the website Jezebel, which did what blogs often do best, running a nasty piece that just copied the newspaper piece whilst adding, you know, curse words.
Which reminds me of
What I mean by this is that while I set out to write a memoir that was a love letter to a man I was deeply in love with, a man who challenged me in myriad ways, a man who changed my life profoundly, a man I respected and honored greatly at the time, what I actually wrote was a handbook for women on how to fall in love with a manipulative, controlling, abusive narcissist.
tbf, the post is a horrible rag and I stand in solidarity with Valdez on the fact that they are a bag of dicks
― REBEL YELL FOR HUGS (Austerity Ponies), Friday, 11 January 2013 19:47 (eleven years ago) link
thanks for the link, redding
― REBEL YELL FOR HUGS (Austerity Ponies), Friday, 11 January 2013 19:48 (eleven years ago) link
i think if a person is of mixed euro-indian descent its "okay" by most standards to refer to them as native american or american indian
If you think this is true, I suggest you try asking random Mexican people if they are Mayan. See how that goes for you.
― drunk 'n' white's elements of style (Hurting 2), Friday, 11 January 2013 20:15 (eleven years ago) link
Anyone tried this yet?
― REBEL YELL FOR HUGS (Austerity Ponies), Friday, 11 January 2013 20:23 (eleven years ago) link
lol it had been 8 minutes, give ppl some time
― Solange Knowles is my hero (DJP), Friday, 11 January 2013 20:24 (eleven years ago) link
Even better is to do something like, say, go up to someone from Sonora and say "So you're from Zacatecas, right?"
― Ned Raggett, Friday, 11 January 2013 20:26 (eleven years ago) link
Go to someone from, I dunno, Chiapas or Oaxaca and say "You all do mariachi music down there, yeah?"
― Ned Raggett, Friday, 11 January 2013 20:27 (eleven years ago) link
'i'm an aztec, motherfucker'
― mookieproof, Friday, 11 January 2013 20:27 (eleven years ago) link
No results found for "i'm taino btw".
― velko, Friday, 11 January 2013 20:30 (eleven years ago) link
all I'm saying is that a lot of people of mixed euro/indian descent do not identify as "native american" and would not be "okay" with being labeled native american.
― drunk 'n' white's elements of style (Hurting 2), Friday, 11 January 2013 20:35 (eleven years ago) link
The Aristotelian penchant for categorization and sub-categorization always breaks down at some point before reaching a satisfactory system of division.
― Aimless, Friday, 11 January 2013 20:48 (eleven years ago) link
you know what i can't stand around here? people not naming names.
― goole, Friday, January 11, 2013 12:14 PM (3 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
lol okay it was Mordy and Aimless i was mad at after reading the first half of this thread. i don't know if i'm one of the ilx posters Mordy was referring to, but i am def self-righteous and likely bask in the pieties he was referring to as well.
― horseshoe, Friday, 11 January 2013 20:49 (eleven years ago) link
i would agree w/ horseshoe's self-assessment there
― Mordy, Friday, 11 January 2013 20:54 (eleven years ago) link
http://www.whitbyseaanglers.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/basking-shark1.jpg
― christmas candy bar (al leong), Friday, 11 January 2013 20:54 (eleven years ago) link
a basking shark
― drunk 'n' white's elements of style (Hurting 2), Friday, January 11, 2013 3:15 PM (38 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
i don't think "mayan" and "american indian" are the same thing hurting!
― max, Friday, 11 January 2013 20:55 (eleven years ago) link
you drive me crazy but to be really real, the weirdo metaphor of basking in pieties delights me.
xxp don't get it twisted; you're wrong about everything
― horseshoe, Friday, 11 January 2013 20:55 (eleven years ago) link
oh yeah i was mad at Hurting too
i love horseshoe and think she is one of the owningest posters on this board fwiw, ive never read her posts as pious or self-righteous and think shes an incredibly thoughtful and self-critical person
aw max. i love you too.
― horseshoe, Friday, 11 January 2013 20:57 (eleven years ago) link
― drunk 'n' white's elements of style (Hurting 2), Friday, January 11, 2013 3:35 PM (20 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
you know a lot about how people from central and south america self identify i guess. ty for bringing that knowledge to this thread.
― max, Friday, 11 January 2013 20:57 (eleven years ago) link
in my mind every valdes defender on this thread is wearing a papier-mâché halo over their heads - "no i'm the most sympathetic ilxor," "no, i am!"
― Mordy, Friday, 11 January 2013 20:57 (eleven years ago) link
feel like yr bringing some of yr own baggage here big guy
― max, Friday, 11 January 2013 20:58 (eleven years ago) link
in my mind you're wearing a t-shirt that says "i'm not a bitch, i'm just honest"
― christmas candy bar (al leong), Friday, 11 January 2013 20:58 (eleven years ago) link
haha i think i just figured out who al leong is
― max, Friday, 11 January 2013 20:59 (eleven years ago) link
Pretty sure I am the most self-righteous ilxor, I just polished my halo this morning.
― grossly incorrect register (in orbit), Friday, 11 January 2013 20:59 (eleven years ago) link
feel like anyone who believes anything valdes says about anything is setting themselves up for a big shock during the reveal
― Mordy, Friday, 11 January 2013 20:59 (eleven years ago) link
"no im the most honest ilxor!" "no i am!"
― max, Friday, 11 January 2013 21:00 (eleven years ago) link
honestly is more important to me than sanctimony
― Mordy, Friday, 11 January 2013 21:00 (eleven years ago) link
in my mind everyone in this thread is an anthropomorphised cat flying around in a disco in second life
― REBEL YELL FOR HUGS (Austerity Ponies), Friday, 11 January 2013 21:01 (eleven years ago) link
seems clear that sanctimony is p important to you too
― max, Friday, 11 January 2013 21:02 (eleven years ago) link