Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

Oh, and if it even needs to be said, CONTINUE NEVER MEETING THIS PERSON.

Argh. Sympathetic but firm 'get support' two-liner as Trayce suggests. This would thoroughly freak me out.

ATTN ALL:

if you have a smartphone I highly suggest getting a google voice number and using that along with the app

that way you can easily filter out internet people from your usual contacts, and they won't know your regular number

or just getting a burner

I just dont exch numbers with ppl I meet on OKC til I have met them.

^good policy. also lets the person know you're interested when you do give it to them.

as for that psycho, a very brief zero emotion rejection is the most you should give (if anything) and then block them entirely.

Yeah I do think something needs to be said to that guy - I know that mindset, and complete silence will only spur him on to further panic trying to work out whats going on (as he seems to percieve some non existent "issue"). He needs a verbal faceslap and then complete avoidance. It does risk making him nuttier, but I have a feeling he needs to hear a "no, god, shut up go away".

i feel like i need to exchange #s with people before i meet them in case we can't recognize/find each other! i'm definitely going to be more discretionary with my number after all this though.

i sent an email last night saying that i wished him well but this was the last message i would send and if he could please stop contacting me. i feared vicious retribution but it hasn't happened...yet, anyways. fingers crossed.

maybe this will be a good story to tell on other internet dates?

Sure, like how I told my last roommate before I moved in about the previous roommate who walked into my room blind drunk and naked in the wee hours of the morning and pissed all over my floor. A good simultaneous coversation piece and understated-but-firm example of DO NOT WANT.

http://slacktory.com/2012/05/20-guys-try-to-bang-psycho-on-okcupid

Jesus fucking christ, just the first few paragraphs of that story makes me give up on humanity way more than internet dating ever did. Classist, racist, ablist and a complete fucking douche - and the author thinks that gives them the right to sneer at the people that answered the ad?

I would be more disgusted at meeting the person that wrote that article than I would their fictional creation. Ugh ugh ugh. Why did I click the link.

yeah half her responses seemed p normal to me, I found the premise quite offensive too. unless she assumes every reply means " hi I wanna bang you!" I mean wtf. ugh.

so the end of my saga above...the guy sent me a reply to my final message that wasn't particularly nasty saying he just had to tell someone about what happened and so he just picked me because i was some internet stranger he was never going to meet, with a little "aw poor men" whining about how men are not allowed to express their emotions. get a livejournal, dude!

I'm glad to see that his takeaway from all of this is that men aren't allowed to express their emotions. He seems like a reasonable fellow with a healthy perspective on human interaction.

"get a livejournal dude" otm

Oh! I totally forgot this thread existed: The Vagaries of Dating The Vagaries of Dating. I have felt a little bad about using the OKC thread for general vagaries of dating concerns.

i think the vagaries of dating has a lot of potential and should be put to good use.

http://okcenemies.tumblr.com/

http://s3.amazonaws.com/data.tumblr.com/tumblr_m55j44eanO1qzcv7no1_500.jpg

http://s3.amazonaws.com/data.tumblr.com/tumblr_m4y0qeDNxw1rxt7jlo1_500.jpg

not cool, forks/mod -.-

lolol "going to school to become an airplane"! ;akjldfh

not cool, forks/mod -.-
― bnw, Thursday, June 7, 2012

What's this in reference to?

Probably the fact that not everyone has ready access to the shower that they'll need after that last pic.

I think that gentleman could help you out with a shower.

http://s3.amazonaws.com/data.tumblr.com/tumblr_m4yhcyWyqW1rxt7jlo1_r2_500.jpg

http://s3.amazonaws.com/data.tumblr.com/tumblr_m53qz1nFVU1rxt7jlo1_500.jpg

http://s3.amazonaws.com/data.tumblr.com/tumblr_m4v7uesrlP1rxt7jlo1_500.jpg

lol @ 98% enemy

Is there a search by enemy mode? I want to check it out.

After seeing so many of these completely bugshit profiles/pictures lately, I finally understand that at least one reason why women message me when we don't have much in common is that my profile is among the few that don't belong to violent sex offenders.

ladies of the NY area, this guy looks pretty cool: http://gawker.com/5916550/the-return-of-the-montauk-grifter

http://s3.amazonaws.com/data.tumblr.com/tumblr_m4vapbai041rxt7jlo1_500.jpg

^cannot look at this one without laughing

suddenly, this thread is NSFW. or my eyes

gross image flood by mod, not cool -.-

all images sfw, just not for sanity

I feel a bit weird about that tumblr, esp if any of those guys have the locked "OKC members only" kind of profile and someone is just posting them all over the internet? :| I mean theyre gross profiles, but still.

Trayce caring about people

:P

Yeah, we're nearing a point where even the pretense of treating people's online presence with tact and propriety is going to fall away completely, i.e. the point where I stop having any kind of non-pseudonymous internet presence whatsoever.

You're not really Deric W. Haircare???

I think the Internet and communications therein are as real as anything. On one hand, I'd be pissed if someone did that with my pic. On the other hand, I don't usually acknowledge my horniness level on the same page as my picture, either. Except on the WDYLLHH thread.

xpost

Nah, that's just my maiden name.

http://slacktory.com/2012/05/20-guys-try-to-bang-psycho-on-okcupid

i would never answer that profile but i can see why some people would. marla basically sounds like a combination of early 20's immature slacker and smartass. a bit white trash, sure. what, white trash people aren't allowed to use okcupid? i mean, if i thought sushi was for pretentious blue state wussy rich people i'd probably be like, "she likes hot pockets too? cool! i'm hittin her up"

sure her answers were a little off, and their responses were all a bit, "that's interesting, can we have sex now?" but tbh that profile just radiates "booty call me, i'm down, but you'll have to deal with my fucking with you a bit first", so. basically the interchanges were mildly funny but tbh i'd probably prefer to hang with the fictional girl in the profile than the snooty full-of-herself girl who wrote that lame article.

now otoh *this* guy has *no* standards:

http://wrongnumbertexts.com/post/12206744739/long-wrong-number-text-with-an-idiot

i actually have a first date tomorrow that i am sort of excited about! thankfully that other weird dude has not contacted me again.

ky girl is actually asking me out now; this whole "hey your name might be referring to a lubricant" approach is working

my date last night was promising. second date already confirmed for daytime activities this weekend spanning several boroughs!

woohoo!

Go bell labs!

my ex asked out a friend of mine...awkward :( i don't really care (actually its kind of funny because i don't think he realized we were friends and i don't think she's interested in him) but i am having trouble thinking of anything to say to him.

but date tomorrow...i'm excited!