If you start throwing out random words, she will lose interest fast.

10 Tips for Approaching Women

Most guys get caught up in guessing what to say; here's what they really should do
By David Wygant Special to Yahoo! Personals Updated: Dec 20, 2007
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What do you do when you see a woman you are attracted to? Do you run and hide? Do you use some canned line that you read on the Internet? Do you stand there in fear trying to think of the right thing to say? What is the right thing to do?
When approaching a woman, most guys make the mistake of thinking too much about what to say. They believe there's one magic line that will work in all situations. They rehearse this magic line, and when they deliver it, they hope the woman will become instantly attracted to them.
Unfortunately, rarely does this approach work -- because most of what you say is irrelevant. To catch a woman's attention, it is all about the confidence you display when approaching her.
Here are 10 surefire ways to intrigue her every time:
1. Observe something. Make a comment about something you observe in the environment. This is especially effective at the grocery store. For example, if she is ordering a turkey sandwich, ask her if the turkey is good here.
“Make your comment immediate to the situation”
Make your comment immediate to the situation and it will seem perfectly natural. No matter where you are, there is always something interesting to comment on.
2. Smile. This shows her that you are friendly and confident. A genuine smile not only feels good to you, but will put her at ease while creating openness in the interaction -- a requirement for building rapport.
3. Do not hesitate. If you hesitate in your approach, this tells her that you are not feeling confident -- an immediate turn-off. When you see her, walk over to her within a short period of time (the three-second rule). Show her you are a man who knows what he wants and goes after it.
4. Positive body language. If you approach hunched over with your head down, you are sending negative information about yourself, which makes you dead in the water before you begin. Stand up straight, with shoulders back and chest out, and use a firm yet relaxed walk.
5. Not too fast. If you walk over too fast, you could likely trigger her internal alarm. A calm, casual approach is usually the best way to make her feel at ease with you.
6. Keep eye contact. Never be the first to break eye contact when you approach. If you do, this sends the message that you are not feeling good about approaching. When you use strong eye contact, she will feel more drawn to you. With practice, you can master this.
7. Listen up. Make sure you pay careful attention to what she says. Do not have your response pre-thought out. Women love a man who pays attention to the details of what she says. If you start throwing out random words, she will lose interest fast.
8. Do not fidget. Fidgeting after you approach is distracting and shows you are uncomfortable. If you communicate that you are uncomfortable, she will feel uncomfortable, too, and will close up. Practice being aware of your movements. Pay attention to those movements, or lack of movements, that communicate comfort and confidence.
9. Lighten your tone of voice. The tone of your voice is a very powerful tool. Approaching her in a light and playful tone is one of the best ways to start. You could also begin in a serious tone, accusing her of something like "
“I hope you saved some turkey for me”
I hope you saved some turkey for me," followed by a quick smile to let her know you are joking. Practice playing with your vocal tone with your friends -- notice the different reactions you get when you say the exact same thing using varied tones and fluctuations.
10. Lean away from her. A man who leans in too far when he talks often makes a woman feel crowded. A better approach is to lean away from her slightly. This lets her know that you respect her space, boundaries, and are comfortable with yourself.
The key to making these tips work for you is putting them into practice! Practice these tips and see the reaction you get. When you put them all together, you will be surprised at their power.

I am so totally gonna skor tonight. Will report back later. Cheers, usw...

wtf who needs this

(also megalolz at "usw")

"Approach women as if they were human beings and watch what happens! (PS: If you are fugly, too bad ;_;.)"

"I hope you saved some turkey for me”

This has got to be the strangest suggestion for opening a conversation I've ever heard of.

gobble gobble

Okay, you're right, that's totally hot.

wtf who needs this

(also megalolz at "usw")

Agh, I'm glad I made at least one human being smarl today.

The more I read this piece, the more tears come down. It really does read like some weird primer for cyborgs on how to be human

I can only pray for a future where cyborgs approach women in bars asking, "I hope you saved some turkey for me” in a vaguely threatening tone of voice.

Cyborgs just make it hotter.

yeah, omgggg reading this i'm spitting out phlegm from ducts i didn't even know existed

Make your comment immediate to the situation and it will seem perfectly natural. No matter where you are, there is always something interesting to comment on.

"Are sure that's the dress your mom wanted to buried in?"

When you see her, walk over to her within a short period of time (the three-second rule).

The three-second rule? If it works for food you drop on the floor, it must also work for "the ladies".

I HOPE YOU SAVED SOME TOFURKEY FOR ME

ByITCH.

Practice playing with your vocal tone with your friends -- notice the different reactions you get when you say the exact same thing using varied tones and fluctuations.

"Why do you keep saying the same thing over and over? Do you need a reboot?"

I hope you SAVED some turkey for me. I hope YOU saved some turkey for me. I hope you saved SOME turkey FOR me.

I sense a song coming on.

see, everyone makes fun of this now....but next time they see a hot girl in the grocery store.......

yes i saved you some turkey, take me dude.

I haven't dared to read the comments on the yahoo page yet. I can't afford hernia surgery at this juncture.

pour some turkey on me

see, everyone makes fun of this now....but next time they see a hot girl in the grocery store.......

I read this as "next time they see a lol girl in the grocery store". Internet is so pernicious.

# 11, as a female, if I discover you read this article, I will already decide you are non-datable. Clear your history and cookies immediately. ;) Seriously, though, it isn't bad advice, but if you didn't know this already, you should have applied to the Catholic priesthood. In a word, duh.

There are so many reasons why I will not be saying "I hope you saved some turkey for me" to a girl in a supermarket.

Especially when "I hope you saved the giblets for me" seems so much more to the point.

shit i am so sucked in...

I find that the stronger the cologne i use, the better results i get. I think strong cologne sends a message of confidence -- that i'm not afraid to lather it on strong, so to speak.

^^^^^^ hero

"A message of confidence" vs. "I'm trying to cover up atrocious body odor/an uncleaned colostomy/something worse"

"i'm not afraid to spray"

Also, www.davidwygant.com.

A man who leans in too far when he talks often makes a woman feel crowded

how does it feel to be crowded?that sounds dirty

When approaching a woman, most guys make the mistake of thinking too much about what to say. They believe there's one magic line that will work in all situations.

http://www.stylecritics.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/07/jsw_002547357.jpg

"I hope you saved some turkey for me"

http://www.thepersiancourtesan.com/creativeexpressionofdevotion2.jpg

"I hope you saved some turkey for me"

http://images.jupiterimages.com/common/detail/33/39/22983933.jpg

"we hope you saved some turkey for us"

http://www.thehollywoodgossip.com/images/gallery/isaiah-washington-bionic-woman.jpg

"wait, let me say it again with a varied tone"

I was looking through my emails the other night and I read a few from several men and they all had the same question.

How do I spice up my love life?

One thing you can do is take a sexy woman to the David Gray concert and tease each other for hours as one of the best singers mesmerizes you with his songs. That was my night the other night, one of the best concerts you can experience with someone that really turns you on.

gigli was so ahead of its time

Men in love

1) When she’s going down on you, it’s not a good time to let out a fart . . . especially if she’s already really not enjoying it.

2) When you’re going down on her is not a good time for a woman to let a fart out. The nose is way too close to the sphincter and the blowback would absolutely keep him from doing anything else.

ILX Posters that scream "I AM A DUDE!"

"Show her you are a man who knows what he wants and goes after it"

who is treated more shallow here ,men or women?

the guy who wrote this is taking himself too serious.
on the otehr hand, he invented the turkey joke...

I hope you saved some turkey for MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!

you should take yourself more serious Zeno

http://msnbcmedia4.msn.com/j/msnbc/Sections/Newsweek/Components/Photos/070731_070806/070803_ClintonGiulani_vl.widec.jpg

"I hope you saved some turkey for me."

Plenty of good turkey to be had on ILX.

I mean, we always talk turkey. And the turkey is there to be taken, in my opinion. A strong, confident man doesn't ask - he goes staight up to that smorgasbord and takes as much turkey as he wants. Women love that.

What kinda guy do strong, confident women like? (that aren't lesbians)

A self-sufficient one?

codependent losers

seen and not heard

If you're needy and can't toast bread you're not going to get shit out of a strong, confident woman.

http://www.willisms.com/archives/lecter.jpg

"I hope you saved some turkey for me *slurrrprprp*"

Buggeration I hate bb code.

strong, confident woman = toaster

toaster or not, score 1 for brains and 0 for brawns

wait, what kinda girls like the brainiacs again?

What kinda guy do strong, confident women like? (that aren't lesbians)

-- CaptainLorax, Friday, 21 December 2007 04:45 (10 minutes ago) Link

codependent losers

-- El Tomboto, Friday, 21 December 2007 04:47

OTM

Tolerant ones.

xp

desperadoes

xpostz

codependency means I have something going for me. don't knock it.
but what kinda girls like braininess, theoretically speaking?

Tolerant ones. - Autumn Almanac
desperadoes - electricsound

I'm jotting this down

If you're brainy you're either going to get someone who's brainy or someone who can't be botherd thinking.

what about the fun kind of brainy, I don't know if they have that where you're from.

no, in fact i believe that's illegal here

What like Cameron Diaz?

xp

like CAPTAINLORAX. don't laugh.
http://img214.imageshack.us/img214/5666/l14c76d2c809b91bc246c1cke1.jpg

moop moop moop moop moop moop
be interested in me god damnit
i speak fluently in Moop

yes try that

Captain Lorax is not afraid to lather it on thick so to speak

Buggeration I hate bb code.

-- Trayce, Friday, December 21, 2007 4:53 AM (3 hours ago) Bookmark Link

.. is the winning line!

http://files.dmusic.com/music/h/a/halfdeaf/soooooo.jpg

"I hope you saved some turkey for me"

The girl in the middle is saying : "Buggeration! I hate bb code."

http://img37.picoodle.com/img/img37/5/12/21/f_AA006861m_d3126bf.jpg
she saved some turkey for him

huh huh he's basting the turkey she saved for him

I haven't laughed this hard at an ILX thread in ages

Me neither.

I don't think the advice is necessarily transposable. Consider, for example:

(Scene: a chemist. An attractive woman is selecting an item from the shelf. A man walks in confidently, looks around, and then walks up to her in a decisive manner).

Man: I hope you saved some Kotex for me.

About that picture of nintendo man.

That dude let some girls into his secret garden. and they just look away all dumblike. pshaw. honestly though, they aren't very pretty.

There's a thread for that picture: Search for "so not gonna happen" or some such.

(Scene: a chemist. An attractive woman is selecting an item from the shelf. A man walks in confidently, looks around, and then walks up to her in a decisive manner).

Man: I hope you saved some Kotex menstrual blood for me.

obv

I can't really picture John Cusack in an 1980s movie following any of the ten 10 tips posted above. Therefore, the tips must be bogus.

"what would John Cusack do?" is a good approach to any situation imho.

except maybe acting, depending who you ask.

If Better Off Dead almost taught me anything, it has something to do with dancing hamburgers and getting the foreign exchange student.

http://i253.photobucket.com/albums/hh73/jadda79/stern.jpg
Got turkey? GOT TURKEY? got Turkey? GOT turkey. Got TURKEY.

http://i13.tinypic.com/86hx09e.jpg

that's enough to make ANYTHING lose interest.

http://files.dmusic.com/music/h/a/halfdeaf/soooooo.jpg

"One's looking this way, the other one's looking that way..."
"And this guy's saying 'Whaddya want from me?'"

One for the Ladies!!

"8 Surprising Turn-Ons for Men"

. Baseball Caps

... But no matter what team we root for, we like a baseball cap the most when it's worn by a woman.

Seeing the dirt, mud, sweat, and occasional road rash is something that stokes our primal side.

Baseball caps? Fuck off. (x-post x 2)

put a pony tail through the back of a cap and it does NOT get any sexier than that !!!

I hate when women wear Baseball Caps, and any guy who likes girls who wear Baseball Caps, is probably a "Switch Hitter" himself. lol.

"As editor in chief of Men's Health, I am a gigantic douchebag."

baseball hats on anyone older than 23 are a bad idea.

They missed "working out." I love to watch a cute girl working out and sweating on the machines. They make these faces that are so cute, yet sexy.

Holy shit, I didn't even read closely enough to see that he's editor-in-chief at Men's Health

I'm sorry but I find plain white panties a little sexier than boxer shorts on a woman. I would've made the point that it doesn't always need to be a thong to be sexy-- plain, realistic underwear is sexy too.

"realistic"

COMINIG FROM A MAN, THIS PIECE IS A REAL PIECE OF S--T. ARE YOU SURE THE AUTHOR DOESN'T GO THE OTHER WAY????

Ok, I'm done here. I got kinda carried away.

Still, we appreciate it.

I dunno, it's a sad commentary in all directions that my greatest source of amusement these days is yahoo comments pages

I would like to see a stage show of people reading this stuff aloud, in approximate character...

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I don't think that Yahoo will be around that long, LJ.

30. Posted by AmsterdamVipTours.com on Wed, Oct 10, 2007, 11:10 am PDT

Very intersting comments. I agree!

i love when articles are about "surprising" turn-ons for men. surprise, men are turned on by just about everything

61. Posted by jasmineonyx on Wed, Oct 10, 2007, 11:11 am PDT

Wow...balanced comments; u read my mind & heart...now i understand why my husband finds me sexy when i feel so unattractive after working out, or trimming a bush, or trying to jokingly run away from him when i am 9 months pregnant and realize i only moved one foot!

I know...I somehow resisted posting that one.

30. Posted by AmsterdamVipTours.com on Wed, Oct 10, 2007, 11:10 am PDT

Very intersting comments. I agree!

NAthaniel is moving up in the world.

ok about ten pages in and we're still only five minutes away from the article posting :(

149. Posted by Doug on Wed, Oct 10, 2007, 11:14 am PDT

Lemme get this straight, if Queen Elizabeth wore a baseball cap instead of one of the goofy hats that she and a lot of Brits wear, she'd be sexy!? Don't think so, bub. While hats don't detract from a woman's looks anywhere near as much as a tattoo does, they don't "kewt up" a woman any.

So basically, this is all a genius move on Yahoo's part, I guess. Hire people to write dumbass columns, and then the resulting flood of user comments guarantees enough site-hits to cancel out whatever damage has been done by people defecting to gmail, not to mention the ill-fated results of yahoo's other recent additions to their site

xpost, hah, I saved that one for a Britisher...heh-heh

I'm trying to remember if I've ever seen anyone in Britain wear one of Queen Elizabeth's hats besides Queen Elizabeth.

I don't think so, bub.

Actually the only person I can imagine wearing one is Andrew F...!

166. Posted by Jessica on Wed, Oct 10, 2007, 11:15 am PDT

Why do we even bother reading these things? Each partner wants unique traits in their match, some men like sexy underwear, others like boxers, others like their women completely NAKED!!! Whatever woman is reading this, don't try to change yourself into what you think a man will like. A man should like you for you and be attracted to how YOU are.

That's really going to help all the girls who smell like moldy bacon.

now i understand why my husband finds me sexy when i feel so unattractive after working out, or trimming a bush

Well, indeed.

I hope you bumped some thread for me.

I find the most attractive part of a woman is the boobies.

I will never know which of the shampoos is sexy how can I make 12.5% of surprising turn-ons occur?

t/s: baseball caps vs trucker hats

i love when articles are about "surprising" turn-ons for men. surprise, men are turned on by just about everything

-- bell_labs, Wednesday, 9 January 2008 22:11 (3 months ago) Link

^^^

I hope you bookmarked this thread for me.

"I hope you saved some turkey for me."!?!?!

I like how in context it's even more ludicrous.

My favorite seduction suggestion is always the "women like arrogance and a sense of humor, so try light sarcasm and acting casually rude to her" type that always cameos in lists like these. Self-esteem is a woman's weakness, attack it and the intercourse is yours!

http://www.guforums.com/image.php?u=6260&dateline=1188935634

"If I said you had a beautiful body would you take off your pants and dance around a little?"

I think I just heard the sound of keys and cheap change jingling as dozens of jeans just dropped to the floor.

Zapp's the man for any occasion, ladies!

"166. Posted by Jessica on Wed, Oct 10, 2007, 11:15 am PDT

Why do we even bother reading these things? Each partner wants unique traits in their match, some men like sexy underwear, others like boxers, others like their women completely NAKED!!! Whatever woman is reading this, don't try to change yourself into what you think a man will like. A man should like you for you and be attracted to how YOU are."

Nudity is definitely a trait I look for in a match.

"What I really liked about her right away when I met her was that she was naked."

Looking for dates in a female locker room: classic or dud?

only if you go in and immediately say....

is that some of that pua shit? fuck that.

At least we'll always have turkey. (breakup hints, obv)

About the original "10 tips..." post, I mean it sounds kind of duh and all but (hilarious wtf pick up lines aside) I actually think it's pretty good advice (when used in a non-creepy PUA kind of way).

So you like turkey, huh?

"Nice turkey. Is it real?"

No, seriously, advice like "Don't look crepey" is awesome and necessary.

WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU MEAN YOU DIDN'T SAVE ANY TURKEY FOR ME???

MAYBE YOU SHOULD HAVE SAVED ME SOME TURKEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEY!

lolling @ so many posts itt

Is the turkey GOOD HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEERE?

It even has it's own facebook page, that phrase...

Make your comment immediate to the situation and it will seem perfectly natural. No matter where you are, there is always something interesting to comment on.

"Are sure that's the dress your mom wanted to buried in?"

― HI DERE, Thursday, December 20, 2007 4:18 PM (3 years ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

I always thought this said "Are you sure that's the dress your mom wanted you to be buried in?" It's a very different statement read correctly.

accusing her of something like “I hope you saved some turkey for me”

omg this thread, I forgot all about it. I'm dying.

(its ok tho I saved you all some turkey)

that's a nice turkey. it'd look great on my bedroom floor!

hmm wait....

Make your comment immediate to the situation and it will seem perfectly natural. No matter where you are, there is always something interesting to comment on.

"Are sure that's the dress your mom wanted to buried in?"

― HI DERE, Thursday, December 20, 2007 4:18 PM (3 years ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

I always thought this said "Are you sure that's the dress your mom wanted you to be buried in?" It's a very different statement read correctly.

Can someone render that statement correctly, plz?

from August 2008...
I Hope You Saved Some Turkey For Me

what goes on in this kitchen is none of your business

WELL MAYBE YOU SHOULDN'T BE SAVING TURKEY HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEERE!!!

"fuck me if I'm wrong, but did you buy that turkey for me?"

from August 2008...
I Hope You Saved Some Turkey For Me

― wtf is wrong with people? (snoball), Sunday, June 12, 2011 8:09 AM (2 days ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

I am so happy about this.